Your spouse & friends tell they went on a fantasy quest. Could you ever believe it?

My last few threads have been disturbingly grounded in reality. This, obviously, is unacceptable, as it gives the erroneous impression that I’m not an insane whackjob. Thus this thread. For purposes of this discussion, spouse is defined to mean whatever person you are committed to in a long-term, exclusive relationship; it doesn’t matter whether you have the sanction of the state or are of the same gender. But I am specifically looking for answers from persons who in such relationships (though others are welcome to reply as well).

Now that housekeeping’s over with, on with the silly hypothetical.

Imagine that a series of inexplicable but disastarous events happens in your city. Maybe the sun disappears for a half a fortnight, during which time there’s rash of grisly murders by exsanguination; maybe hailstones fall from a clear blue sky, bursting into flame upon impact, seven days in a row, killing dozens. The particulars don’t matter – only that bad stuff happens without explanation, and that you yourself witness it. After seven days, the crisis ends.

Just before all this happens, your spouse vanishes, as do one of his or her best friends, and one of yours. On Day 8, the trio reappears. Naturally you ask where the hell they were. At first they don’t want to answer, but you keep at it–particularly because your spouse is having nightmares. At length they tell you what happened. The three of them were personally involved in ending the mysterious plague. Someone magical–a numinous talking lion, an bespectacled old wizard, whatever–sent them on a quest to save the world. After a week they were successful, though at the cost of incurring wounds that will never fully heal, blah blah blah.

Your spouse and friends seem entirely serious when they tell you this story. The stories are consistent in the broad strokes, but small details vary as is typical in eyewitness accounts. One person says that their trek to the villain’s mountain lair took better than six hours, while the other two point out that none of them had watches so they can’t be sure, but anyway it was only half as long. One says the magic sword that they used to kill the villain had only rubies and emeralds in the hilt, while the other two insist there was at least one diamond. None of them seem delusional, and all three promise that they are not fucking with you; this never changes. They all seem disturbed by what they claim to have undergone and ask you to never tell anyone else. Months later, the plague is still unexplained, and your wife and friends stick to their story (which, again, they avoid talking about).

Could you ever believe their story? Do you trust your spouse enough to believe the unbelievable, if it comes from their lips and explains something you KNOW happened? Why or why not?

Obligatory XKCD link.

I don’t know. I guess in the face of hard evidence that something weird went on, I could believe it. But if they disappeared for an hour, and told me stories about the decades they spent in a fantasy land located in my wardrobe, I’d never really accept it.

That XKCD installment was half the inspiration for this thread.

Hence my giving the details that I did. The fact that the person being told the story witnessed the initial weirdness and that the alleged questors were missing for a time is vital. I never bought Professor Kirke’s stated rationale for believing the Pevensies; even at 12, I could see that his reasoning did not satisfy Occam’s Razor. (Of course, he had unstated reasons for believing the story.)

Also, Narnia was not IN the wardrobe. Peter didn’t know what the hell he was talking about when he said it was. But that’s another thread in a different forum, and anyway the wench is dead.

Fuck no, I wouldn’t believe them.

I reject the premise that anything supernatural like the sun disappearing would happen either.

I actually your OP is kind of loaded that way – if magic is already happening, then it’s no leap to believe in a little bit more of it. I think it would be better to ask if someone would believe a story like that from their spouse when they had no corroborating evidence at all to back it up.

My hubby has an extremely difficult time telling lies or making things up. I would tend to believe him.

If it’s true, they will need someone to listen to them and take them seriously, not to do so would isolate and hurt them. How you mentioned that people have different interpretations of ‘known’ events should point out that people may experience slightly different realities, is it totally out of the question that sometimes certain people might experience very different realities?

I would not believe that they went off on an epic adventure without me. They should know better.

I knew I should have predicted your response in a spoiler box. I’d look like a genius. Or a precog. Or maybe a Jedi.

