The first time I had sex there was no blood. That was with my first, serious boyfriend. No offense to any men out there, but this guy was very, very small. Very small. Let me stress this one more time, men, do not feel insecure, because I mean VERY SMALL. As I was young and inexperienced, I had no idea how small. (In case there are very tiny, tiny, tiny men out there reading this, I’ve heard sex is wonderful as long as you know how to “wiggle the worm”, so it’s never hopeless… this guy was great at oral, so hey).
Until five years later, after we’d broken up, and I’d met my (now ex) fiance… I thought I was ready for him. He was large. Very large. Too large… And I bled. And I felt it in the morning, by God. Apparently, the other guy was so small (I am so not kidding, this isn’t just a simple “oh, you must be exaggerating” statement) I was still a virgin, even though I was sexually active. But this guy was so big, it hurt, even long after the hymen had broken. I dreaded having sex with a man who didn’t know how to weild his weapon…
And then I met my (now) hubby, and he was juuuuust right. No bleeding, no pain, just gooooood feelings. (and that, kids, is how Goldilocks lost her virginity and found the right man!)
So yes, many virgins will bleed, however, if they don’t, it shouldn’t be anything to fret about, or be suspicious about, as many girls who do gymnastics, horseback ride, martial arts, ballet, etc, etc, can easily stretch and break their hymen that way. Or sometimes they just… well, they might have masturbated and accidentally popped it. I’m sure it could happen.
I should have known I was a virgin with the first guy… but I had no experience at all, and no basis for comparison… but… but… his length was shorter than a tampon, and I never lost my virginity using a tampon!