I’m curious about your take on this scenario, because these threads always seem to generate a lot of interesting commentary. So as not to seem like I’m trying to provoke people, I am personally familiar with the situation, and it actually occurred as described below. No one involved is actually seeking advice, however; I’m just curious as to how other Dopers would see this.
Here’s the setup…
A married individual gets a call from a good friend, who happens to be of the preferred sex. Friend is going through some really bad times. Friend is having some physical problems from a bad accident, recently lost a job, and has now gone through a tragic breakup. Friend is in bad shape, seeking psychological help, and is really looking for quality time with married individual. This Friend also lives on the opposite side of the country, and the two have not seen each other for several years.
So Friend begs the married individual to come out and spend a couple of days so they can hang out together, get caught up, and just have some fun to keep friend’s mind off of current hardships. Friend has some spending money and even insists on paying for the flight and hotel room.
Married person comes to spouse and explains the situation, and is looking for feedback on what to do. Note that while the spouse is not close at all to Friend, married person and spouse met Friend at the same time and spouse is well aware of the friendship.
I probably don’t really need to phrase specific questions here, but here’s what I’m generally curious about:
If you are the spouse, what is your initial reaction? Does your reaction change with more thought?
Does it make any difference what sex the married person and spouse are?
Does it make any difference, positively or negatively, that Friend is paying for the trip?
Please do not feel limited to responding to those questions. All commentary is welcome. If I’ve failed to define any terms that are relevant to you, let me know!