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View Poll Results: How many sex partners / year have you had?
M: 0 10 5.56%
F: 0 1 0.56%
M: 0-0.5 46 25.56%
F: 0-0.5 16 8.89%
M: 0.5-1 14 7.78%
F: 0.5-1 8 4.44%
M: 1-2 24 13.33%
F: 1-2 9 5.00%
M: 2-3 7 3.89%
F: 2-3 7 3.89%
M: 3-4 3 1.67%
F: 3-4 2 1.11%
M: 4-5 1 0.56%
F: 4-5 1 0.56%
M: 5-6 4 2.22%
F: 5-6 2 1.11%
M: 6+ 20 11.11%
F: 6+ 5 2.78%
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Old 11-21-2009, 02:02 PM
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How many sex partners per year have you had...

...since you became sexually active?

For the numerator, use whatever act you count toward your "number." I'm not looking for an argument over whether a drunken BJ in a bathroom counts as a partner or not. Personally, I'm just counting intercourse.

For the denominator, use your current age minus the age that you lost your "virginity." Again, your virginity is what you make of it. Personally, I've been active for 18 years, nine of which were in an exclusive relationship.
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Old 11-21-2009, 02:04 PM
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One.
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Old 11-21-2009, 02:05 PM
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Depending on what your definition of is is I can count them on one hand. And that includes the hand. [sigh]
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Old 11-21-2009, 02:11 PM
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.21, if I did the math correctly based on your example.
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Old 11-21-2009, 02:15 PM
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Oh, I totally did that wrong.

Okay. .22222...
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Old 11-21-2009, 02:17 PM
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Yeah, in case there are any questions about the math:

Mine is 22 partners / 18 years, for 1.22. I picked "M: 1-2".
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Old 11-21-2009, 02:19 PM
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Well over 6. I had years in my 20s that the number was at least 50 per year.
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Old 11-21-2009, 02:25 PM
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Mine was 3 people/14 years, FYI.

Wait, shit, I forgot somebody. Make that 4 people/14 years. New total: .28. Does not change my poll answer.
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Old 11-21-2009, 02:50 PM
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Depending on what your definition of is is I can count them on one hand. And that includes the hand. [sigh]
Didn't do that right did I?

.2
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Old 11-21-2009, 03:42 PM
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Shit I never read the OP of a poll, I just vote. It's a bad habit. My answer is incorrect.
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Old 11-21-2009, 03:52 PM
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Whoops. Didn't read the poll before voting. You might want to ask a mod to append "per year" to your thread title.

The correct answer for me is 1-2, but I put 6+.
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Old 11-21-2009, 03:56 PM
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Thanks for pointing that out. I've reported it.
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Old 11-21-2009, 06:18 PM
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Let me see....one partner ever in almost 50 years. (Apparently I'm not very attractive.) Oh wait, I've been married to her for 45 years.

Not quite what the poll demonstrates.
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Old 11-21-2009, 06:42 PM
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Six in 11 years.
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Old 11-21-2009, 06:53 PM
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It probably works out to around 10 per year as an average. (counting from the time I was 17)
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Old 11-21-2009, 08:36 PM
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I'm wondering if this would work better if we were told to discount periods during which we were married (or in monogamous relationships to partners we would have married, for our gay friends).
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Old 11-21-2009, 09:09 PM
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I'm pretty sure this would be a more interesting poll if you used a logarithmic scale. The difference between, say, 0.5 and 1 is a lot bigger than that between 5 and 6.
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Old 11-21-2009, 10:03 PM
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Lost virginity age 26. Have had 6 partners. Am 50.
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Old 11-21-2009, 10:34 PM
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0.05 (1 in 20)
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Old 11-21-2009, 11:15 PM
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Well over 6. I had years in my 20s that the number was at least 50 per year.
I really don't know what to answer. I had years from my teens 'til age 24 when I lost count. Since that time, however, I have had only 4 sex partners. I'll be 50 in February.

So, for about 10 years, the number is probably >6 per year. Then for the next 26 years, the number is 0.15 per year.
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Old 11-21-2009, 11:36 PM
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I'm not looking for an argument over whether a drunken BJ in a bathroom counts as a partner or not. Personally, I'm just counting intercourse.
You may not be looking for an argument, but you're getting one. What disqualifies the drunken BJ . . . because it's a BJ or because you were drunk? And if you're "just counting intercourse," then I must still be a virgin, in spite of thousands of sexual encounters.

