Because it validates your judgement that she was a person of character, and worthy of your attention to begin with. Then you like her EVEN MORE than before, but there’s nothing you can do about it.
sigh
Face it guys, when you express interest in a woman, it’s a scenario not unlike Woody Hayes’ assessment of passing in football: “three things can happen, and two of them are bad.” The odds are against us, and there’s not much we can do about it.
Sometimes? When does it not suck?
And letting you down easy is not necessarily the mark of someone with character. It very easily could be that she just doesn’t want to deal with the drama of a nasty dumping. I guess that being let down easy is preferable to being shot down in flames, but she certainly doesn’t deserve a medal.
“It very easily could be that she just doesn’t want to deal with the drama of a nasty dumping. I guess that being let down easy is preferable to being shot down in flames, but she certainly doesn’t deserve a medal.”
Why does a “dumping” have to involve any drama at all? It sounds like she’s simply being honest and forthright - both of which are very admirable qualities. A medal? Maybe not, but no need to second guess her motives for being honest.
Exactly. And such an honest and forthright woman is NOT interested in me the way I am in her! 
Snooooopy, I was being a little ironic in the thread title. Getting let down easy is not supposed to suck, but sometimes it’s actually worse than if she were just nasty about it. It makes it harder to get over her. Capice?
But I still wouldn’t trade it for the other way. At least if shows me there are still nice people in the world, and I’ve made a friend besides.
What do you mean, no second guessing? I don’t know her, I don’t know Lizard all that well – second guessing is pretty much all I can do!
And it’s fun, too!
For the record, any dumping of “Let’s just be friends” or something which deals with “I value our friendship too much…” is like coming in second place. I know, for women it is a strong request and I’ve worked hard to remain friends with past girlfriends, but it is still a very painful thing to be dumped.
“Even the most loving rejection, at its heart, is pain” - Me
One thing that makes getting dumped gently difficult is the fact that if you were let down hard, it is easier to make justifications like he/she was just playing with my emotions, or they were being very superficial about a relationship. But when someone does it gently, it can imply that they put a lot of thought into it, and just didn’t like you the same way you did.
It can be rough. I guess the only thing you can really do to lesson the hurt of getting dumped is to try not to be too head over heels for someone if it risks getting heartbroken. One reason break-ups were rough for me is that it turned out I was attracted to the other person MUCH more than they were ever attracted to me. I guess when you really like someone, and they show some signs of affection back, its easy to be deluded that they like you as much as you like them 