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 View Poll Results: How many sex partners / year have you had? M: 0 10 5.56% F: 0 1 0.56% M: 0-0.5 46 25.56% F: 0-0.5 16 8.89% M: 0.5-1 14 7.78% F: 0.5-1 8 4.44% M: 1-2 24 13.33% F: 1-2 9 5.00% M: 2-3 7 3.89% F: 2-3 7 3.89% M: 3-4 3 1.67% F: 3-4 2 1.11% M: 4-5 1 0.56% F: 4-5 1 0.56% M: 5-6 4 2.22% F: 5-6 2 1.11% M: 6+ 20 11.11% F: 6+ 5 2.78% Voters: 180. You may not vote on this poll

#1
11-21-2009, 02:02 PM
 black rabbit Guest Join Date: Aug 2000
How many sex partners per year have you had...

...since you became sexually active?

For the numerator, use whatever act you count toward your "number." I'm not looking for an argument over whether a drunken BJ in a bathroom counts as a partner or not. Personally, I'm just counting intercourse.

For the denominator, use your current age minus the age that you lost your "virginity." Again, your virginity is what you make of it. Personally, I've been active for 18 years, nine of which were in an exclusive relationship.
#2
11-21-2009, 02:04 PM
 olivesmarch4th Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Exit 9 Posts: 10,819
One.
#3
11-21-2009, 02:05 PM
 Sampiro Guest Join Date: Aug 2002
Depending on what your definition of is is I can count them on one hand. And that includes the hand. [sigh]
#4
11-21-2009, 02:11 PM
 MsWhatsit Guest Member Join Date: Jul 2000
.21, if I did the math correctly based on your example.
#5
11-21-2009, 02:15 PM
 olivesmarch4th Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Exit 9 Posts: 10,819
Oh, I totally did that wrong.

Okay. .22222...
#6
11-21-2009, 02:17 PM
 black rabbit Guest Join Date: Aug 2000
Yeah, in case there are any questions about the math:

Mine is 22 partners / 18 years, for 1.22. I picked "M: 1-2".
#7
11-21-2009, 02:19 PM
 dalej42 Charter Member Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Chicago Posts: 8,257
Well over 6. I had years in my 20s that the number was at least 50 per year.
#8
11-21-2009, 02:25 PM
 MsWhatsit Guest Member Join Date: Jul 2000
Mine was 3 people/14 years, FYI.

Wait, shit, I forgot somebody. Make that 4 people/14 years. New total: .28. Does not change my poll answer.
#9
11-21-2009, 02:50 PM
 Sampiro Guest Join Date: Aug 2002
Quote:
 Originally Posted by Sampiro Depending on what your definition of is is I can count them on one hand. And that includes the hand. [sigh]
Didn't do that right did I?

.2
#10
11-21-2009, 03:42 PM
 myskepticsight Guest Join Date: Oct 2005
Shit I never read the OP of a poll, I just vote. It's a bad habit. My answer is incorrect.
#11
11-21-2009, 03:52 PM
 Really Not All That Bright Guest Join Date: May 2003

The correct answer for me is 1-2, but I put 6+.
#12
11-21-2009, 03:56 PM
 black rabbit Guest Join Date: Aug 2000
Thanks for pointing that out. I've reported it.
#13
11-21-2009, 06:18 PM
 sunstone Charter Member Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: Southwest USA Posts: 1,120
Let me see....one partner ever in almost 50 years. (Apparently I'm not very attractive.) Oh wait, I've been married to her for 45 years.

