If you want to make a new friend that is a dude and you ask for his phone number but do not want to come off gay…I have found that saying this works:
“Ay can I get your number, maybe we could hang out sometime…ya know look for some girls or something”
Always good to add the part about girls then you will not be perceived as gay, not that I have anything bad against gay people.
I just pull out my phone and say, “What’s your number?” and type it in as they say it. Gay or not gay, asking either male or female for a phone number isn’t always hoping for sex. Sometimes a phone number is just a phone number.
I dunno, that’s still kind of vague. Best to remove all doubt from the get-go. Say, “Hey, man, can I get your phone number so that we can go out somewhere and not have any physical contact whatsoever but instead look for some heterosexual sex, which I enjoy a great deal because I am in no way a gay man. Not that there’s anything wrong with that.”
I’m just giving you a hard time, but seriously, I don’t think it’s necessary. For what it’s worth, I’ve never inferred that a guy was interested me or was gay just from his asking for my phone number – not back when I thought I was straight, not when I was in the closet, and not now. In fact, if he’d mentioned looking for girls or something, I would’ve wondered why he’d felt the need to bring it up, whether he was over-compensating or something. Not overly, but it would’ve put the idea in my head. In my experience, people are just looking to be friends unless you explicitly mention the word “date.”
Flaw: What if he’s gay? A gay guy and a straight guy can be friends, after all. But in this case, if you know he’s gay, you can’t use this method. And if he’s gay, but you don’t know it, you may make him uncomfortable and not want to hang out with you, if this statement gives the impression you only want to talk about girls. (Either because he’s not interested in girls and so doesn’t want to look for them, or because he’s closeted and doesn’t want to have to pretend like he’s finding the girls attractive.)
wolfstu’s proposed replacement query:
“Hey, if you want to hang out some time, you can give me a call…”
A positive response would be: “that miught be fun… what’s your number?”
Easy, and you don’t have to placate your sexual insecurity, or risk leading some guy on. And remember, just because you ask a gay guy to hang out, doesn’t mean you want to kiss him. Chances are, the gay guy knows this too… he’s used to most guys not finding him attractive.