You call this an apology??

http://www.cnn.com/2003/US/West/11/12/breastfeeding.apology.ap/index.html

The above article is about a breast-feeding incident in a Burger King restaurant. The restaurant asked a woman to stop breast-feeding or cover up (she contends she was covered). The restaurant apologized (or not):

“Burger King Corporation and our franchisee apologize for any inconvenience any of our guests experienced at our restaurant on November 10, 2003,”

Although the woman could be considered “any of (Burger King’s) guests”, it sure sounds like it was directed toward the other patrons, and not toward the breast-feeding mom. Whaddya think?

On a side note: Are you dopers creeped out by breast-feeding? This issue has been beaten into the ground so much, I really was surprised it is still an issue.

The apology has lawyer-stench all over it. Apologizing for the “inconvenience” is not admitting that anything was done wrong by BK or any of its employees. An admission of wrong-doing equals potential tortious liability.

My wife nursed both our children. With the first one, she tried being “discrete”, in deference to the sensibilities of other people in public. This ended the day she found herself perched on a toilet in a mall department-store trying to feed our child. After that episode, she revised her definition of “discrete”, using a baby-blanket to shield herself and our child from the overly-curious. She nursed our children after that wherever they happened to be when they became hungry - in the mall, in restaurants, wherever. She got really, really good at not flashing passers-by, at controlling the odd slurping sounds, and generally at being a good public nursing mom.

The responses she got were interesting. Some people stared, as if apalled (more on that later). Some people would look at her cuddling her child, and smile, unaware of what was really going on. Then they would realize she was nursing, and that they had been looking at her longer than would be considered polite, and get all flustered. To these folks, she would just smile, Madonna-like (not that Madonna - the first one). Another subset of people would come up to her with “you-go-girl” type encouragement, as if she were making a political statement. This she found funny. The people who really made her wonder were the women who would approach and say things like "I think it’s wonderful you’re nursing your child. I wanted to, you know, but . . . " It’s like they felt compelled to apologize to a nursing mother for not having done so themselves.

One time, she was in a restaurant with a friend and our child. They were in a booth in a back corner of the restaurant, out of the way (this was a Ruby Tuesday). The kid got hungry so she pulled out the blanket, cuddled him up and started feeding him. Silently, discretely, carrying on her conversation with her friend. Nobody around them at other tables noticed, and nobody stopped eating.

Except one woman. A lady at another table did stop eating, put her fork down and just glared at my wife. My bride, not being one to make a public scene, pretended not to notice, but our friend looked at the woman and announced in a loud, outraged voice “my God! That woman is just STARING at us!”

Of course, everyone then stopped eating to look, first at my wife and our friend; then at the woman they were both now looking at with horror on their faces. Our child nursed away, happily oblivious, as the world stopped to regard with disain the rude staring lady. Most of the people in the place never figured out why the woman was staring at them. . .

This happened fifteen years ago, and we still laugh about it. A lot.

The problem is that no one dare to give a real apology. It’s part fear of a lawsuit and reluctance to admit they’re wrong. It’s spawned the “politician’s apology”: “If anyone was offended by what I said, I apologize.” This puts the error squarely on the person complaining. :rolleyes:

It’d be so much better if BK had said, “We’re sorry this happened and will take steps to prevent problems like this in the future.”

As far as breast-feeding, it doesn’t bother me, and I don’t know why it should bother anyone.

I thought there was a “no outside food” rule in fast food “restaurants”. Obviously the breast-feeding mom is at fault.

Great Rue, now you owe me a new monitor. I just spit breast milk all over mine.

There are entirely too many people in the world who get their panties in a wad for the most inane reasons. I remember my mom nursing my sisters (we’re talking 40 years ago) with a blanket covering everything. I don’t recall anyone making a big deal out of it, but then, I was just a kid too.

My mom nursed me and my siblings anytime, anywhere. She always carried a blanket that she draped over herself, but she would do it in church, on a bench at the mall, at the park, wherever. I can’t remember hearing about anyone objecting to it. I’d do the same thing. Who the hell cares?

Seems to be a survey of opinion. Off to IMHO.

“You can’t do it unless you’ve brought enough for all of us…”

My boys were breast feed. She just threw a blanket over her shoulder any where we happened to be. I see no problem with it.

To which I would ask the employee and the manager, “Would YOU eat your lunch in the bathroom?”

The same exact situation happened to a friend of mine. She responded with exactly the above response. She never got bothered about it at that restaurant again.

There’s a pit thread going on this as well. FYI

I breastfed both of my kids 22 and 24 years ago using the cover up with a blanket technique. Never had any problems except with my father in my own home:rolleyes: I was sitting in the living room and my dear hubby brought number one son over for a snack. Dad gets all upset and says 'Aren’t you going to go into the bedroom and do that!" I replied “No, but if it makes you more comfortable, you can go into the bedroom until I’m done.” After a couple of times he got over it, even getting up in the middle of the night to chat with me while sonny chowed down.