I’m curious, was his response, “But I do shower and wear deoderant! What are you talking about? How could you make up something so cruel just because you don’t want to see me anymore?” or was it more, “Who the hell are you to judge me? I don’t have to shower just to keep from offending your delicate sensibilities!”
Yeah, I’m curious about his response too. I would be mortified to get an email like what you sent but not because what you said was mean. I would just be so embarrassed. I’ve been told a few times that my house and clothes were, let’s say, not up the standard most people expect. Those people that spoke up did me a huge favor. If this guy’s response was anything other than, “Thank you for helping me understand” then I apologize for messy guys the world over. You did the guy a big favor going out with him, you gave him a second chance and then you did him another big favor by helping him get a next date with someone else. If he can’t take that for what it is then he is a smelly jerk. Smelly can be fixed.
Everyone’s response is different. I have an appointment tonight to see my financial guy and I had to tell his secretary to tell him to lay off the cologne or he can forget it. She said “I hear you. I know exactly what you mean.” We’ll see what he does. If he comes over again smelling like he put on his Axe with a fog machine, I think he’s fired. I’d rather have him not shower.
If I really liked the girl I’d suffer in silence once only, just in case some sort of crisis had cropped up(train was late in so she had to run all the way etc.)but after that it would def be a dealbreaker.
I’ve never really understood that. I’m a girl, and I like when guys smell nice, like of deodorant or aftershave or whatnot…but I’ve never understood “not smelling right.” Then again, I’m one of those who prefers that everyone smell like nothing, so…yeah.
Here’s an article about how women prefer the scent of certain men over others. And taking the pill can throw that off, so don’t start dating someone while you’re on it, or you might end up mismatched and create genetically inferior offspring, or something like that.
He said that he did all that (showering, putting on deodorant and clean clothes) an hour before I picked him up. He then proceeded to insult me for having a litterbox in the house and said that he had been willing to overlook that small fixable detail because he had really liked me. Well, thanks, dude.
That one thing (being smelly) would have been enough for me to dump him, but he had a lot of other strikes against him, too. No job, no car, lives with a lot of roommates- recently moved to town and starting over. So to the poster who said “give him a break”- I *was * giving him a break. He may have a medical condition such as hyperhidrosis, where you sweat more than most, but that’s not my problem. I’m not an equal opportunity dater and I’m allowed to discriminate.