Wow, being a nice guy sucks.

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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I did an experiment once, after being dumped by a girl I loved, who ran into the arms of a Neanderthal who worked construction, swilled gallons of beer, bathed infrequently and whose idea of a good time was going out, getting drunk and pounding on someone.

I decided not to be a nice guy.

I got more PUSSY that I could almost not handle!! Yeah, PUSSY, because that is what it was. Period. That is what I went after and that is what I got. I spent my time in bars and in strip clubs and I was not all that interested in listening to anyone’s problems, worries or needs. I wanted to get laid. I used and abused and I got LAID! I turned down invitations from chicks to come over for a nice chat and instead went out with my friends to get drunk, find PUSSY and pick up prostitutes.

I had nearly more girlfriends than I could handle, but I could not keep it up. After about two years, I reverted to being a nice guy and they all went away. Besides, none of the chicks I met during that time were anything I thought I might like to marry.

I reverted to a slightly different type of nice guy, with set limits, and met more chicks, but the ones I got interested in screwed me over and either left on their own or I dumped them. Now I figure that most chicks don’t know what the hell they really want or just want someone with a pretty face and great body who could not care all that much about them in the long run. You would be amazed at the number of beautiful chicks I met who were with some guy who was big, great looking, a manly man and who liked to pound on them a lot!!

Then the lovely ladies who were with guys who were big, but with big beer guts, and whose idea of a romantic evening was watching football with the guyz or going out and playing baseball with the guyz or swilling beer with the guyz or going hunting with the guyz or who just liked hanging with the guyz. And they bitched about that, but did not want anyone like me.

I’m the guy who sits by their bed when they are sick and feeds them soup, gives them cards, flowers and encouragement. I’m the guy who listens to how their day went, putting aside my own troubles for them. I’m the guy who puts on his street face and glares at anyone daring to get too familiar with her on the street and who tracks down stalkers. I once camped outside of a girl friends house, armed with a shotgun, to ward off a persistent, ex-boyfriend who would not take no for an answer.

I’m the guy who went into debt paying off her drug bills when she wanted to quit and her dealer threatened her ass over the unpaid balance.

I’m the guy who stopped their suicides in the middle of the night when they called, all hysterical and depressed over some other guy.

I’m the guy who was always there when they needed me at any time of the day or night and who listened well.

I have YET to find any girl who is willing to listen to me when I need a shoulder to lean on.

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Why is it that so many of you equate “nice guy” with “sucker”?

Why would you “loan” money to people who aren’t going to pay you back, and then complain in here that they didn’t pay you back? Either “give” them the money or don’t, but making loans to people who’ll never repay you isn’t a “nice guy” thing to do, it’s a stupid thing to do. If you can’t afford to have the friend take the money and run, don’t lend it. Simple.

I’m not a fan of these nice guy threads. The participants come across as whiney, self-serving, arrogant and egotistical. Plus, there’s that whole female-bashing element, because “all” girls are attracted to bad boys who will treat them like crap and of course it’s got nothing to do with the “nice guys” attraction to needy, immature girls.

Ok, well (your name here) doesn’t seem so bad (chin up, you’re young and things will improve soon), but some of the others who’ve posted to these threads lately… I read their words and I think “No wonder women aren’t interested in you. Get a life”. Women like nice guys. Girls like bad boys. If you stopped pining after girls, you might find a woman who is interested in you.

And Paxil30 - Woman don’t threaten suicide when they break up with boyfriends. They also don’t have unpaid drug bills. If these unstable people are your friends, no wonder you have trouble finding a nice girl who’ll like you for you.

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Another nice guy here. I lend out money without expecting anything in return. I pick up things for people when they drop them. I hold doors for strangers.

But I’ve never been on a date, never had a (meaningful) kiss, none of that stuff, and it doesn’t look like it’s going to change anytime soon.

I, too, have noticed an overwhelming tendency for the assholes to get the chicks. Especially the good-looking assholes.

Well, I had two choices. I could (a) obsess about my appearance and convert to Assholism, or (b) give up.

So I gave up. Nothing to it, just don’t try anymore. I figure if anybody’s interested in me, they’ll let me know. Otherwise, I’m happy being alone, being myself. You can’t finish last if you drop out of the race. Sure, it was a disappointing realization at first, but I’ve gotten over it by learning to like myself. I now live in the knowledge that when the girls mature and the assholes don’t, I’ll be the one with the chicks. :slight_smile: Just hold out for a while…

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Yup. My “nice guy” is in the chair behind me working on his website. I picked him out all by myself. :smiley:

He’s polite to his ex-girlfriend (mother of his children), his mother, and my mother; he does laundry and cooks a mean mac and cheese. He tells me frequently how good my cooking is.

He doesn’t loan money to people but he does help them out with their computers, which is okay; I do the same thing. He brings me a glass of water when I don’t feel like getting out of bed, and I turn off the house lights and lock the door when he doesn’t want to put down the book late at night and do it.

You know, maybe those young women aren’t with those guys BECAUSE they’re jerks. Maybe they’re with them because they’re getting sex out of the deal and don’t want to go through the turmoil of a breakup plus re-training a new guy.

Corr

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Tonight, I got yet another “you seem like a nice guy, but I’ve met someone else.” Of course, he might be a nice guy, too, so I’m not approaching this from the “jerks get more women than nice guys angle.” Just wanted to bitch and moan a little.

:frowning:

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Well I can honestly say that as a teenage girl (15) I don’t feel much towards the assholish sex in pants man. Every boyfriend I have had (ok ok, only two but oh well) has been for personality and what not. My first “love” was my best friend who, though wasn’t the best looking of guys, was in my eyes entirely perfect. He was sweet, witty, funny, and knew Monty Python better than I did. He was friggin wonderful and it was not because of physical appearance.

Now, I’m not going to sit here and say that I don’t find anything appealing about good looking guys, but that isn’t really what matters to me. I’ll look and flirt, but if they aren’t what I want personality-wise then it won’t go farther than that.

Yes, there are girls who base everything on looks, but there are those who don’t. I could very easily say that all teenage guys are looking for is a girl who is willing to put out, but I firmly believe that when there are those who don’t. I also get upset every once in a while because I’m not the prettiest of girls and am not often hit on because of looks. You know what though? When the person does come along that is interested in you, it’s a great feeling to know that it isn’t because of what you look like but because of your personality. At least that makes me happy.

Besides, (your name here), you already know that I want you :wink:

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I give my thanks to most of you. Some of you were rather nasty here, but what can you do. Just so you guys know, I got some more confidence. Oh yeah. Simply, this girl I met last week is in my study hall, and I got enough nerve to write her a note (talking results in the jerkoff techer yelling at you). So now we’re friends. Woo. Thanks again.

Don’t worry Lady Juliet, I’m still free.