Would you have told?

In My Humble Opinion
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Bricker, I’m sure you appreciate the distinction between YOU telling your bride (i.e. honesty) and someone ELSE doing the telling.

And I warmly and lovingly respect a relationship based on full honesty and disclosure. But the implication that smootching ANYONE at a bachelorette party is a cause for ruffled feathers just boggles my mind. It’s a celebration! Joy! Love! Affection in abundance! Happy people spread happiness!

The atmosphere of fear and betrayal that accompanies the suggestion of physical affection outside the bounds of imminent matrimony is disturbing. Are we really that insecure? Is it wise to constrain ourselves so rigidly?

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No, I wouldn’t tell. It would be one thing if she was carrying on an affair behind her fiance’s back. That would be a major betrayal of trust and augur ill for their future marriage. But it wasn’t that. She got drunk and kissed some schlub at her bachelorette party. To me that says “my last kiss with someone who is not my husband,” not “I’m going to go have sex with this stranger now!” or “I’m a big fat slut who secretly hates my fiance!”