If the proverbial “I” resolved that the next relationship the proverbial “I” has is going to be a much less sexually inhibited one than the last long-term relationship the proverbial “I” had, how should the proverbial “I” proceed?
Please provide slutty details.
(the proverbial “I” being female and being interested in men only IRL, and let’s just propose for the sake of argument that there is a definite prospect on the horizon 
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Sex advice columnist Dan Savage has a phrase that he abbreviates GGG. This means “good, giving, and game.” Basically, to be a good sexual partner, one should be good in bed, giving equal time and equal pleasure, and game for anything that’s physically and emotionally safe.
That boils down to the fact that you should do your best to make sure that you give as good as you get, and don’t balk at things that you haven’t tried before just because they’re new.
Hmm seeking out a relationship based on this likely will have less potential to be rewarding in any area besides sexually. I think you just proceed as usual but show your new found wild side when things heat up, and just end it and look elsewhere if he’s not into it.
Edit- not a reply to Drain Bead, who answered while I was typing
Communication about what you both want. Don’t do stuff just for the sake of doing it. Tell him what you like and if he’s game, and vice versa. Try new things that are not distasteful to at least one of you. In every relationship there will always be one who is more and one who is less inhibited. Stop worrying about that and just worry about being compatible.
Definitely not seeking this only. I just have a relationship prospect and would like for once to not have an uptight sexual relationship. The last one was uptight not because of me and now I feel like “I’m out of practice” and don’t know what to do.
The key to having an uninhibited sex life is to partner with someone that really and truly *likes *you. When you are with a man that makes you feel comfortable just being yourself, and who you know accepts you for who you are and is not constantly judging and critiquing your every move and word, then you will be as uninhibited as you want to be.
What would you do if you weren’t inhibited?
No, seriously. When you hear that little voice in your head that goes, “I can’t do that! I’m too inhibited!”, pause and ask yourself…why not? If it’s only because you’re too inhibited, then consider doing it anyway. Pretend for a few moments that you’re uninhibited. If it feels good, keep going. If not, stop. If he won’t stop with you, he’s a jerk and now you know.
WhyNot - It’s more than just a username. 
Just out of curiosity (and I supposed I could start a new thread), what, exactly, is “inhibition”? I don’t know (for example) if I’m inhibited or just so open-minded that I don’t know what inhibited is. Are we talking about women who will only do missionary, or not accept cunnilingus, or couples that don’t want to do anal play (for example, I don’t, but is that inhibition or just taste?).
I’ll give you a for instance: my last BF was super uptight about sex. He was raised hard-core catholic and there were about 3 ways we would do it, period (and I think 2 of them were under protest). Once we took a bath together and I took care of him (if ya know what I mean) and when I suggested taking care of myself in front of him, he got this ashamed/mortified look on his face and wouldn’t watch. It never happened again.
So in this case, I guess “inhibited” would mean the feeling of shame or discomfort (on either of our parts) to do (or suggest), well, just about anything that feels good.
And “uninhibited” would mean the willingness to suggest/explore/experiment all different kinds of ways of feeling good.
I have my own fears/embarrassments about putting it all out there, but I know I’d like to- I’m game for lots of things- maybe starting a little “vanilla” and moving boldly where even I have never gone before! I’m just not sure where to start or what to suggest…
Sex is a deeply shameful and treacherous thing. When you pollute yourself by giving in to your basest carnal desires, you imperil yourself in body and soul, and invite the harsh and terrible judgement of your god and all those around you.
Good luck!
Oh yeah, spank me God, I’ve been sooo naughty!!!
There’s nothing wrong with adventure as long as your partner is game. The trick is to get to know your partner & learn whats a ‘deal-breaker’. Sometimes you can only find that out over time, so I’d recommend going slow. Once you’ve expanded the horizons a little bit
(like stretching before trying yoga positions), how about a set of coupons that you give your partner for ‘No Regrets’ Fridays? Once each of you starts to discover what the other one likes, you may find that your partner goes along with what you want/need nicely.
The road to learning what each of you likes together can be a long one, but thats not a terrible thing either. The goal isn’t the finish line; the goal is the myriad of wonderful experiences you’ll share together and remember along that road which leads to the finish line.
Enjoy!
…but never invite him to your hiking Meet-Up group.
I LOLed.
A hypothetical suggestion from the proverbial “I” is to get drunk and watch some porn.
No further slutty details will be provided.
The two most important ingredients for good sex, in my mind, are variety and enthusiasm. Change it up, and make sure you’re both into it.
Of course, it seems to me that you’re asking how do you become enthusiastic about something maybe you previously haven’t been enthusiastic about? In that case, my advice is to push the boundaries slowly, so that you have time to get used to things and you don’t shock yourself, but push the boundaries nonetheless. Watch porn, talk to various people (maybe anonymously online) about their sex lives, read books or Cosmo, or whatever it takes to generate new ideas so you consistently have new boundaries to push.
Try and push past some of those inhibitions, but if something really isn’t right for you, stop or don’t do it in the first place. You’ll turn yourself back into a prude if you push too hard and end up with a lot of bad experiences.
Watch pron together.
And don’t forget the toys!
There’s all kinds! Shopping together, whether online or in the store, you can wander and discuss new things that may push both of your boundaries a bit, and learn a little more about what interests each of you.
It’s a good thing.
I would suggest having some experiences that might make you more comfortable with your sexuality. If you live in a metropolitan area you should be able to find classes and such you can attend regarding sexuality. The purpose in attending them wouldn’t necessarily be to learn what the class is about, but to get your sexuality out in the open and familiarize yourself with it as a healthy and natural thing that isn’t something to be ashamed of.
Beyond classes you could also find erotic poetry and story readings, and I know of a group around here that has potlucks and watches porn together. If you ever think about BDSM, look for a munch in your area to attend. Swingers type clubs are also fun. You don’t have to do anything just because you go. It’s perfectly ok just to go for the experience.
I don’t think the problem is with the OP, but with the partners the OP is choosing.
PICK BETTER PARTNERS.
Communication, communication, communication.
I think sexual inhibition is just another form of communication inhibition. Being able to say, “This is who I am” is very important and freeing, whether it’s about sex or about how you want to spend your weekend or what your favorite song is.
Talk early. Talk often. If something seems shocking, see if you can keep it in your head as something you’ll bring up with yourself on occasion. Maybe you’ll get used to certain ideas, or certain ideas will lose their appeal.
Being able to talk about who you really are and what you really want can improve all aspects of a relationship.