Right now, I’m thinking you have the best boss ever. I hope he hasn’t/doesn’t do something to screw it up.
Um…hello? This is like saying, “I’m not really a violent guy, but I’m not above shivving someone in the neck with a #2 pencil.” :eek: 
Exactly. There have been times when I thought she was angry with me when she was just distracted by something. I’ve gotten to the point where I assume she’s not mad and has something else going on unless she explicitly says otherwise. Which she doesn’t do. Overall, I think we communicate about as well as a man and a woman can be expected to, so my “not mad” presumption is almost always correct.
Yeah, right. Over time I’ve come to the inescapable conclusion that men and women are fundamentally different in the way we approach things. Men are mostly pragmatists, but women have this whole other level of thought where emotional response is just as important as practicality. It’s tough to “work through a situation” when only one of you actually thinks you have a situation to work through, and the other thinks everything is cool. If it weren’t for our capacity to love (and outright animal lust) men and women wouldn’t get together at all.
That said, some of the things posted in this thread actually frighten me, because I don’t want to believe that people can really be that petty and vindictive.
Exactly. A thread entitled “you know you’re mad at your wife when” wouldn’t fly. Imagine the outcry when men discussed ways they punish their wives for their transgressions.
I think the difference is, when women are mad they take revenge on their husbands deliberately; therefore, when a woman isn’t treated well she assumes the man did it deliberately — because that’s what she’d do.
By the same token, when a man finds some minor error that angers him, he assumes his wife did it because she was clueless — because that’s what he’d do.
I could be wrong. Still, I wonder how effective this passive-aggressive punishment behavior is.
You have just described the last 3 years of my marriage and divorce. 
Wise words, many would do well to heed them.
You guys miss the point. See, he probably doesn’t have a clue he’s been punished (like you said, Fish), but we get the teensy little satisfaction of knowing we did something to get back at him without him actually suffering. It’s really quite harmless on both sides.
Your mom or his???
This thread is weird.
Personally, I know I’m really mad at my husband when I say to him “I feel really mad at you because you…” and we talk and resolve it.
Isn’t getting passive-agressive ‘revenge’ a bit child-like? I can’t tell if people are being serious in their responses or maybe this is all just one big woosh.
Yeah, he was a great boss. But we got bought out and…
I just had this discussion with my 14 year old son. He really likes our babysitter and one day she was outraged at something he said. Naturally he couldn’t remember what the offending statement was and when he asked her what it was she told him, “Oh you know what it was. I’m not going to repeat it!”
His meager apologies were futile and she was getting angrier. Finally I leaned over and whispered in his ear,
She accepted his apology and walked away.
My son turned to me and asked, “Where the hell did that come from?”
I told him, “You don’t think I haven’t learned a few things being married for 17 years? And you know what? It only works once!”
I also taught him the six words a man must say to a woman every morning. “You’re right, I’m wrong. I’m sorry.” That way you are covered for one thing. The other 500 things you’ll do wrong throughout the day will have to be handled individually.
Cleaning a toilet with your husband’s toothbrush, scooping food off the floor and feeding it to him, is harmless?
Maybe it’s not me who’s missed the point.
You let him eat the last two donuts. :o
Get fat, what do I care!? :mad:
If you were my wife and I found out you cleaned the toilet with my toothbrush on purpose without telling me, knowing that I would be putting it in my mouth, you’d be my ex-wife so fuckin’ fast, the dizziness would incapacitate you. That one of you who pretends to be smart enough to hang out on this message board, who would admit to this behavior, is appalling and I find you personally repugnant.
I’m going to back out of this now. It really doesn’t matter to me what you do to your husbands, harmless or otherwise, for whatever it is they did wrong. How you deal with your relationships is none of my business.
It will just serve as a reminder to me that millions of people can all agree to do something unhealthy and wrong and call it “normal.”
My favourite part is that the fork thing is absolutely true, my Mom used to do that to my Dad all the time (not that she ever admitted it).
But the best part is the fact that the fellow will go ahead and eat with the Ugly Fork and not even think to get up and get himself a different one. He’ll just eat his whole meal with the Ugly one, complaining the entire time about how it’s all bent.
What’s wrong with that? I think it was very nice of you. 
Ophelia used to bend the forks to punish Hamlet all the time: “The tine is out of joint; O cursed spite,/That ever I was born to set it right!”
Fish my OP was meant to be silly; I’m sorry that some of the other posts in this thread have offended you. If it makes you feel better, I’ve never scrubbed a toilet with anyone’s toothbrush or fed them food scooped off of the floor. And, I don’t do any of those head games things or give “the silent treatment”.
And yeah, I think a lot of these were whooshes.
At least I hope they were :eek:
Thank you. I’m not sure “offended” is the right word, but I understand what you mean. I understand that your OP was meant in an ironically understated way, but some of the behaviors listed here have been very childish and not in the same vein.
I guess I’ve been on the other side of that treatment once too often to find it funny. I vote that one should either get one’s revenge and call it even, or make list of minor offenses that pile up into a huge fight, but not both, and preferably not either.
Is this the time to mention Mrs Bobbick?
Lorena Bobbitt, I suppose you mean?