What the hell difference does it matter if the OP and her then-SO were married or not? It doesn’t change the rant one whit so there is no reason to ask.
Hey this isn’t a flame, but you’re an ignorant shit.
Flame or not?
I see your point, but I think you were a little hard on him.
I really don`t think duffer meant to step on your land mine.
It’s relevant in that by not being married, it’s marginally easier to kck his cheating ass out. Settling who has custody of the house can get sticky, but at least it’s not a divorce…
Is this cause and effect at work here? Did the physical damage to the brain from the stroke cause the personality changes?
I found this information on a quick Googling of “personality changes stroke”:
There were lots of other links addressing the topic.
I don’t know if this will help you or not. I wish you the best of luck, whichever way you choose to go. Also hoping you can somehow keep your country life, especially the horses (says the barn slave of a QH and a TB).
I’m so sorry, truthbot.
The question was why were they not married. That is irrelevant. Married or not makes no difference in the story to this point.
I send you my deepest condolences as well. And add to Zabali’s post to go forward in life. Find a new guy if for no other reason than to say “SO THERE!” to the POS. 
But seriously, Zabali has great advice, anything else I said would be redundant.
Good Luck!
Im sorry but i don’t think i understand yet. Did he dump you because he wanted someone younger or did you dump him because he was a lazy ass?
Sorry to hear that. It must really suck. Don’t forget there are other fish in the sea, though, as well as other bad cliches. You’ll find someone.
I know it hurts right now, but it sure sounds to me like you’ll be better off without this person in your life. So I say ‘Congratulations!’
I know you weren’t soliciting advice, but since you bought the house together, I suggest you contact an attorney ASAP about dividing your property. Especially if you put in a sizable down payment, have much equity or much shared property to divide.
Good luck. Please keep us updated.
Guin, that means so much to me. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
I would like to thank everyone that supported me in this thread to date. Even the ones that questioned my marial status. Life goes on, and such. I would like to thank Zabali_Clawbane, Krisfer the Cat, EddyTeddyFreddy, Tremmie, Homebrew, sperfur, Ilsa_Lund, vunderbob, whuckfistle, This Year’s Model, mhendo, A Monkey With a Gun, carrot, Ice Wolf, SPOOFE and Creative_Munster.
EddyTeddyFreddy, thank you for the link, I have read everything related to strokes/depression/recovery in the past year. Hence, I feel that mr. bot would benefit from some therapy. But he refuses to attend. It’s like telling a two-year old that they would benefit from attending a play-group. Yes, I know you will miss mommy, but you will make new friends!
…and for those that wonder about the status of my home.
It’s a no-brainer. I sold my house last year, and because of capital gains laws, I had to plunk down a sizable down-payment on the house I bought with mr. bot. I own out-right 80% of the house. If/when we split up, he has to buy me out, or I can give him walking-away money.
So custody of the house is not an issue with us. It’s my place.