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Old 03-04-2004, 09:50 AM
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Cristi Lamb R.I.P.


I'm Cristi Lamb's husband, Tim. I don't know most of you people, but I know that she has friends here that she loved dearly. I'm typing this here as this very page was left on the computer from where she left it...

I came home last night at about 3:00 AM and found Cristi in the bathtub. There was no pulse, no sign of life. I called 911. They said she had been dead for hours. The kids are fine and with me at a friends house. No one knows for sure, but I'm guessing that she had another epileptic seizure and fell into the bathtub. I'm typing through tears and having a very hard time.

Many of you have her cell # and I'll keep it with me, but for now I'm using it to contact family.

Can anyone get ahold of Patrick Malone??? Although Cristi was my wife, we were on our way to divorce. Patrick is her boyfriend - I've known all about it for a very long time. If someone would be so kind as to contact Patrick, and tell Patrick that he can contact me if he likes.

The kids don't know that mom is gone. She just got out of the hospital from having a hysterectomy days ago, and the kids just think that she's back in the hospital I don't know how I'm going to tell them. But, they are fine right now, and in good hands.

To all of her dear friends here, I'm so sorry. I probably will not be visiting this board, so please don't bother to respond here. Just pass the message to anyone who you think ought to know.

We had big marital problems, but I still loved her. I didn't want anything like this to happen. I still cared about her deeply.

I can be reached by email at:

timjonlamb@hotmail.com
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Old 03-04-2004, 10:04 AM
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Oh my god.

I'm so sorry.
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Old 03-04-2004, 10:06 AM
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Holy...
...well, there just aren't words. My sympathies and condolences, naturally, but there's really nothing else I can say.
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Sympathies and condolences, of course, but I have a very big and dumb question. What is her screen name? There are very few Dopers I know by their real names, and I don't recall anyone who just had a hysterectomy.
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I didn't know Persephone but I could tell from her posts that she was a sweet and caring woman. My deepest sympathies go out to all of her friends and family.

R.I.P. Cristi.

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Old 03-04-2004, 10:11 AM
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My first reaction of course is denial. I hope this isn't true. Although I didn't know her personally from what I read of hers, Cristi seemed like a fun, loving person who tried to do the right thing. I'm sorry for you and your children's loss. Her presence will be sorely missed.
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Sympathies and condolences, of course, but I have a very big and dumb question. What is her screen name? There are very few Dopers I know by their real names, and I don't recall anyone who just had a hysterectomy.
Doh. I should have looked closer at the OP. Persephone...
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Tim, are you being serious? What's going on?
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Old 03-04-2004, 10:12 AM
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I don't pray but I'm breaking that rule for you and your family today. What an awful thing to happen.... I am so so sorry.

Give you strength, brother.
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Old 03-04-2004, 10:13 AM
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Sympathies and condolences, of course, but I have a very big and dumb question. What is her screen name? There are very few Dopers I know by their real names, and I don't recall anyone who just had a hysterectomy.
It's Persephone, the user name of the OP (written by her husband, using the name).

I'm so sorry.
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Old 03-04-2004, 10:18 AM
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Here's Persephone's thread about the surgery.

This is too awful. My deepest sympathies to you, your family, and all her friends.
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Old 03-04-2004, 10:19 AM
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Persephone?! She is the one who always jumped to the head of the pack to take the lead whenever anyone had a need. She collected money, handled correspondence, kept accountings, and saw to it that sentiments were turned into action. She is the very personification of love — goodness put to use.
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Old 03-04-2004, 10:20 AM
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I didn't know her in real life but I know many people on this board know her well and love her. My sympathies to you and everyone here who will I'm sure be shocked by this news.

I'll report this thread to the mods in case they aren't aware of it yet.
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Old 03-04-2004, 10:24 AM
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The mods are very aware of this thread; thank you to all those who sent e-mails. I will be moving this thread to MPSIMS as a more appropriate venue.

Our deepest condolences and heartfelt sympathies to all of those involved.

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Old 03-04-2004, 10:33 AM
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Damn, damn, damn, damn.

I'm sorry to hear this.

Tim, thank you for letting us know. Although I'd never met Cristi, we had interacted here, and I'm going to miss her.

And Patrick, you have my e-mail, let me know if you need a shoulder.

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Old 03-04-2004, 10:34 AM
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Maybe our eulogies are a little premature. I hope that's true. Please let some of her board friends and the Michigan Dopers confirm this.
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Old 03-04-2004, 10:37 AM
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I just got off the phone with TruePisces and she's trying to get some more info...

I'm really hoping this isn't true......
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Old 03-04-2004, 10:38 AM
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Let's hope Cranky is right. Persephone is one of the dopers I've always enjoyed and would miss deeply.
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Old 03-04-2004, 10:38 AM
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I met Persephone a year or so ago, and she was lovely, elegant, sweet and charming. I'll remember her as she was then: laughing and chatting happily over tea at the Algonquin, a friendly and nice gal.
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Old 03-04-2004, 11:45 AM
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We hid this thread briefly while we confirmed the news. Patrick was contacted by Tim at lunchtime.

