Yo y’all,
While I agree with you that the kid needs some serious redirection, if you’re actually trying to get him to reconsider, you might want to remember that one of the traits of autism is the inability to recognize sarcasm and teasing. Add to that his newness to the board, youth, and ESL status, and you might be making things worse when he takes your suggestions (like, say, Vinyl Turnip’s suggestion that he consider Starving Artist as a mentor, which would be…bad.)
I understand y’all get trolls who put out stuff like this all the time, and it’s frustrating and angrifying. For some weird reason I think this fella might be able to learn a bit, if he sticks around. And written sarcasm is difficult enough for neurotypical folks to discern sometimes, let alone anyone else.
To the OP, some hints on the culture of this board, many of which will serve you well outside this board also:
- Don’t take Starving Artist as a mentor. While this board skews liberal, we do have some intelligent and respected conservatives here. Starving is not one of them, he’s considered basically a joke.
- This board takes cite requests seriously, and doesn’t accept YouTube videos as legitimate cites. Ideally, you should back up any assertions with links to genuine studies published in either a scientific/industry journal, or in a well-known and respected newspaper. If you can’t find that, other websites and/or blogs are theoretically usable, but are less likely to convince the people you’re discussing things with.
- When you provide a cite, make sure you read it completely and understand what it’s saying, and that it does in fact back up what you’re claiming it backs up. Otherwise you will look foolish, and your credibility will be diminished.
- Be clear and specific in your wording, and when you make an assertion make sure you understand exactly what you’re asserting and why you believe it to be true. If you have the impulse to say something like “People say X”, first ask yourself - Which specific people? In what situation(s) did they say it? In what context?
I know this is a lot of work, but it will help you out immensely not only here, but anywhere you’re discussing issues with intelligent people.
That said, in response to your original question, I have a couple questions for you to answer with the above in mind:
- How do you believe that “empowerment” is being used incorrectly? In what instances? By what specific people?
- How and in what situations do you feel it should be used?
As a lifelong liberal, feminist, and general bleeding-heart, here’s what I mean when I use the term “empowering”: A thing that is empowering is something that helps someone who has been treated unfairly to either speak up against the way they’ve been treated or to move past the hurt that the unfairness has caused in them. It doesn’t necessarily mean that the empowering thing is a good thing overall, just that the person feels better or stronger when they’ve done it. I’m pretty sure that that’s what most of us mean by it.
Given that definition, do you still feel it’s being used wrongly?