So, this morning walking into my office there was a young woman sitting on a bench-y/sofa-y type piece of furniture hunched over her books studying (I work on a university campus).
Basically, 3/4 of her ass was showing. She was a bigger girl and it was a LOT of ass exposed - this will be relevant in a moment.
Sometimes you see this with jeans and I just always assume that the woman can’t help it (jeans being somewhat unstretchy); however, this gal was wearing more of a yoga-pant type set up. I have yoga-pants - they’re really stretchy and I feel (based on the way her butt was exposed) that she could have adjusted her pants and shirt to cover things up a bit better.
So, I walked on and said nothing. Based on how much skin was exposed (see above) and how drafty it is in the campus hallways, I can’t imagine how she couldn’t have felt 3/4 of her ass, including at least 6 inches of crack exposed. Therefore, she must be doing it on purpose and if I were to comment she would have been angry or offended (or something).
I wouldn’t have said anything. I hate having my ass hanging out with a burning passion, but apparently young women like it just fine, so I would have assumed she was doing it on purpose.
ETA: I thought this was going to be a story like I saw walking to work many years ago. A young lady on the other side of the street from me was walking with a backpack and a skirt on (and other clothes). Her backpack had rucked her skirt up so her undies were showing - I wanted to tell her, but she was too far away and moving too fast. I do always check what my backpack is doing now, though.
I would not have said anything. I just assume that if there is anything resembling the slightest breeze she’d be able to feel it and would have the presence of mind to realize her ass is showing and if she doesn’t do anything about it she knows and either doesn’t care or wants to show off.
Since I am male, anything I say about a woman’s attire is almost certainly wrong, or will be taken that way.
That said, I was raised in a different time, when even hookers didn’t dress as trashily as some young women seem to do, on purpose, today. So I would look away as quickly as I could, but I would probably not be able to hide the negative feelings that I would have from seeing anyone dressed that way. If someone were walking towards me at the same time they would probably see the look on my face, and look around to find the cause of it.
In situations like this, I am reminded of Robert Burns:
“O wad some Power the giftie gie us
To see oursels as ithers see us!”
I would also be tempted, if I had the ability, to take a photo and post it to the giant video board that would be right in front of her (if I had my way).
Roddy
I’m sure I would have just kept on walking and said nothing. Like others have said, she couldn’t possibly not feel the breeze.
I would have also been thinking about what I *wish *I would say, “Excuse me, do you know everyone can see your asshole? Your actual asshole? I can see the hole in your ass where poop comes out!”
Or take a picture and show it to her. “Hey, this is you, right now. Did you know?”
Well, to be fair to the gal, her clothing wasn’t really trashy - it was just yoga wear; however, her pants were hitched down on one side of her bum almost to where they were touching the chair she was on, and the top on that side was hitched up a bit - the other side was fine which is why I thought it may have been accidental; however, there was still a LOT of bum showing and I can’t imagine how she didn’t feel it.
“I see London, I see France, I see Asscrackistan!”
Ok, so I don’t say that to everybody. But I do say it to my friends who need to hike the pantalones. Even with jeans, I think an exposed ass means you either need a belt, to buy a different size of pants or possibly both.
I’m not totally heartless, though, I understand that if your arms are full or what have you, you may not be able to immediately fix the problem.
Do unto others as you would…so I would not want anyone to comment on my crack, however, I would also not do unto others by subjecting them to my crack.
Once a coworker was bent over for a long time. Her crack was all in my face and visible to all in the vicinity. I didn’t know what to do because I didn’t want her to be embarrassed. So I let myself be embarrassed for her.
One of the young women who works out on the plant floor where I work has a crack problem. She’s heavy and wears skin tight low rise jeans, I assume, under her belly. She usually wears a long tee shirt or sweat shirt that keeps everything covered. That is, until she has to bend over. :eek:
I’ve actually thought about saying something to her supervisor, but being a (fairly young) guy, I really don’t know how he’d handle it.
I voted say nothing, as the OP said that it was where it wouldn’t frighten children and she was bound to be aware of it.
and she was bound to be aware of it.