And how do I count all those thousands, followed by 22 years of monogamy?
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Old 11-22-2009, 12:14 AM
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Nothing disqualifies the drunken BJ. If you read the OP again you'll see you get to count whichever sex act(s) you like.
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Old 11-22-2009, 12:44 AM
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Obviously monogamy brings the average down over time. In my teens and twenties it would have been 6+, but now that I've been in a committed relationship for years, and married for the last few, the average has gone down since I haven't been increasing my "score" for that time.
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Old 11-22-2009, 01:07 AM
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You may not be looking for an argument, but you're getting one. What disqualifies the drunken BJ . . . because it's a BJ or because you were drunk? And if you're "just counting intercourse," then I must still be a virgin, in spite of thousands of sexual encounters.

And how do I count all those thousands, followed by 22 years of monogamy?
Sorry for any confusion; I was specifically trying to avoid just that issue. For me, nothing counts for my personal grand total but the lingam and the yoni. Other people, queer and non-queer, may have different interpretations. If you feel that a drunken beej counts as a sex partner, then count it that way. If you don't, then don't.

For some reason, I don't see monogamy the same way, even though discounting for it (as RNATB suggests) would have the net effect of doubling my personal average (assuming that's a good thing.)

I don't really see a way to construct a perfectly rigorous poll other than to have separate polls for straight, gay, and bi males and females, respectively. Since I'm doing this more out of idle curiosity more than anything else, I can't really be arsed to do it. Feel free, though.
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Old 11-22-2009, 01:12 AM
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Well then, that brings my average WAY up!
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Old 11-22-2009, 01:19 AM
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I'll just pick the highest number. I'm not even going to bother doing the math since I'm a huge ho-bag, apparently.
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Old 11-22-2009, 01:40 AM
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What are the minimum number of replacement parts allowed on a Real Doll before she becomes a new partner?
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Old 11-22-2009, 07:43 AM
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I'll just pick the highest number. I'm not even going to bother doing the math since I'm a huge ho-bag, apparently.
Me too. I can't come up with a number without using differential calculus.
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Old 11-22-2009, 09:59 AM
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I had some really slutty years. But I also had a few years where I was in exclusive relationships. It averages out.... kinda. I mean, ask me again once I've been married for a few years. That average will surely come down.
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Old 11-22-2009, 06:55 PM
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Following instructions, I get 45/45, but eactly 1 wasn't an option. My wife would be the same. (How do I know? I know.)
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Old 11-22-2009, 06:59 PM
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Well I've been monogamous for several years now, so that skews my average. Probably 4 or 5 per year prior to that.
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Old 11-22-2009, 07:26 PM
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One partner.

Thirty years (almost).
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Old 11-22-2009, 07:28 PM
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I don't think these stats are going to tell you anything.

I am not even going to vote, because my numbers don't fit onto your scale.
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Old 11-22-2009, 08:44 PM
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.4285, roughly. Streaks of player-dom, followed by years of monogamy or celibacy.

Of course, one can be many.
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Old 11-22-2009, 08:56 PM
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Shoot, I passed 6 before I ever even got to Thailand. Settled down now, but I was a randy single lad back in my early days here.
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Old 11-22-2009, 09:05 PM
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Meaningless poll; I wish I hadn't voted but I did.

So, 1.25 / 55
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Old 11-22-2009, 09:32 PM
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14ish/7ish. Unfortunately, 2 is an option in two of the choices. Should I pick M1-2 or M2-3?
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Old 11-23-2009, 08:24 AM
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If I had a quarter for every girl that I made love to ... I'd have ten cents.
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Old 11-23-2009, 09:03 AM
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I had some really slutty years. But I also had a few years where I was in exclusive relationships. It averages out.... kinda. I mean, ask me again once I've been married for a few years. That average will surely come down.
Same for me - I mean, I've had about 15 in 10 years, but the last 5 of those years, I've been with my husband and nobody else. So when I'm single, I can rack 'em up if I want, but if I'm in a relationship, then that's the only person I'm with.
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Old 11-23-2009, 09:03 AM
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Are negative numbers allowed?


How about irrational ones?
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Old 11-23-2009, 09:17 AM
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Female. 19 partners in 26 years. But when you consider that 17 of them were in the past 6 years (after my divorce) that makes it different - don't you think?
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Old 11-23-2009, 09:43 AM
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I counted intercourse and oral as "sex partners."
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Old 11-23-2009, 10:31 AM
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I counted intercourse and oral as "sex partners."
I think we all consider them sex partners.
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