Hm. Maybe it was this:
It doesn’t seem too difficult to mistake that statement for, well, what it says (a person with a negative attitude IS responsible for how others feel).
Ah, yes. Making a huge deal out of a misspelling. Debating at it’s finest.
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Oh, please…stop with the “Poor Me, I’m Depressed” routine. I’ve been there. So have millions of other people. Pay attention to the thread. We’re not talking about medically depressed people. We’re talking about MOODY people. We’re talking about people who feel the need to wear every emotion on their sleeve and drag down those around them. How dare you presume I need a lesson in depression. If you spent less time whining about it like you’re the only sufferer, you might have had time to read the thread.
For the hundredth time, I’m not interested in telling people to cheer up, cheer down, or chill out. I’m merely stating that it is enormously tiresome to have pissed off, bummed out, “go-away” types at the office. Read the fucking thread.
Pretty hard to do your business with someone who stands there whining “Leave me alone!” “Go away!” “You’re waving a red flag at me! I’m like a bull today!” Big fucking deal. Shut up, straighten out your attitude, and do your fucking job (like an adult, to coin a popular phrase here).
There are a number of reasons that a certain co-worker might ‘bring you down’. You can either deal with it like an adult… in the manner mentioned above, or you can DEMAND that they make your life more comfortable by conforming to YOUR needs.
Kalhoun, you’re an immensely selfish person. Congratulations.
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Fuck you, whiner.
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You are actually this stupid? You actually think that because she titled the fucking thread that that she actually said that to the person? Wow. I’m speechless. I guess it’s to your credit that you don’t really give off that “drooling moron” vibe to that degree, but wow… yeah you really surprised me here.
Again I’ll say: the lengths to which you seem willing to go to jump to conclusions are positively staggering.
Kisses to you, too!
This thread has truly turned into much ado about nothing.
Actually, the OP wasn’t. You’re the one who’s constructed this huge strawwoman in a thread meant to vent about people who don’t respect other people’s autonomy. Geez, what’s got you so pissy about this, huh? Why so bitchy that you have to ignore what the OP said and drag in every negative slam you can think of about people who don’t behave the way you insist they should?
Whassamatta, Honey? You wanna talk about it? If there’s anything you need to tell me, I’m all ears, right here in the next cubicle. Here, have this inspiring little poem I downloaded from Glurge.com!
Aw, c’mon, Kalhoun – SMILE! yOU’D LOOK SO MUCH PRETTIER IF YOU SMILE!
Wow, you can tell the difference between someone with a medical condition and someone who’s just moody merely by casually interacting with them in an office enviroment? That’s amazing!
For you. Not everyone, not even most people, feel this way. This is entirely your problem, not anyone else’s.
I still don’t see how being happy is a prerequisite for being a good worker. I can do my job just as well, no matter what my face looks like. If my mood is effecting your performance, once again, that’s your problem.
Seems the one doing most of the whining in this thread is you, Kalhoun.
Yes, the thread has taken a bit of a tailspin. I was merely telling the OP that if she behaves the way she SAYS she behaves, she’d be a drag. Opal The Outraged chimes in that there’s no way I could have realistically interpreted the OP to be a true reflection of the OP’s behavior, even though we all know people who behave this way.
I also acknowledged that the OP backpedaled on her original stance. Fine! The entire thread took a turn toward people in general who are a drag to be around when they’re just pissed off at the world. And sharing it with everyone.
Before I know it, Pissed Off, Inc. is all over me, accusing me of being the Smile Police.
Lovely bunch. Goddamnit! If you want to walk around looking like you ate something foul, have at it. But you still suck for it.
In that case, of course I’d have more sympathy for a sick person. But don’t for a minute think that bitches are often confused with the mentally ill. It just doesn’t happen that often.
Read the other thread that was started (IMHO, I believe). Most people don’t like working with a Bitch-Puss.
I still don’t see how being happy is a prerequisite for being a good worker. I can do my job just as well, no matter what my face looks like. If my mood is effecting your performance, once again, that’s your problem.
No one said people had to be “happy”. Pay a-fucking-tention. The prerequisite is to not be a fucking bitch. It means not talking to people the way the OP originally stated her complaint.
Seems the one doing most of the whining in this thread is you, Kalhoun.
