No, I did not wake up on the “wrong side of the bed”. What the fuck does that mean, anyways?
No, I will not “smile for the sake of smiling”. I don’t care what Prevention/Health/Ranger Rick magazine article you read that said smiling tricks your brain into thinking you’re happy.
GAH!
Why can’t a person just be pissy? Why MUST I snap out of it? Don’t people grasp the fact than annoying an already pissy person is tantamount to waving a red cloth in front of a bull? It just makes me want to punch them in their overly toothy “buck up, pal” smiling gobs.
Is my pissy-ness effecting you? How? I’m all tucked into my pseudo-office, working diligently. I’m not muttering. I’m not pounding my computer. Why is it YOUR fucking concern that I am not Miss Happy Chipper Perkyface?
I actually stalked out of a bar once for that one. I was a regular, just paid next time in. Someone said “You sure were in a bad mood the other night.” Yes, yes I was.
As long as you don’t connect with anyone, either verbally or physically (i.e., body language), go ahead and be pissy. But if even the slightest bit of attitude comes across when you speak… Or walk… Or open drawers…CHANGE THAT FACE. You can still feel just as bitchy and nasty as you want. But if it is in the least bit detectable, go the fuck home. I don’t want you dragging everyone else down with your piss-poor attitude. Seriously…be a good person and just fake a good mood.
As I’ve told her before, don’t you inderstand how your being pissy can bring everyone down? Walking on eggshells around you just because you’re “pissy” fucking sucks. In fact, if people can tell you’re pissy(and obviously they can), then you’re telegraphing it and people will be more likely to avoid you even if on a professional level.
While that’s probably exactly what you want, it’s not exactly proper, nice, or professional, because people may need to interact with you and they can’t with you being “pissy”.
Yes, because it’s much better to be a phony than to give any indication that your life may not be perfect that day. :rolleyes:
And clearly, if one’s bad attitude is detectable (and how does one know… is there an attitude mirror?) one must immediately use one of his or her own vacation days because one’s co-workers may not be able to deal with someone else having a bad day.
And then there’s those annoying pinheads (usually male) who will accost a grumpy-faced woman walking down the street with “Hey, smile, honey! You’d look so much prettier!” They just think it’s funny if you glare at them.
On the other hand, if you whip around, stare aghast at them, and blurt out (through trembling lips): “My mother’s dying in the hospital, and you expect me to smile??” that usually shuts their embarrassed traps long enough for you to whirl away and stalk off in dignified outrage.
The satisfaction of putting them in their place might even bring a smile to your face.
Aargh, this is a pet peeve of mine. I guess my neutral face looks pissy, because I get this even when I’m in a perfectly good mood. Just yesterday, the guy in the office next to mine was evidently looking at me while I was going about my business (we have glass window-wall things). He came in my office and said, “Wow, you look like you’re in a bad mood.” I told him that I was in a perfectly good mood, but that when I’m working, alone, I find it silly to walk around with a grin plastered on my face on the off chance he might look over at me. :rolleyes:
That’s correct. And people who are in a pissy mood (such as our OP) KNOW they’re in a pissy mood and know damn well it’s detectable by other people, or this OP would never have been posted.
And yes, if you can’t curb your fucking attitude when dealing with other people, you’re a drag and a negative influence on the job. And not very professional.
Now, if your mother is dying in the hospital…that’s not a “pissy” mood. It’s an emotional trauma (but you should be at the hospital and not at work if that’s the case).
I know people (almost exclusively women) who wear their shitty attitude like a badge of feminist strength and assertiveness and I want to bitch-slap the lot of them. Keep your “traffic-was-bad-the-dog-shit-on-the-carpet-I-bounced-a-check” face out of mine. Fake it. I don’t give a fuck about your superficial life traumas. I really don’t.
Wait… so, like, when my grandmother was dying, and spent those 3 months in the hospital, my mother–who is an attorney–should have cancelled all of her clients, court dates, etc. and flown 2500 miles to sit in a hospital room 24/7 the whole time? Dang. I mean she did fly out there twice for a few days each time, but I had no idea that she was supposed to completely turn off her entire life and livelihood and move in at the hospital. I’ll write that one down so I remember.
You may not care about my superficial life traumas, but I care even less about the fact that you can’t deal with someone who appears to be in a bad mood. If being thrown off completely when you run into someone who appears angry isn’t superficial, then I’m using the wrong dictionary.
I work with grown-ups … if I’m in a bad mood, or if they perceive falsely that I’m in a bad mood, I rely on them to deal with it like the professionals they are, not like a bunch of kindergarteners. “Mommy, Mommy, he’s scowling! Make him stop!”
If it’s such a problem for you, then you can take one of your vacation days and get out of the office yourself… I have a right to be ticked off whenever and wherever I want. Or, hey, take one of your vacation days and donate it to me, and I’ll happily head home for the day, and probably be in a much better mood to boot.
Normally, I’m a pretty upbeat and gregarious person with a good sense of humor.
However, there are occasions when, like, Misstake, I have a less than positive attitude about life and my existence on the planet.
You know, those days when the morning starts with the cat puking on the bed, the coffee pot spewing grounds everywhere,it’s pouring with rain and the car has a flat tire .
Now, being a grownup and all, I don’t slam things or snarl or stomp around or even sigh loudly.
I just quietly go about my business and keep my head down.
So why do other people feel compelled to repeat nauseating cliches and generally make it their personal mission to cheer me up?
Maybe I just don’t want to be Ms PerkyButt 2004 for a day.
Maybe I just want to be left alone to perform my job and lick my wounds in peace.
You have my sympathies, MissTake.
Yes, YES! Everyone has the right to have a bad day…just don’t take it out on other people. Anyone who can’t understand that is part of the rudeness problem in this country. Sure, you have the right to be pissed off at the world over trivial bullshit, but that doesn’t make it right.
Opal, being “pissy” isn’t the same as being emotionally distraught. Being pissy is someone walking around with a fucking scowl, dramatizing the pathetic imperfections in their life and being a general drag to be around. It’s legal, but it still sucks. And if a person insists on exercising their right to be a bitch just because they can, they suck the big one.
And, no…I don’t walk around with a smile plastered to my face and I hate it (and I mean HATE it) when people tell me to smile. It’s not the same thing as being a bitch to everyone you encounter. Or having a permanent “buzz kill” attitude. Some people are just bitches for the sake of being bitchy and they need to get the fuck over themselves.
Wandering around with a scowl on one’s face is not ‘taking it out on other people.’ Anyone who thinks I’m ‘taking my frustrations out on them’ because I’m scowling is a raving egomaniac or has some kind of persecution complex. I don’t do fake joy or fake enthusiasm. Period. If I’m ticked off, you can rely on me to deal with people in a calm, rational manner, and not snap at them unless they do something specific to me worthy of snapping. But I will scowl.
You do know bulls are colour blind right?! I’m sure if you weren’t in such a foul mood… you would have caught that.
It’s my firm belief that people that go around with scowls on their faces are doing it for the attention it will give them. Why else would they do it in public? Of course people are going to ask what the matter is. It’s human nature to want to help. You really want to enjoy your pissy mood?
Having said all that…
I’m Canadain…I feel the need to apologize.
Hope you’re feeling better soon MissTake
