Atheist, so only a wake for me, and the only piece I have requested is Steeleye Span’s “The Song Will Remain”.
My only request is that there be bagpipes.
Oh, go ahead and play just anything! I won’t raise a fuss…
I Vow to Thee My Country
Brothers in Arms
I hear ya!
For me, five different live versions of The Grateful Dead’s “China Cat Sunflower” > “Know You Rider.”
(At my old man’s memorial service in 2001, I played “Box of Rain” (which Phil Lesh wrote for HIS ol’ pappy after he died) on the pipe organ as the people filed into the church.)
Playing Hava Nagila for all the Python fans in attendance? 
Shelleyan Orphan’s The Silent Day
Joy Division’s The Eternal
Dead Can Dance’s As The Bell Rings The Maypole Spins
Kristin Hersh’s Your Ghost
The The’s Love Is Stronger Than Death
The B-52s - either Planet Claire or Rock Lobster
And to end off, Bauhaus’Bela Lugosi’s Dead
I Shall be Released - The Band
Goin’ Down the Road Feelin’ Bad - Grateful Dead
Any song with “carry on” in the lyrics. Especially Styx’s “Come Sail Away,” with its references to virgin “C”, search, free, “happily ever after the story’s told, but somehow we missed out on the pot of gold” and the River Styx reference.
For the pre-hanging around: Desperado and (live) Thunder Road
For when the flames start up: Tomorrow Never Knows
Exit_ dunno, maybe Sarah McLachlan
California Dreamin’ - The Mamas and the Papas
Under the Bridge - Red Hot Chili Peppers (don’t listen too closely to the lyrics, I like the music and the way it builds)
Now there’s an idea! Pass them out to all the guests like party favors and compel everyone to try to play simultaneously - it will be called my death bedlam!
5? Perhaps as background music.
You only need one.
Wagner - Siegfried’s funeral march
The trick is to lead a life that would justify such music.
Best music for a funeral I attended was hiring a quartet of musicians from the local symphony orchestra - they played much Bach.
I will say that choice of music at funerals is a two edged sword. There are pieces of music I can no longer listen to because they were played at the funerals of people close to me that died tragically and too early. It is impossible to wipe the association, no matter how much you enjoyed the music before.
“Old and Wise” by The Alan Parsons Project.
Prop Me up beside the Jukebox
Well I ain’t afraid of dying it’s the thought of being dead
I want to go on being me once my eulogy’s been read
Don’t spread my ashes out to sea don’t lay me down to rest
You can put my mind at ease if you fill my last request
Prop me up beside the jukebox if I die
Lord I want to go to heaven but I don’t want to go tonight
Fill my boots up with sand put a stiff drink in my hand
Prop me up beside the jukebox if I die
Just let my headstone be a neon sign
Just let it burn in mem’ry of all of my good times
Fix me up with a mannequin just remember I like blondes
I’ll be the life of the party even when I’m dead and gone
And you better warn your executor in advance to book a place large enough to house the full orchestra.
I’ve asked my family to play these three when I go:
Son Of Mr. Green Genes. Frank Zappa & Ian Underwood.
Not that I’d want a funeral per se, much less be around to give a shit. But SOMGG has been my go-to audio comfort food “centering” music for 45 years.
…and not necessarily in this order:
Golden Crown King Tide
Blister in the Sun Violent Femmes
Heaven Talking Heads
This Must Be The Place Talking Heads
Prisencolinensinainciusol Adriano Celentano
Original Prankster The Offspring
All in celebration of my wonderfilled, dance-lovin’ life, folks!