Would you stay married/involved if your SO were Methuselized?

Adjunct question to this thread.

You’re married or otherwise seriously involved. Your spouse/SO catches an unknown virus, and gradually you both come to realize that your spouse is no longer aging.

What’s your reaction?

I’d be doing everything I could to catch me some of that. Otherwise, I adore my husband, and of course we’d stay together.

I literally can’t think of one single reason why her being forever 33 would cause me to even consider leaving my wife. I don’t think I understand the question.

Like a few people in the other thread, that strikes me as a winning deal. I hate, hate, hate the idea of outliving my wife (though I don’t expect to for several reasons), so the idea of her being young forever works for me.

On the OTHER hand (and not really in answer to your question), I wonder if I am being consistent here. I don’t want to live forever myself.

I can think of several reasons why people, especially men, would consider it. Fear of being left behind, for one thing. Assuming you are your wife are the same age, are you confident that she’ll want to be with you 40 years hence, when you’re getting decripit and she’s still at her prime?

I would love that for him. I still think of him as 28 like when we met, but I know he worries about aging and wishes he’d started some things sooner out of fear he’s already past his peak. :frowning:

It would be awkward though to have the disparity in aging and it would sort of throw our plan of both dying together in our 80s (slipping together while having sex in the shower, out like lights, or simultaneous massive strokes/heart attacks in bed–as I age, this sounds the better option) out the window.

That’s what I love about these high school girls, man.

Great! Someone who is contractually obligated to change my Depends! I smell a win!

Since I’m already in love with her, I’m probably not going to up and leave. But I can see having cause for concern as I got older. I’d probably start to get paranoid over time and wonder if she were just waiting for me to die so she could move on to someone younger who could keep up with her. I’d wonder if she were openly keeping an eye out for the next possible suitor since she’d obviously have tons of life left for other relationships. I’d start to feel like I was “the one for now” instead of “the one.”

I think it would become very difficult after a while to feel like an equal partner in a relationship where there was such a tremendous discrepancy in anticipated lifespan.

Damn, he’s already 20 years younger than I am. Now you’re telling me I keep getting older and he doesn’t?

As of this Friday, our ages are 45 and 65.

In 10 years, 45 and 75.

In 20 years, 45 and 85.

I can see where this is heading, and it’s not pretty.

I’d tell him to forget about retirement and get the heck back to work. Also to cash in his life insurance policy.

Assuming jsgoddess meant a scenario like I did in the previous thread, your hubby/SO can still get hit by a bus, mugger’s bullet, or meteorite.

Okay, so we’ll keep the life insurance. He’s still going to go out and get a job, dammit.

ETA: I think after a certain age you can still collect Social Security no matter how much you earn, so double bonus!

How old is your hubby? I don’t think the OP says anything about the mutant Methuselah getting any younger or more, just that s/he stops aging. That’s a good deal at 25 or even 40, but at 60 or 70 it is somewhat less so.

So… leave now to avoid being left later? Sounds like the un-reasoning behind not asking the lady out because she’s “out of your league”, instead of letting her decide what league you’re in.

I didn’t say it was my position.

I’d be okay with my wife remaining young indefinitely. She’s a lot younger than I am anyway; I anticipate her outliving me by a good amount.

Where do I sign up?

[daemonic bureacrat hat]

I can make this happen. The usual price. I’ll send someone over with the paperwork.

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No one who’s either read Ghost Rider or played any D&D would be fool enough to take that deal.

“He did not die… of the cancer.” --Mephisto

Well, we’ve been married over 40 years so that will give you a clue. But if he’s not going to age any more, presumably all body parts, including the cardiac one that he’s had some trouble with, will not get any worse. I’d keep him just as he is for as long as possible.