No. Health/medical concerns. Even if legal. Even if money is a non-issue.
No kids, but nieces, some of whom have gotten a bit mixed up in drugs.
I was around it a bit in my high school years, but coming from a very anti-drug background, I never really tried it until I was out from under my parents’ thumb and started questioning everything that they told me.
I have two concerns about drug use in teens/early twenties.
The first is that it is fun. It is addictive in the way that anything enjoyable is addictive. Even if there is no physical addiction, you still have the opportunity cost of your time and money going into drugs rather than something more productive. In moderation, this may not be a problem, but drugs ar one of those things that some people struggle to do in moderation.
The second is legal consequences. I had friends that were not able to get student loans of financing, because they had a drug charge on their record. They also had quite a bit of difficulty renting an apartment. The drug charge itself is usually not that severe, rarely will you spend time in jail over mere possession, but it can still really mess up your life.
Oh, hell no I would not like it or be happy about it. I know, however that I can make sure my teenage daughter is knowledgeable about what’s out there. The bottom line though, is that she’s going to make her own decisions especially as she gets older, she’s 16 now. In a few years I really won’t get to have too much influence. She’s a smart kid, so I hope she continues to make smart choices. That said, I will always frown upon drug use.
Absolutely no. Not with the addiction problem in our family. I feel like if you don’t feel well enough to not do drugs on a regular basis, perhaps you need a doctor, not a dealer. The cherry on top is my cousin, whose parents clearly condoned his drug use, dead as hell last week with heroin and coke in his system. Yeah, I’m still mad as fuck about it.
your son, a late teens - early 20’s kid whose employed & also enrolled in school & doing well, hangs out with some friends, presumably smokes a little pot & ends up arriving home 30 minutes later than you planned?
holy shit! man ohh man, I’m hoping the intervention you surely scheduled went well, cause he was way out of line.
much later than that I’d expect his bags to be packed & out front.
i can’t fathom a kid wanting to hang out with his much less uptight, same age buddies & maybe play some video games or chill with some females or something similar versus rush home to meet up with his drill sargent.
You’re receiving a warning for being a jerk. You can, I presume, make your feelings on the subject of the OP known without attacking the thread and/or everyone you choose to address in it. If you can’t, you shouldn’t return to this one.
I went through university not too long ago. Not only did I never do drugs, I almost never saw it. Almost certainly some people were relaxing with marijuana, or abusing prescription medication, or even abusing harder drugs, but I felt no pressure at all to consume any drug other than caffeine or alcohol.
They don’t sound extremely anti-drug. They just sound controlling. They gave you a bunch of conditions, but… you’re an adult. Your parents can’t control what you do or who you hang out with (although if they’re paying for your schooling, in practice they do have a lot of control).
Having said that, their request sounds more than reasonable, especially the part about avoiding injections (who wants an infection?). I would still avoid even the “softer” drugs. It’s not like you can prove those shrooms, ecstasy, or what not are pure and certified by the FDA or national equivalent rather than being mixed with something else or even consist of some other substance entirely. (Are those really E pills?)
I’ve read well-researched horror stories about ecstasy in particular, and twice saw people who had “overdosed” on it (not to the point of being in medical danger, but obviously not acting right).
I would tell you that you are an idiot if you do drugs of any kind. Period.
I never understood the desire to do drugs of any kind (or to get drunk, for that matter.) I don’t get the appeal - even if it was completely legal, I wouldn’t want to indulge, and I’d hate it if my daughter wanted to smoke or snort or whatever else one does with drugs.
Just this past summer, one of my cousins OD’d and died - everyone thought she was getting clean, and then she was dead. I just don’t get it.
I would never be okay with any of my children using drugs, with the lone exception probably being medicinal marijuana for severe pain.
if he’s living with them they can give him the boot.
I would prefer my children not use recreational drugs. Especially addictive ones (including booze) because there are addiction problems in the family, and there’s a strong genetic component to drug addiction.
That being said, if my kids spend their own money on the drugs, don’t get in any trouble to do so, and it doesn’t interfere with their studies or other important functioning, how would I even know?
My son does drink more than I’d like, but so far he has been very responsible about it, and that is legal. So, you know, I accept it. He’s an adult, he gets to decide these things.
Wow. would you mind me asking what drugs they were charged for? Were they the buyers or dealers?
Yeah, he WAS way out of line because he drove while stoned. And he didn’t arrive 30 minutes later than I planned, he arrived 30 minutes later because he drove around stoned for 30 minutes and couldn’t remember his way home.
Sarcasm works a lot better when you know what you’re mocking.
Not seeing their names on the mortgage and I’m not seeing and money to help pay for that mortgage. Not that I have anything to worry about since my daughters saw how drugs (starting with marijuana then getting worse and worse) ruined the life of their half-brother.
Wow. Those “60s” are sure gone.
Depends on the drugs. Drugs can be dangerous.
If it were dissociatives, hallucinogens or marijuana I’d probably be ok with it. But amphetamines, benzos or opiates would concern me whether it was paid for by them or not.
Drugs help manage negative psychological experiences like loneliness, boredom and psychological pain. Also when they become physically addictive, you start having to take them to avoid the physical discomfort of withdrawal.
Thats drug use in a nutshell.
There are positive aspects to drugs though. Some can be used in social settings (alcohol, amphetamines, etc) to enhance social interactions. Some can be used to break through psychological limitations (hallucinogens or DMT are used for this).
But for the most part, drugs are used to manage and avoid negative mental experiences and try to replace them with positive ones. Of course thats obvious, but thats why they’re so popular. A lot of people are bored or in psychic pain.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YPNz372_pIQNo biological children but -------- no.
Where is 20 a teen?