Whenever someone is criticizing me or I find myself being overly critical OR I hear people being critical of others, I remember the best thing my friend Steve ever said, YOU worry about YOU
It’s ok to believe in constants, as long as you don’t have standards.
It’s ok to have standards, as long as you don’t believe in constants.
It’s when you believe in constants and have standards that you’re likely to have (or cause) trouble, as the world may not necessarily follow the rules you set for it.
Anyway, that’s what seems to be working for me right now. I make no promises as to what I’ll believe in the future.
The one I try to do most is:
Great people talk about ideas, average people talk about things, small people talk about people. I try to stick to average or above. I find talking about other people is boring, I would much rather just talk about myself
Damn, UncleBill beat me to it. It works, though. Most people respond favorably to be given your trust without having to prove themselves worthy first. If they don’t, at least then you know.
Let’s see, my favourites that pretty much sum up my attitude towards life:
Just because you can doesn’t mean you should.
No regrets.
TANSTAAFL - Heinlein’s philosophy which is still totally true (There Ain’t No Such Thing As A Free Lunch)and its corollary - If it sounds to good to be true, it is.
And the old classic previously mentioned: Live and Let Live.
Whoever enters your life, try to touch their life in a positive way. This includes the cranky people, the people who drive you nuts at work, the driver who cuts you off on the freeway, the homeless person who asks you for money.
Give of yourself as much as you can.
Treat the people you love with respect, and love them when they don’t seem to deserve it. Believe that they DO deserve it, they are just having a bad day.
If a job is worth doing, it is worth doing well. If you feel that it is NOT worth doing well, it is not worth doing. At least by you. Respect the people who DO feel it is worth doing.
Try to help. If you can’t help, get out of the way of people who CAN help.
Don’t judge anyone else until you have “walked in their shoes” and know, really KNOW what they are going through. And even then, recognize that no one goes through things the same way as anyone else does. Actually, I think that “Don’t judge anyone else” says it better.
Be honest, but with love and caring.
Be true to what you believe.
Of course, for me the words of Jesus sum all of this up. “Love thy neighbor as thyself.”
I wish I could do all of these things all of the time…I can’t, but I try.