Yes, that’s right, the man who only a couple of weeks previously told me he loved me and could see us spending the rest of our lives together, called me two days before Christmas and, presumably reading straight from a book entitled “100 and 1 Cliches to Use When Dumping Someone”, told me that he felt “we were moving in different directions”, that he “wasn’t ready to settle down yet”, and that he “hoped we could still be friends”. Couldn’t believe it. To add insult to injury, I had started 2003 by getting dumped by a man I loved on New Year’s Day. I wondering if this year, I can get someone to dump me on my birthday, just to make completely sure that’s there is no significant date of the year which has any pleasant connotations for me - a hat-trick, if you will.
So that’s it. I’ve had it with relationships. There’s not a single man out there who’s worth the heartache. I seem to attract men who recognise that I have trust issues, pursue me relentlessly, push and push at me till they finally break down my barriers, then, the moment I admit I have feelings for them, drop me like a hot brick. I mean, is it some kind of sick joke to them??! I can’t do it anymore, I’m an honest, straightforward person and I’m sick to death of playing these stupid mind games. So I quit. My mother’s lived all of her adult life alone, and she’s perfectly happy and content, and I can be too.
At least the whole experience has made me realise something - there are no happy endings. Prince Charming is not going to come along and sweep me of my feet and carry me off into the happy-ever-after. I’m the only person who can make my life worthwhile, and that’s exactly what I’m going to do. I’m going to stop pissing about thinking I’m going to become famous and get my life in order. Just as soon as I can stop alternating between fits of crying and fits of sheer blind rage, that is :rolleyes: .
*Note to mods: I didn’t put this in the Pit because, frankly, the naked aggression in there scares me. But feel free to move this if you think it necessary.
I am with you, ruadh, what the hell is going on?
You can’t turn round lately without someone having been given the elbow or been doing the elbowing.
Sundered hearts everywhere at the moment.
Whatever it is, I am sorry to hear that Jenny, I know you were enjoying yourself before Christmas.
I’m sorry to hear that. Yeah, ruadh is right: my husband dumped me the week before christmas. The stuff you described about the kind of guys you attract is something I can certainly relate to. I don’t know why so many people seem to become such jerks out of the blue, but they seem to.
You seem to have a positive outlook for yourself though. This is good. I hope things turn around for you for the better.
“Prince Charming is not going to come along and sweep me of my feet and carry me off into the happy-ever-after. I’m the only person who can make my life worthwhile, and that’s exactly what I’m going to do. I’m going to stop pissing about thinking I’m going to become famous and get my life in order…”
Be sure to re-read this from time to time. It’s very important.
Ouch. Sorry to hear about that Jenny. Not a nice way to spend Christmas and New Year - but its a new year, so a fresh start - which is exactly what you’re doing. Good for you.
*It seems we’re headed for a total breakdown
It keeps on getting harder to connect
If this is not a war between the sexes
Well then some kind of hex is in effect
The ones we used to call the happy couple
Have given up on romance altogether
How that perfect one could come undone
Looks like love’s in for a run of nasty weather
Lines are down, streets are redded
Pipes cracked, apartments gutted
The tough are gettin’ goin’, ‘cause the goin’s gettin’ tough
Everybody’s breakin’ up…*
Don’t be daft - you are loveable - why shouldn’t you be? Its just finding that someone who loves you. That someone who will love you for who you are, and not jerk you around.