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This is just terrible, terrible news, and my sympathies towards Christi's family and loved ones. I hope you guys make it through OK.
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Old 03-04-2004, 11:47 AM
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Oh. Oh no.
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Old 03-04-2004, 11:49 AM
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Dear God, I just don't have words! I'm so sorry.
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I am deeply sorry. If there is anything I can do, I hope someone will let me know.
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Old 03-04-2004, 11:51 AM
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Dear gawd.

My thoughts go out to all who were close to her.
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Old 03-04-2004, 11:51 AM
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Wow. I am in shock.

My sympathies to Cristi's family.

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Old 03-04-2004, 11:52 AM
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Oh no.

My deepest sympathies to Patrick and Tim and family. My god, what a terrible tragedy. I'm so, so sorry.
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When I first saw this news I went looking for thread from a long time ago that Persephone started. (in MPSIMS and IMHO)

I didnt' find it but there were some many threads about her children and even a thread about her husband's birthday. Just by reading her thread titles you could see her great love and pride she had for her kids.

I will miss her.


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Old 03-04-2004, 11:58 AM
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What a shock.

My prayers and best wishes to everyone who loved Christi.
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Old 03-04-2004, 11:58 AM
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Terrible. It's never "just a message board", is it? My heart is saddened

Take every minute you have and cherish it. Treasure every moment of love and emotion you're given. Hug your family, your pets, drop a note to someone you love and haven't spoken too. It's a wonderful tribute that she would have applauded.
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Oh no, that's awful news. Condolences to her family and everyone who knew her.
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Wow, that's horrible! Deepest condolences to her family, IRL and online!
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Oh, no... oh, Cristi.
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Old 03-04-2004, 12:01 PM
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My heart goes out to Cristi's family and friends. I know that she was always grateful for the support she received from this community, and many are grieving today. Patrick, I'm so sorry.
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Old 03-04-2004, 12:02 PM
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Oh dear God, no.

My thoughts, best wishes and condolences to Tim, Patrick, and all those who loved Christi dearly. What a thing to happen to such a lovely lady.
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When I first saw this, I prayed it wasn't true. I only knew of Cristi through the board, but she seemed like a wonderful, caring, intelligent woman. I will terribly miss reading her posts.... she had amazing insight and perspective.

This has to be one of the worst nightmares loved ones can deal with.

My sincerest condolences to her family and children. But my heart breaks for Patrick. I can't imagine how difficult this'll be for him from afar. I hope you'll all find some measure of peace in the upcoming long days ahead.

I'll be keeping you all in my thoughts.

Be at rest Christi. You were much loved.
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Old 03-04-2004, 12:04 PM
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My God.

Just wanted to let people know that Eutychus does know. He called her at lunch and was told by Tim. A few of us have put in phonecalls to him but his phone is turned off. I live very close by so I'll keep trying to get in touch with him.
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Old 03-04-2004, 12:05 PM
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Dear God. I'm so sorry.
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Old 03-04-2004, 12:07 PM
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I am so sorry to hear this. I didn't know Persephone personally, but I always enjoyed her posts and recognised what a good person she was. My condolences to Tim, Patrick and the kids, and to everyone else who knew her!

Wow, this is sad!
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Old 03-04-2004, 12:10 PM
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So sad.
I didn't really know her, but she seemed very nice. It's a terrible loss.

My condolences to all her family, Tim, the kids and Eutychus.
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My prayers and condolences are with her loved ones. Be at peace.
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Old 03-04-2004, 12:14 PM
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How absolutely horrible....

Godgodgod.

All the love in the world to Patrick and to Cristi's kids and Tim.
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Old 03-04-2004, 12:14 PM
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So it's true.

I'm so sorry. I met her several times and always enjoyed her company. She will be missed.
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My heartfelt condolences.
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Old 03-04-2004, 12:16 PM
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Oh no.

My condolences to everyone. Persephone/Cristi was a bright and shining person, and I'm so sorry I never got a chance to meet her.

Please, anyone within distance, give her family many many many hugs.

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Old 03-04-2004, 12:18 PM
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I'm so very, very sorry...
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Old 03-04-2004, 12:19 PM
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Oh man, this is just so bad.

My condolences to every one of Cristi's loved ones, especially her children.
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I just want to add my condolenses for Christi's friends and family. Euty, I feel so very sorry about your loss.
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I'm so sorry.

I'm disappointed that I never got to meet her.
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Old 03-04-2004, 12:27 PM
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I have many thoughts, but few words to string together.

Peace to all.

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My deepest condolences to all who knew her and loved her.
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