Would you be disappointed.
Would you attempt to dissuade her.
I’m of the opinion that while I do not hold anything immoral against prostitution, that the entire enterprise is fraught with negative social outcomes, both for the girl, often young, and the john often married.
Would I be disappointed? Yea, but in myself, not her. I’d definitely try to talk her out of it. I still think it should be legal for any adult to be a prostitute if they’re doing so on their own free will, but since my sister started turning tricks, I haven’t liked the idea of a family member being one.
I’d straight up disown her. Keep in mind this is coming from an 18 year old non parent, and if I thought on it I probably wouldnt have such a quick negative reaction. My first thought, however, is that to get that low she must have made some seriously poor choices prior to her taking up of the new profession, and that I would probably already be unhappy with her.
19 year old here, not a parent. I would be extremely worried and try to get her help. With prostitution illegal in 49 states, it strikes me as something that someone would only do because they were very desperate. I know there are some sex workers who enjoy what they do, but I feel they are a small minority. Like Mr. Accident, the only person I would be disappointed in and ashamed of would be myself, for failing to see that my daughter was dealing with serious problems and didn’t feel that she could turn to me.
I have a daughter who’s 15, almost 16. My reasons for liking it or not depend on the reasons. If it’s because she’s a junkie and needs cash for her habit, or thinks she’s worthless and thinks she can’t do any better, then yes I’m against it. If it’s because she knows some clientele, or thinks it’s fun and an easy way to make money for now, or treats it like any other job then yes I’m for it.
I said “extremely upset,” but really, it depends. If she were on the street turning tricks for her next heroin fix, I’d flip out. Not because of the prostitution itself, but because it’s so dangerous. Then I’d try to help her out, pay for rehab, whatever. If it’s in a more controlled environment where she’s protected and gets regular health check-ups, I’d be okay with it. It’d probably be a bit squicky thinking about her having sex with strange dudes, but that’d be my problem, not hers. She is, presumably, an adult. (Though if she wasn’t, then I’d flip out no matter WHERE she was working.)
It’d be about the same as finding out that my (hypothetical) son was a drug dealer. I’d be more upset about the potential threat to his safety than to the drugs themselves.
I voted “PArent, OK with it”, but this presumes her being a $1000/hr courtesan who gets to choose her own clients and accompanies them to the Met and fancy restaurants before having mutually orgasmic sex on silk sheets in penthouse apartments. Basically, a Companion.
Otherwise, I’d be neutral, which wasn’t a poll option. I’ve had friends who had sex for money, it’s not necessarily bad. It’s a living like any other, if you’re not hung up on sex.
I might be unhappy about other things, like the decreasing possibility of her getting her PhD, the physical risks involved, but the actual sex for money thing isn’t something I have a moral problem with.
I call my niece “the little field marshal”; Singlebro tells Marriedbro to get her into politics as soon as feasible based on how she behaves; it would seem like such a terrible waste…
My response would be similar for her brother, although I don’t think his potential is as high as hers. I know my own experiences with having people try to force/coerce me into prostitution and the conversations with women who were forced into it color my notions on the subject, but I’d be suspect of anybody who claims it’s “just another job”. No it’s not, nobody threatens with beating you or makes you have a hysterectomy to be a factory worker.
Well, there’s strata of this sort of thing, isn’t there. If she’s smart and safe and is making a genuine choice, I’m okay with it. If she’s hooking out of desperation and in danger while she does it, I’d be horrified rather than disappointed, but I definitely wouldn’t be keen.
I’m also not a parent, so I’m approximating a reaction based on imagining a close friend or relative in the same situation.
My answer has a little to do with this. If she’s 19 and has just taken it up, I’d be livid and do everything in my power to stop her.
If she’s 35, sober, has a happy life in general, and is just now admitting to me that she hasn’t paid off her house and built up a $2 million IRA by working for the phone company over the last 14 years, I’d probably grudgingly accept it.