Er…which part of this thread will not be grounded in reality was unclear? :confused:

I started to repy with snark (what with being an asshole & all), but upon further thought I think you have a point. If either of the scenarios I suggested in the OP had occurred–especially the sun disappearing and implicit vampire invasion–then not believing in magic would become as perverse as believing in creationism. But suppose the crisis in question were more ambiguous? Suppose, say that the plague were a sickness afflicting only the first-born children in a city; that would be easier to handwave as having a mundane origin, and thus would require more of a leap of faith.

Also, part of the reason I specified my question as I did was because this is also about how much you trust certain persons. If my little sister told me such a story, I would be inclined to believe her on very little proof. Some other members of my family I’d only believe in Aslan himself appeared to back them up.

Like it’s their fault, Oak. Clearly Dumbledore kidnapped them and forced them onto the quest against their wills,and your hypothetical wife surely spent the entire time wishing desperately that you were there as you would have insisted on bringing your shotgun.

My husband is not a liar, not a prankster and is outrageously sane. If he told me something weird and supernatural happened to him I would not only believe that he believed he was telling me the truth, I would be pretty sure that he WAS telling me the truth.

The hardest part of your scenario to take is that he went on this quest with his best friend and my best friend, who are married (handy no?). WE ARE A FOURSOME DAMMIT! I mean thanks for saving the world and all, but why didn’t I get to go?

We have three kids and they have two and so I almost certainly got left with babysitting duty. Typical.

Based on the premise provided here I would absolutely believe him. I would, however, keep an eye on his behavior for a while to make sure that he hadn’t just gone crazy during that time.

I would like to think I’d believe my husband, BUT …

the lynchpin would be my best friend. She’s the ultimate UN-science fiction/fantasy person. She wouldn’t get that there’s supposed to be a magic sword or talking animals, she doesn’t have any frame of reference to make something up.

IF she disappeared for a week, AND she decided to lie about it*, she’d say something like Brad Pitt took her to the Riviera. So if she starts talking about a fantasy quest, I’d be inclined to think it’s true.

*she’s very truthful, so for the sake of the question only.

If my spouse said so, I’d worry about him but ultimately believe him and wondered why I wasn’t taken with him, like oak said. If it were friends, I’d worry even more that something drastic could be wrong. Both I’d be looking out for a little more than usual.

Yes, I believe them. The corroborated stories (I’d question them seperately, of course) cancels out the idea of delusion, and other than a mental episode like that, I trust my wife to tell me the truth. Plus, you know , the bled bodies/flaming hail…

So if it did actually happen, your response would be sit huddled in a corner, rocking slightly and repeating, “This isn’t real… this isn’t real?”

Either you’re fighting the hypothetical here, or you’re saying that even if you personally see these bizarre events, you wouldn’t accept them as actually happening. Or some third option I’m missing.

No kidding. :frowning:

I think the week-long disappearance and the other weird crap happening would really nail it down for me. If there wasn’t much of anything odd and/or the disappearance was only an hour or so, I would have real issues trying to believe it. I really don’t know what I’d do then.

I guess I am rejecting the hypothetical. I think it’s impossible in this universe for any of it to happen or for my spouse to make those claims, so altering the universe to make those things possible is presupposing the answer. It’s like saying, “if you knew that vampires really existed, would you believe your spouse if they told you they were a vampire.” The answer is that vampires don’t really exist.

There’s no point in speculating about how I would react to the impossible. I don’t like any hyotheticals which assume the impossible.

I don’t know, that’s a tough one. My SO is incredibly grounded and doesn’t lie, but then we do play a ton of medieval stuff, read about it, go to museums about it, etc. I might think the craziness of whatever else had happened had driven him around the edge.

Of course if I did believe it I’d be insanely jealous. Why didn’t you take me???

I’ve always suspected that Diogenes was actually Batman. His posting history is full of clues to that effect.

You’re the third person to make that remark, and I’m not getting it. The adventure left the questers with nightmares and clearly wasn’t their idea. I’d be HAPPY to have skipped it.

Fantasy quests are only pleasant to read about, I think.

My husband is my best buddy. We’re partners. It’s our job to get through tough stuff together. If anything, I think it’d be harder on him to realize that I couldn’t ever really understand what happened to him.

When your imagination shriveled up and died, did it make you feel sad, even for a little while?