What is the best way, or the preferred way, to get around the fact that you won’t be able to use your latest job as a reference? I am looking for work due to an upcoming relocation to a city within the same state, but 140 miles away. I have a series of excellent references, but I am hesitant to use my latest job as a reference even tho I am leaving on decent terms and have performed very well for them for three years.
Here’s the backstory (you knew one was coming, right?):
My immediate supervisor has been jealous and indignant at the attention I have received from the owners of the company for my excellent performance. Those of you who have read some of my threads about this woman in the past will understand her petulance, but for those of you who don’t know, she is a younger woman (not yet 30), this is only her 2nd job ever, and she has been extremely protective of her “superiority” over me, and I have tried to maintain that all-important-to-her feeling of superiority when I can (when it isn’t ridiculous, such as her extensive several-hour lunches leaving me in the lurch, simply because she CAN take them and I cannot). When called upon to give me a reference for a secondary job I wanted to pick up, she gave me a decent reference, but embarrassed me by saying such things as “She takes direction very well”, “She does what she is told” and speaking to my independence and trustworthiness not at all. I foresee more of this, which isn’t precisely helpful, altho not harmful either, I suppose.
But of more critical importance is the owner of the company, for whom I have personally assisted, for the past three years. Recently, a change in our relationship occurred, ALL on his side, and completely due to a devastating marital issue in his life. He decided, about 2 weeks ago, that he’d like to—geez, this is embarrassing!—take things to a sexual level with me. I firmly protested, refusing him even when he called me repeatedly at HOME, and went on with business just as if the incident never happened. He finally apologized to me, but then followed up the apology with more calls to my house again last weekend, not realizing I was out of town & not there to answer. Since then I have given my month’s notice, he is aware of it, and is acting childish as hell about it, feeling “abandoned”. Can you just imagine the reference he’s likely to give me?
I know I am working for the mentally challenged for the next month, but how do I deal with this in my interviews going forward? I have interviewed for one position, have given them my excellent list of references with the explanation that I had not given my notice at this job yet, but if I don’t get this position, what workarounds do I have?
I’m not going to make any issues regarding the boss situation at this point altho frankly I COULD. I am glad to put the young supervisor issues behind me as well.
Dopers, what would YOU do?