The concurrent threadregarding bachelor parties got me thinking about strippers and lap dancers.
Would you be hurt if you found out your daughter was a stripper?
No. She’d only be taking after her dad…
But does your mother go to college?
This sounds like the worst “Choose Your Own Adventure” title EVER!
Not really. I’d have a long talk with her to touch on those things that we’d discussed years before, but ultimately, she’s my daughter-not my property. If that’s what she chooses to do, that’s her right.
You’ve just found out your daughter is a stripper.
If this makes you upset, turn to page 6.
If you respect her career choicse, turn to page 12.
If you excitedly get your drinking buddies together, go to one of her shows, and make sure you get a front row seat, turn to page 40.
As long as she isn’t doing drugs and being manhandled, I say go for it. You only have that body for so long and then the metabolism stops.
But, I draw the line at tattoos or peircings. Nudity and sexuality is ok. Permanant pictures on the body is a souvenier of who you were at that age…for the rest of your life…nada.
Yes, I am conflicted.
Myself and the Exwife have already pretty much figured out that our daughter is going to end up doing that at some point in her life.
As long as she’s not doing it for the wrong reasons, and is still in charge of her life at that point, so be it.
What daughter?
I no longer have a daughter.
As I remember, this was a question in that “Scruples” board game. (“You find out that your daughter is working in a strip club, and making $2000 a night. What do you do?”)
I think my answer was “Two thousand bucks a night? I’d ask her if the club would hire me, too.” 
It’ll be a long time until I have kids, if I ever do, but it would be okay with me, as long as
- she’s doing it because she enjoys it and is not being taken advantage of, etc.
- she has a financially solid plan for once she stops stripping–which will almost definitely happen before she’s got enough money to retire. In particular, I would strongly suggest that she get a college degree while still on my dime so that she’s got that out of the way in case she needs it later on. Ultimately I couldn’t keep her from starting right out of HS, but I wouldn’t be at all comfortable with it at that point.
Damn! Did I log on to “Planet Bizzaro” today? :dubious:
Hell, yeah, I’d have a problem with it. Or more specificaly I’d be seriously hurt. I’d like to think I could raise my daughter better than that. That’s just on step above being a prostitute.
disclaimer: I know some parents do an absoute perfact job raising their kids and they wind up doing this anyway. But still, I’d be hurt.
I would feel that I failed in some way.
Either financially, morally, or ethically. Or all the above.
I bartend; I have had stripper regulars. One of my best friends used to manage strip clubs for years.
Those stories you hear about strippers working their way through college or law school and going on to lead fabulous enriched lives…yeah, they happen. Of course they do. Some people hit the lotto, strike it rich in Vegas, etc.
But every job leaves it marks and stripping as a profession, even for a “little while,” (because girls rarely start out thinking it’s going to go on for a while) leaves some pretty ugly marks. The money is absurd, it comes in very quickly, and you’re at an age where you really have no clue. And you are generally surrounded with unscrupulous people.
And in my experience it does have a tendency to leave women “spoiled,” for a lack of a better word, for “normal work.” How else can an 18-year-old highschool dropout make a grand a night? And how can you expect her to care about moving on with her life when she’s making that kind of money at that age?
If my (presently nonexistent) daughter were to become a stripper she would probably never know the extent to which it broke my heart, but I can’t see how it wouldn’t.
I wouldn’t have a problem with it at all…provided I was allowed to stand at the entrance with a shotgun to make sure that any people found to be unsavory (by me of course) were denied entrance.
This is the National Aerospace Museum isn’t it?
aims shotgun
Son, you’re about to experience a very short flight.
I have a 5 month old daughter now, so I thought I’d weigh in. I would probably not like it, but if she was not doing drugs, engaging in prostitution or in an abusive situation; IOW, if it was a healthy and happy situation, I might could live with it. But let’s get real; for many women who get into stripping, it’s not a healthy and happy situation. There are certainly exceptions, though, I’m sure.
If there are any guys here who DON’T have a problem with it. . .you haven’t been to the strip clubs I have.
If there are any women here who don’t have a problem with it. . .it’s because you’re ill-informed – probably by your husbands – of what goes on in a strip club.
I’m sure someone will come along and tell me about those “nice” strip clubs where the girls just dance on a bar with their tops off and pasties on while true gentlemen throw tons of money at them from a safe distance. . .not the ones where $20 gets you a hand job through your pocket, and maybe a feel up her skirt. . .not the ones where $15 in a private booth gets her grinding up and down on it for the duration of a song. . .not the ones where she’s buck naked 1 foot away with her ass and bits up in the air right in front of 3 guys trying to make her crawl around for singles. . .all this so she can pay the strip club $120 at the end of the night for the priviledge of letting her go through this.
I have a daughter, and I’d have a huge problem with her becoming a stripper. I can’t even articulate all the many ways that would upset me.
I’m surprised at all the understanding, tolerant people here. That’s very big of you (no sarcasm at all), but yes, I’d have a HUGE problem with any daughter of mine stripping.
I want my daughter to be sexually uninhibited and find a guy (or many guys - who knows?) that are also. I want her to enjoy a healthy, happy sex life. I don’t want to curb her, or force her to conform to monogamy, or think she has to wait until marriage to have sex, or anything else…I want her to feel sex is just another part of life.
However, I don’t think being paid for sexual acts is going to contribute to it! I know someone’s gotta do it, but…jeez, not my girl.