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Old 04-14-2003, 12:45 AM
Phax Phax is offline
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So, did I pop her cherry or not?

I met a girl when I was 16. We went out a few times, nothing much happened. About a year later, we ran into each other by accident. We started talking; one thing led to another and we ended up spending most of the day together. I was the only kid still living at home and my parents were out of town for the weekend. We had a rather old dog who couldn't hold his bladder more than about six hours, so I had to get home to let him out. I invited her to the house and she accepted. I swear, I had no intentions of doing anything but letting the dog out. Anyway, after the dog did his thing, it was mid-evening and we decided to watch TV. It wasn't too long before we were making out; and she was actually being much more agressive than me. We eventually went to my bedroom, had alot of foreplay, then had sex. When we were done, I was shocked to see a lot of blood all over the sheets. Being 17, I was really classless and just blurted out something like "Jeez, I'm sorry, I didn't realize you were a virgin." At that point, she was obviously embarrased, but denied that she was a virgin, though she never offered an explaination for the blood. She went on to say that she had had sex with her previous boyfriend several times.

We dated about a month and had intercourse about a dozen times. Never again did she bleed. I'm sure she wasn't having her period, as she wasn't wearing a tampon and there was no blood on my hands, even though we did a fair amount of foreplay. I guess I've always assumed I popped her cherry and she denied it because of my rather classless way of asking her.

I guess my question is - is it possible that she was not a virgin, but had not had her cherry popped yet? Or, would there be any other reason that a woman would bleed down there? (besides giving birth or surgery, etc; which obviously wasn't happening).
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Old 04-14-2003, 12:58 AM
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Yes, it is possible that she was not a virgin, yet had not had her "cherry popped." The hymen does not always break the first time a girl has sex.
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Old 04-14-2003, 01:08 AM
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Some women's hymens never break, only stretch to accomodate the penis. In talking to a few women about this, a couple have told me that they never bled.
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Old 04-14-2003, 01:27 AM
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If she'd only had sex a couple of times, and it was fairly recent, it's possible that the torn hyman might bleed again if it wasn't fully healed. I seem to remember bleeding the first few times.

Unexplained vaginal bleeding could be serious. Do you know where/how she is now? I believe it can be a sign of some cancers, but my medical knowledge mostly comes from the Reader's Digest. Still, I wouldn't mess around with something like that.
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Old 04-14-2003, 02:22 AM
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Back in high school my health teacher tried to convince us that hymens don't bleed - when a girl has sex for the first time she's usually unprepared/nervous and therefor not lubricated enough, so the blood is actually just from vaginal chafage. Since sex is so mental for women (guess you could read that a few ways), unless they're psychologically into it things don't come together right.
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Old 04-14-2003, 12:37 PM
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It's also possible that she started her period while you were having sex. It's happened to me (to be exact, my partner) several times.
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Old 04-14-2003, 12:46 PM
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I've started a bunch of my wife's periods that way.

Did you look down and say "I've been shot!"?

They always like that...
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Old 04-14-2003, 12:59 PM
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I knew a lady who still had a hymen after having two children. Not to be confused with Hymen.
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Old 04-14-2003, 01:09 PM
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I have bled for no particular reason from intercourse every once in a while - maybe every 6 months or so. I have a very sensitive cervix. I also sometimes have what is called break-through bleeding - 7 days before a woman's period is due, progesterone levels dip (which is the hormone that keeps a period from coming), and if you don't have a whole lot of it to begin with, you can get breakthrough bleeding. Sex definitely brings on my period and makes breakthrough bleeding worse. Not sure why...

So I would say no, I don't think you popped her cherry.
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Old 04-14-2003, 02:04 PM
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Sometimes excellent sex will start my period. Perhaps that is what happened.
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Old 04-14-2003, 02:11 PM
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Sex will sometimes start my period too. If there was a lot of blood that is probably what happened.

She was probably too embarassed to talk about it. At 17 with a new guy I would have been.
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Old 04-14-2003, 03:35 PM
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She also could have had a cervical cyst. That's a cyst that forms on the cervix and, during sex, can get um...knocked around and start to bleed.

I speak from experience (the guys side).
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