"So, do you like sex?"

[Saxman]

We were mulling this over down at the clubhouse, guy and gal alike, and no consensus was reached:

Gal contacts our guy friend via internet personals. They exchange emails and pics, have a phone call. They finally go out on a weekend afternoon date. She seems sweet and at first reserved, but eventualy she starts opening up. (No alcohol involved.) Late in the date, after much substantial conversation, she asks out of the blue, "So, do you like sex?"

Our guy pal is taken aback, but tries not to miss a beat. "'Sex is natural, sex is good, not everybody does it, but everybody should.' You?"

Girl laughs, and offers, "Yeah, I'm a very sexual person."

Guy friend doesn't dwell on the topic. Rest of date goes well, continued good conversation, they part with a kinda steamy kiss, and they go their separate ways. (Guy had a family obligation that evening.)

Curious to hear your takes on the situation: was our girl sending a clear signal, was she just trying to snare his attention, was our guy a fool for putting family obligations over more, er, visceral entertainment, etc....?

[Lobsang]

Yes, no, and Yes.

[cuauhtemoc]

[Clark W. Griswold]My family and I are looking for sex.[/C.W.G.]

[saramamalana]

I'm more amused that your friend went ahead and quoted George Michael without, as you say, missing a beat.

[roadrunner70]

[Ethilrist]

Yes, no, no.

It was a first date with a lady who wanted to get the important questions out on the table. Bodes well if your friend is an open, conversational type who doesn't like to sneak up on subjects to talk about.

[lieu]

That's a mighty expensive organ to just keep around for urination.

[Mith]

Not very many people don't like sex.

It's about as bright as asking "so, do you like good music?" or "do you like to be happy and have fun?"

Personally, I would see her "openess" as being socially inept. Assuming they did NOT meet up on the computer in a "hook up for romantic rendezvous, ie fuck buddies" then her question, to me, is a red flag and terribly patronizing.

But that's just me... and yeah, he probably coulda got some. Or rather, got a lot.

[Padmaraga]

I think it's overrated. I wouldn't have said that when I was in my 20's, though.

[Daniel]

My vote goes to "socially inept". She was probably interested, but had a weird way of making advances. I used to know someone like that.

[Lizard]

Originally posted by Mith
Personally, I would see her "openess" as being socially inept. Assuming they did NOT meet up on the computer in a "hook up for romantic rendezvous, ie fuck buddies" then her question, to me, is a red flag and terribly patronizing.

I have concluded, after much experimentation, that the majority of people of either sex who meet through online personals are socially inept. That's why they use this medium: it is the least demanding of them. I don't think he was wrong to turn her down on that particular night, either. I rushed into things plenty of times, and regretted it later. She'll be around.

[hajario]

Your buddy easily could have gotten laid that night and blew it. Jeez, that brings me back to my college days. I was famous for missing cues like that. Short of his sister's wedding or something, he should have cancelled the family plans.

Haj

[KarmaComa]

Originally posted by Lizard
I have concluded, after much experimentation, that the majority of people of either sex who meet through online personals are socially inept. That's why they use this medium: it is the least demanding of them.

Hmm... I don't necessarily disagree with you in general, but I've met some pretty cool people via internet personals... I moved to a new city where I didn't really know anyone, and I started when I was bored. I've met:

- 1 girl I wasn't at all attracted to, but she was cool, and I've made a couple of good friends through her (she had a photo posted)

- 1 very cute girl who turned into a get-stoned / fuck / eat-fajitas buddy (but now she has a boyfriend so she won't get freaky with me anymore.. oh well) who had a photo posted

- 1 cool girl that I fooled around with for a bit, when we were both on the rebound, and now we're good friends (had a photo)

- 1 very cool, gorgeous girl I fooled around with, and am VERY good friends with, but will not date because I don't want a relationship (didn't have a photo).

That's just my testimonial - I think it's a good site though. And believe me, I don't have problems finding women, but it's a good way to meet INTERESTING people...

[SnoopyFan]

1. Yes. She was basically saying "let's get it on."

2. No. She woulda been naked in 3 minutes had he initiated.

3. No he wasn't crazy for not blowing off his family. There are other sluts in the sea (hey, hadta be said).

[GuanoLad]

I don't like sex. But then my statistical sample is somewhat low in number.

[Typo Negative]

He should have dwelled on the subject a little bit.

At the very least, he should have a made a second date and told her he was sorry he had another obligation!

[Vlad Dracul]

She was certainly interested, but not necessarily in the way you're thinking....

I got fixed up with a girl. At the end of our first phone conversation, she made a point of saying "Oh, I just thought you should know, I DO like sex... I'm not frigid or anything."

She kept bringing sex into conversations, in one form or another, but it turned out that she was one of those girls who sees sex as a medium of exchange: "You buy me this and this and take me there... that's worth one sexual encounter".
As soon as she realized that I refuse to pay a girl's way on a date, she lost interest.

Met another... she starts telling me how sexy I am, and how much she's missed sex since her divorce. Turns out she's very religious, and will only have sex once she's married again.