I mentioned this in the married name thread & was surprised at the response. I don’t want to continue the hijack, so here’s a new thread.
My sister’s huband has 3 younger sisters. A few years ago the middle one worked as a stripper for a while. I don’t remember exactly how long, probably a year (+/- 6 months). She was in her early 20s at the time. From what I know it was in your typical shabby bar environment - she wasn’t a Vegas showgirl or anything.
I could tell you more about what makes the family dysfunctional (there’s a LOT of material to work with), but perhaps it’s not germane to the discussion.
What I found shocking and inappropriate is that their Mom decided the best way to approach the situation was to bring the whole family to a “performance” as a show of support (my BIL didn’t go).
Mine either. But if she had, I think the situation would either be totally and pointedly ignored, or she would be screamed at by our mother and then cut off. I certainly would not go see her get naked. That’s just icky.
Tolerant and accepting? Sure. And if she were interested at all, I’d go watch a show and lend moral support. While the activity might be distasteful to some, it’s legal and it involves consenting adults.
I wouldn’t be ashamed - I think it’s a shitty profession, but nothing to be ashamed of (not like telemarketing ). I’ve had friends who’ve danced for the money, the good work hours (four hours of work a night and all day free to go to class) and even a sense of empowerment and conquering their sexual issues. But I wouldn’t drag the family to see her dance because
A) eeew. I wouldn’t wanna see my older sis strip, thank you. and
B) I’d be afraid I’d embarrass her, distract her, kill her tips for the night or all of the above.
C) I don’t think Opal wants to be mentioned here.
Still, it’s a better response than kicking her out, which I’ve seen happen far too often.
That this last part should have been up to each family member, individually, to decide upon, after direct, on-the-level conversation with the sister. Rather than group-organized.
Like phouka said, I would not be “proud”, but not ashamed or condemnatory either, if a relative of mine is doing this freely and assuming full responsibility for her actions. I’d certainly be discreet about it – and my supportiveness would surely have a strong undercurrent of meanwhile-lemme-help-ya-find-a-better-job(or at least a classier gig).
Several of my students became strippers after high school. I’ve also had one who was a stripper while in high school. Made for interesting times for the Work Experience teacher, who is supposed to check out the workplaces of students getting credit. :eek:
I dont currently have a sister, she died in 1965 from leukemia, but I woudnt mind if my brother was a chippendales [or whoever the male strippers are that tour around]
Last I saw last summer at the beach, he is pretty buff for a 45 year old=) Heavy labor must be good for building a body without it getting all yucky bulgy like Ahnold
I wouldn’t be proud necessarily, but I wouldn’t be ashamed either. I’d hope she was at a good club at least. I wouldn’t want to go see her perform though, as I’ve got no desire to watch any women doing that, much less my own sister.
As a stripper, no, but everybody does distasteful stuff for a living: I wouldn’t hold it against her, even if it is about 2nd to last on the legal professions I have respect for. I second that I have less respect for telemarketers.
But if my sister were a prostitute, and made just as much money as you can make as a good stripper (as opposed to being a drug-addled street girl,) I’d have more respect for her than if she were a stripper. Something about strippers, and Hooters girls and the like, just seems, I don’t know how to put it, but that feeling isn’t there as much with prostitutes.
Well, I did wander into a random strip club 300 miles from home one night to find my cousin working. Luckily, my cousin was male and he was working as a bouncer, else that might have been just a bit more weird then it already was.
). I’ve had friends who’ve danced for the money, the good work hours (four hours of work a night and all day free to go to class) and even a sense of empowerment and conquering their sexual issues. But I wouldn’t drag the family to see her dance because