Would You Donate Sperm/Egg To An Infertile Doper Couple?

In My Humble Opinion (IMHO)
#1

That’s it – guys, let’s say there was a doper/dopers who were dealing with infertility issues and needed a sperm donor, and they posted here asking for someone in our community to donate. Would you?

Female dopers – if the same situation called for it, would you be an egg donor?

Notes:

  1. 100% Purely hypothetical question.
  2. I’d appreciate it if we could go light on the jokes here, at least for a little while (I know, I know, but c’mon – this one is really fish in a barrel).
#2

I personally would not because I have severe scoliosis and it can run in families. If it weren’t for that, sure- why not? I’m not using my eggs. As long as they paid for the harvest, it’s a reasonably low risk procedure as far as I’m aware.

#3

Female, and no.

  • If I’m not on oral contraceptives, I have excruciating menstrual cramps that last for the duration of my period, or close to it.
  • In the last few years, I’ve started getting menstrually-linked migraines - much worse than my usual migraines, and one every day of my period. Thus I’m now on continuous oral contraceptives. I’m loath to think what I would be like off of the pill and on extra hormones; I’d probably be looking for a gun to just end the pain.
  • My genetics are less than ideal, to say the least.
  • There’s the issue of child support concerns that might come up.
#4

No, I would not donate eggs. A few years ago, I would have thought about it, but from what I have heard about the process, it is a nightmare of pain, hormones and trouble. It isn’t quite like what the guys go through! :slight_smile:

#5

I would donate semen with certain conditions:

I got to know them personally first.

I had some rights vis-a-vis the child. That is, the child knows who I am.

#6

As it stands, I am too old to donate eggs. If I were younger, yes. I’m just wasting them and if it would help someone who really wanted a child to have one, why not?

Assuming there is no possible way I would a) ever have to pay child support, or b) have to raise a child.

#7

Nope. Maybe for a friend of mine who I knew personally, but not random people from one of the many message boards I belong to.

EDIT: Nah, not at all, if child support could even possibly come up down the line. But being a Doper wouldn’t affect my decision one way or another.

#8

Yes I would, if they were okay with accepting eggs from a obese person with a history of depression and anxiety disorders.

Not exactly selling it, am I? :smiley:

#9

Female, and yes, under a few conditions:
*Some degree of financial compensation.
*Legal guarantee that I would not have any financial obligation to the child
*A clear agreement that I would not be a part of the child’s life - I would not be Auntie NinjaChick.
*The couple in question paid, in full, all medical and travel expenses incurred
I’m never going to have kids of my own; if the opportunity presented itself I’d at least let my reproductive system earn a bit of cash.

ETA - Whether or not they’re a doper would be pretty much irrelevant. If someone met those conditions, sure. I figure the chances of anyone wanting my genes are pretty minimal, though.

#10

They can have as much of my sperm as they want. I make a lot more than I need, anyway. But they have to understand that there’s a higher-than-normal chance their kid will be gay.

#11

Funny, I would require the opposite. Total anonymity.

#12

No, because it’s my genetic material and I want to be able to choose a father and only pass on my genes with someone I feel is optimal for merging DNA with. I would never surrogate either, not even for my sister.

#13

Thinking back to GFactor’s recent article about child support, I don’t think that there’s any way to get a guarantee of no financial obligation.

I’m dead broke, but looking over the precedents he mentioned in his articles leaves me thinking it’s still too much to risk.

Male, FWIW

#14

I’m too old to be allowed to. Otherwise, probably. When the procedure first came off, I considered it (my reservations about becoming a parent aren’t about genetic quality), but having to spend four days in a hospital was totally incompatible with my study-500-hr-a-week college.

#15

I would for a close friend or relative, but it sounds like a major pain in the ass, so strangers would be out. I wouldn’t surrogate for anyone.

#16

Like A.R. Cane, I would donate sperm only under the exact opposite conditions.

#17

Ditto

#18

Yes, I would if I wasn’t ancient already. I’d also donate my uterus.

#19

Female, and no I wouldn’t.

#20

I’m too old to donate eggs and I have a genetic blood disease. But hey, if they are willing to risk it, why not?