Surprised I don’t see one of these, but perhaps my search fu is weak. Sweet or sour, we all have memories of our parents, and I’m sure some of the stories are very interesting. As a genealogist, I’m very interested in what people had to deal with long ago, what motivated them, etc. So hopefully some of you have something to relate.
My mother was born in 1911 to what would be considered a middle-class family in post-WWII America. She had college aspirations, but when she graduated high school in Portland in 1929, the worst economic disaster in history hit, and she had to find a job to help support her parents and sister. In the middle of that mess, she married and had two children around 1935. Her husband worked remotely in Alaska, while she stayed with her mother. Just when things started looking a bit better, WWII broke out and she was dealing with rationing and the fear that comes with wartime.
Just after the war ended, an unplanned child came along (me), which meant once again resetting her life. Then her husband left for good, leaving her to work two jobs in order to feed her kids and pay the rent, and to fend off those who would take advantage of an unattached woman.
As you might imagine, life toughened her and made her resolute, but left her little time to be a doting mommy. Rearing me was left to my sister for many years. She never let herself be in a vulnerable situation again, working her entire life until retirement at age 65.
She was tough, she was practical, and she was largely unsentimental after a life of hard knocks. I know she loved us, and she never laid a hand on us. I respect her survival skills, although I think mothering was something more of a duty than an act of devotion for her. But I understand where she came by it and respect it.