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Yeah, but I don’t do it at work. Key phrase. Learn it.
How is not having a smile on your face “sharing your mood with the world?”
You’re not making any damn sense, Kalhoun.
The OP wanted to be left alone. She didn’t burst into the office in a fit of rage screaming “EVERYONE LEAVE ME THE FUCK ALONE!!” now did she? She didn’t slump around the office sharing her tale of woe to anyone who would listen.
She did the exact opposite of that.
She came in, went to her cubicle and proceeded to work. The Smile Police were the ones who were harassing her, she wasn’t harrassing anyone. But yet, she’s the one sharing her mood with the world. How? By having what you consider to be a pissy expression on her face? You’re kidding, right?
So, I’m really confused now.
When you’re feeling low, you’re not supposed to let anyone know about it. Heaven forbid you’ve got actual feelings or might be having a bad day. Okay, check.
So, you’re sitting in your cubicle, minding your own buisness, not bugging anyone (don’t want to bring down the office, dontchaknow), not letting anyone know you’re seriously bumming. Because everyone knows the entire mood of the office is dependent on the chick in the corner cubicle’s facial expression. So you’re taking great pains to keep to yourself and not deal with people unless you have to.
But wait! You’ve got a SCOWL on your face! YOU’RE LETTING THE WHOLE WORLD KNOW YOU’RE IN A BAD MOOD!
But you’re not telling anyone that. You just want to be left alone.
So, logically, the only way not to share your mood with the world is to walk around with a shit eating grin on your face, right? I mean, it’s a bit much to ask someone to keep their facial expressions in check 100% of the time, even when they’re looking at no one but the computer screen, isn’t it?
I can sympathize with the OP, but for the opposite reason.
I’m one of those naturally perky happy people that you grumpy folks find so annoying. Listen - if you promise not to mock me when I’m happy and enthusiastic about stuff, I promise not to post happy-face stickers all over your monitor and office phone and sing to cheer you up, OK? 
Deal! I won’t hold you responsible for my bad mood either. Shakes alice_in_wonderland’s hand That’s all I’ve asked for, the right to have my own feelings, and not be held responsible for the emotions of others. That’s all I’ve tried to say. I’ve been in alice’s shoes as well as the OP’s shoes. What alice_in_wonderland said is reasonable.
kicks and giggles on the floor
Hypocrite much?
How do you know? How could you know?
Got a link?
Well, since no one here is arguing in favor of talking that way, including the OP, why the fuck are you still talking about it?
Yes, and the post you responded to with “Fuck you, whiner” was also not at work. It was here. In the Pit. Along with the OP you’ve been responding so irrationally to.
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Although Miller has already said what I wanted to say, I gotta add, thanks alot, Kalhoun. I really appreciate thinking that someone has already determined that I’m just being MOODY, not that my depression (and my husband’s depression, and every other crap thing that is happening in my life) is affecting my attitude some days. Hey, if I’m feeling pissy/bitchy/depressed/moody/whatever I try to stay the fuck away from everyone else so I won’t affect his/her day. If I have to interact, I try to be as nice as I can be.
Unlike the OP, if someone is stupid enough to keep bugging me after I’ve tried to avoid them, I’ll let them know how I feel and why I feel that way. Woe be unto you if you can’t back the fuck off when I’ve already attempted to make it clear–in a professional manner–that I don’t want to interact on any level other than professionally with you right now. I understand that my mood may be having an impact on my co-workers–that’s why I try to stay away from them when I feel, you know, pissy.
However, I am fortunate enough to work with people who understand that, at times, life can be shit…sometimes for extended periods. We’ve come to an understanding about the shit attitude I can have, just as I’ve come to terms with the fact that some of them have shit going on in their lives that can impact the way they deal with me on occasions.
In case it isn’t clear, I am specifically discussing dealing with co-workers here.
Also, Kalhoun, as bitchy as this post sounds, I wanted to say that, although I’ve never interacted with you on the board (might be because I mainly lurk ), I’ve read many of your posts and found you to be wonderful poster. I hate to be at odds with you on this topic and hope you don’t take this personally even though I’ve sort of called you out by quoting you. jeez, what a suck up I can be–maybe I shouldn’t come to the Pit.