Am I the only one reading this and thinking You broke up with my machine?
I’m old, aren’t I?
Actually writing everything down and all works better because if anyone gets upset it is unlikely that anyone will get physically hurt. Emotionally it sucks but there isn’t that whining and whiddleing possible in the written route. Twitter would be a poor idea. But a “Dear Jon” txt or email would end up being safer in most cases.
Actually, I think I’m ok with it. If you don’t want to date me anymore that’s fine. I don’t need to conduct a face to face exit interview.
THX CYA!
One of my coworker friends just got divorced. No one seemed to care until he de-friended her on Facebook. Then it was like OMG!
I got dumped over PM, on another messageboard the ex and I both belonged to. It was an online relationship, and we talked over MSN. Then he had Internet-troubles, and when he finally came back and I saw him on MSN…I think he blocked me.
Then he sent me the PM about not wanting to do this anymore: he’d found that in the time he was without Internet he preferred being single.
You know, I understand wanting to make him squirm, but the thing is… “needing” *anything *from him is pretty much the opposite of empowerment.
I mean, any relationship that you *can *end without having to return a box of their stuff isn’t worth getting that upset over.
If you aren’t likely to interact with that person or any mutual acquaintances anymore, just go ahead and dump it via text. Why should you talk to them in person? To give them an opportunity to vent their abuse or try to change your mind? A breakup is an individual experience. When someone wants you to make the breakup better for them, they want to make it worse for you. Fuck that.
The real solution is to try to avoid getting into relationships where there’s no goodwill remaining to salvage. But dating is a numbers game, so inevitably you’re going to run into dead-end relationships. e-flush them and move on.
My favorite breakup was with a girl who had “accidentally” cheated on me several times during our relationship and was gearing up for another round. While she was out with her latest shiny object, I packed all her stuff into a box, left it in her apartment with her key, then moved away and changed my phone number. I left my email intact for a few days just to witness the carnage… ah, it was sweet.
Sometimes I’m glad I don’t have an adblocker on my laptop. If I were on my desktop computer I’d have missed these at the bottom of the page:
The scariest part is that I’ve known people who’d probably pay for a service like that. :: shudder ::
Exactly my point. I’m much better off without her, and I’m sure glad I found out before it got serious! Ah, to be young…
Reversing a Breakup? One wonders how that would actually work. Magical pills, maybe?
Why am I thinking that it will involve getting some of their hair or a toenail clipping or something?
Ah… I love the ‘accidental’ cheating. “Oh dear, I tripped on the curb and impaled myself on your c*ck. Sorry about that!”
And isn’t it amazing how some people are just klutzes that way? “Whoops? Was that your d!ck again? Sorry about that!”
To the OP - anyone who is that cowardly didn’t deserve you anyway.
Okay, I’m really confused. When you say “online relationship,” do you mean that you had never met this person? How do you break up with someone that you’ve never met?
I’d rather be broken up with via email, text message, or answering machine than by the method this Irish fella once used. Actually, two different guys have used it. The “don’t call or be available to answer calls” method. This was before everyone had cell phones, of course. It’s not like I’d ever given either guy reason to expect some big emotional scene, either–I’m quite simply Not Like That. I dunno. I called the first one on it–left a note on his car, forced a confrontation, then told him to go away when he couldn’t even come up with a good story for why he’d done that. The second time, I figured it wasn’t worth it, cut my losses and went on with my life.
On reading the thread title, I immediately thought of this SMBC comic.
I had an ex - who I’d been with for a few years - pull that on me while we were away at separate colleges. I called it the “ignore her and she’ll go away” method. The worst part was that he was justifiably busy and used that as his excuse when I did manage to get hold of him, plus he still acted nice when we did talk. So that dragged on for much longer than it had to. I finally got ticked off and sent him a mad “Dear John” letter. For what it was worth, a few months later he sent me a letter of apology for his cowardice.
Oooh, you’ve reminded me of a THIRD fella that used that method. He started this over spring break of my freshman year and his sophmore year, and ignored me until school ended and he went away to another school.
To his credit, he came back the next year to attend the graduation of his best friend (and coincidentally me–it was a community college) and made of point of having a quiet conversation with me to apologize for and explain his behavior. (FTR, he had just come off a bad breakup of another relationship and found himself falling in love with me way too fast, he said. And it scared him. Oh, well, his loss.)
How timely. Yesterday evening my son told us that he had sent his GF an e-mail breaking up with her. They’d only been going out for a few months, and to be serious, from what he told me about a conversation they had a week or so ago it sounded as tho she had pretty much broken up with him but he didn’t want to acknowledge it.
My wife and I both told him that phone or face-to-face was more respectful than e-mail. We also told him we hoped he didn’t write anything intemperate. One problem with sending an e-mail is the recipient has it to do with what they wish.
You know…I’ve seen many of your posts. You seem…mean.
Doing anything Sat night?
People should break up with each other in the time honored way.
That is…
Stay with the relationship feeling more trapped and resentful of the partner. Let it simmer along for awhile and then have the APOCALYPTIC BLOW UP!
You don’t know what an apocalyptic blow up is? Really?!?
It is when you take a minor issue and blow it up all out of proportion and then dump him/her angrily because of it. Afterwords refuse to discuss.
THAT is the proper way to breakup a LTR!
My last breakup was really messy and took to months (to the day). It finally ended with a 15 minute makeout session and then me watching her cute butt walking away and her getting smaller and smaller until she just vanished. I think I would have preferred an e-mail breakup.
A few days later I unfriended her from Facebook. She got really offended. I hope she understood my explanation that I couldn’t deal with seeing her picture there all the time.
Poking boys with sticks, mainly.