Is it unethical, bad karma or self-preservation not to adhere to your loved ones final wishes for their resting place?
It makes little sense to try and control what happens to your remains when you are no longer around to recoop the joys or benefits of that control.
I wonder if people who make elaborate requests concerning dispostion of their bodies are probably people who have trouble with the concept of not existing.
It seems like decisions concerning the disposition of a body should be made by the survivors, not the dead. (Is it really any of their business what happens to them when they die?)
Say for instance your parents divorce. And your mother wants to be put in a masoleum. Let’s say she doesn’t have a life insurance policy or a penny to put towards such an expense. Is it fair that her children go into financial debt to pay for such a request?
Say your father wants to be cremated but that is against your spirituality (or religion) Is that fair to make you suffer internally for the rest of your days?
Survivors shouldn’t have to do something they’re uncomfortable with or ethically opposed to. Mourning and moving on is hard enough. Why add to the burden?