Mine was pretty tame and I carried a small resentment because she never would go along with it. Roll playing while we are away for weekend or vacation trips. Like the maid or the hooker for instance. She wasn’t much at fantasy or acting so I half way don’t blame her but I thought it wasn’t too much of a request.
Okay, you get to decide what you enjoy. For one thing, we’re all wired a bit differently, and if you don’t enjoy something, you just don’t. You can be willing to do something even if you don’t enjoy it, because you enjoy your husband’s pleasure, assuming it doesn’t violate your moral code and/or make you vomit. If it’s just a question of not feeling 100% comfortable, perhaps you’ll get there in time.
A husband who expects you to enjoy what he’s doing just because he wants to do it? Maybe he’s just a lousy lover.
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Wow…substitute husband for wife and you have me…who’d have thunk it ? A bald dude into other bald dudes! But…still haven’t admitted it to him after four years of marriage.
One can just delicately shift their partner’s affectionate output to something close to the desired behavior. (God, if that isn’t affected-sounding.) Reward any activity approaching the wanted behaviors as much as possible.
Not to be flaky, but Bricker’s post (sun signs and all) has got me (us) nailed. Right down to the actual signs. I’m the Virgo, he’s the Gemini. It works ok, mostly. But I’d like more kink (I’m very submissive, in a nice way) and he’s both very vanilla and very intrigued by over-the-top kink, so rarely goes there because of fear of harming me or…? I think we could get this worked out nicely, but too much life and little ones prevents relaxed and detached exploration.