Having read only the hypothetical, and not the responses, I’m posting to say “hell yes, we’re going to get Amy, her children, and whatever else Amy needs.” Been there, done that, and the reason we both go is that one of us can provide security for the spouse helping carry babies out of that hellhole.
In the situation I’m referring to, it was my co-worker, and I had seen the black eyes and bruises. I’d heard the pleading phone calls “we’re short today, so I’ll be an hour late, please don’t be mad.” I had been there myself, had made all of the excuses about walking into a door frame. And my husband is a cop. He’s heard it too. The only reason I didn’t go alone was that Tony knew I’d be foolhardy if I had to be, plus Tony used to work in that county and could call in favors if needed. When Jen was really ready to leave, I’d have died or killed before I’d have let anyone stop her.
As for jealousy, being afraid that the situation was ripe for my husband might cheat? If he wants to, he will. If I can’t trust him, that has nothing to do with whether his colleague or mine is in a crappy situation.