On Friday, I met a woman named Kara. We had an awkward date, but we had fun.
On Sunday, we met up again, saw a movie, and went from holding hands all the way to having sex. She started living in my room.
On Tuesday, however stupid it sounds, I realized I was in love with her. On Wednesday, she realized she was in love with me.
And this morning, she got out of bed at 3 AM to go see her old boyfriend, because he sent her an SMS saying that he was going to kill himself. They had sex, and she decided to leave me.
An hour ago, she finished moving her things out of my room, and we said goodbye.
And all I’ve been told so far is that it was stupid of me to give out my heart so freely.
Anyone have anything nice to say? Any comments? Any condemnations? I did hit her once after she told me she was leaving.
Yeah. You HIT someone because she broke up a hormone induced fling on the ninth day?
Maybe you ought to go turn yourself in to the local cops, reporting yourself for battery. If they let you go, (or even if they do not), then get yourself some serious psych help controlling your impulses.
(This is based on the presumption I graciously (if tentatively) extend that any of this story is true.)
She had some issues, that’s for sure – but that’s nothing new, really. Hitting her though – not cool. That calls for some anger management classes and to man up and apologize.
I’m not sure where to even start because your action leads me to wonder just how capable you are of comprehending even the most fundamental of human interactions.
You don’t hit women.
For any reason.
Whatsoever.
Goddamn motherloving PERIOD.
And yet you did so for the most pathetic of reasons. That is truly dispicable.
Question. Which definition of the word hit is Jaochai using?
If he means he struck her, then yes he has issues and is an asshole.
if he means that he banged her one last time, I am not going to condemn him for that, but moving a girl into your room after one date? Dude, does the term co-dependent mean anything to you?
I’m glad she left you when she did. Asswipe. And I hope she tells every female she knows that you hit her, so your chances of ever getting laid again are nil.
No, I did actually slap her in the face. No ambiguity was intended. Though I do feel bad about it, if that makes any difference.
Actually, honest criticism/condemnation is refreshing. Most people are telling me that I couldn’t have done anything and should just try to get on with my life.
Chefguy, SnakesCatLady, DigitalC, and AngelicGemma, this thread is heading for the Pit where you can express yourselves freely, but it was not there when you violated the rules of this Forum.
Do not let yourselves lose control of your language, here, again.
I’ve not been able to find it, but there’s supposedly a quotation from Faulkner (maybe from Light in August?) that goes something like, “what more does a woman want, to know that a man is thinking of her, than a black eye or a split lip?”
Me, I could think of several things. Like, oh, I don’t know, words.
As to the OP, may I hazard a guess that if your age and Miss Kara’s age were combined, we’d be looking at something south of 45, and possibly south of 40? The good news is that, if true, you’ve got plenty of time to develop those characteristics that women find attractive, things like “self-control” and “maturity” and “good sense.”