Not quite what the poll demonstrates.
#14
11-21-2009, 06:42 PM
 Eonwe Charter Member Join Date: May 2000 Location: Burlington VT Posts: 6,726
Six in 11 years.
#15
11-21-2009, 06:53 PM
 Antinor01 Guest Join Date: Dec 2005
It probably works out to around 10 per year as an average. (counting from the time I was 17)
#16
11-21-2009, 08:36 PM
 Really Not All That Bright Guest Join Date: May 2003
I'm wondering if this would work better if we were told to discount periods during which we were married (or in monogamous relationships to partners we would have married, for our gay friends).
#17
11-21-2009, 09:09 PM
 iamthewalrus(:3= Guest Join Date: Jul 2000
I'm pretty sure this would be a more interesting poll if you used a logarithmic scale. The difference between, say, 0.5 and 1 is a lot bigger than that between 5 and 6.
#18
11-21-2009, 10:03 PM
 BigBertha BANNED Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: NE Ohio Posts: 1,649
Lost virginity age 26. Have had 6 partners. Am 50.
#19
11-21-2009, 10:34 PM
 Ají de Gallina Guest Join Date: Dec 2007
0.05 (1 in 20)
#20
11-21-2009, 11:15 PM
 NinetyWt Charter Member Join Date: May 2002 Location: Garden Spot of the South Posts: 9,135
Quote:
 Originally Posted by dalej42 Well over 6. I had years in my 20s that the number was at least 50 per year.
I really don't know what to answer. I had years from my teens 'til age 24 when I lost count. Since that time, however, I have had only 4 sex partners. I'll be 50 in February.

So, for about 10 years, the number is probably >6 per year. Then for the next 26 years, the number is 0.15 per year.
#21
11-21-2009, 11:36 PM
 panache45 Member Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: NE Ohio (the 'burbs) Posts: 19,749
Quote:
 Originally Posted by black rabbit I'm not looking for an argument over whether a drunken BJ in a bathroom counts as a partner or not. Personally, I'm just counting intercourse.
You may not be looking for an argument, but you're getting one. What disqualifies the drunken BJ . . . because it's a BJ or because you were drunk? And if you're "just counting intercourse," then I must still be a virgin, in spite of thousands of sexual encounters.

And how do I count all those thousands, followed by 22 years of monogamy?
#22
11-22-2009, 12:14 AM
 Really Not All That Bright Guest Join Date: May 2003
Nothing disqualifies the drunken BJ. If you read the OP again you'll see you get to count whichever sex act(s) you like.
#23
11-22-2009, 12:44 AM
 Sleel Guest Join Date: Mar 2004
Obviously monogamy brings the average down over time. In my teens and twenties it would have been 6+, but now that I've been in a committed relationship for years, and married for the last few, the average has gone down since I haven't been increasing my "score" for that time.
#24
11-22-2009, 01:07 AM
 black rabbit Guest Join Date: Aug 2000
Quote:
 Originally Posted by panache45 You may not be looking for an argument, but you're getting one. What disqualifies the drunken BJ . . . because it's a BJ or because you were drunk? And if you're "just counting intercourse," then I must still be a virgin, in spite of thousands of sexual encounters. And how do I count all those thousands, followed by 22 years of monogamy?
Sorry for any confusion; I was specifically trying to avoid just that issue. For me, nothing counts for my personal grand total but the lingam and the yoni. Other people, queer and non-queer, may have different interpretations. If you feel that a drunken beej counts as a sex partner, then count it that way. If you don't, then don't.

For some reason, I don't see monogamy the same way, even though discounting for it (as RNATB suggests) would have the net effect of doubling my personal average (assuming that's a good thing.)

I don't really see a way to construct a perfectly rigorous poll other than to have separate polls for straight, gay, and bi males and females, respectively. Since I'm doing this more out of idle curiosity more than anything else, I can't really be arsed to do it. Feel free, though.
#25
11-22-2009, 01:12 AM
 panache45 Member Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: NE Ohio (the 'burbs) Posts: 19,749
Well then, that brings my average WAY up!
#26
11-22-2009, 01:19 AM
 EvilTOJ Guest Join Date: Sep 2008
I'll just pick the highest number. I'm not even going to bother doing the math since I'm a huge ho-bag, apparently.
#27
11-22-2009, 01:40 AM
 Sanity Challenged Guest Join Date: Sep 2007
What are the minimum number of replacement parts allowed on a Real Doll before she becomes a new partner?
#28
11-22-2009, 07:43 AM
 panache45 Member Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: NE Ohio (the 'burbs) Posts: 19,749
Quote:
 Originally Posted by EvilTOJ I'll just pick the highest number. I'm not even going to bother doing the math since I'm a huge ho-bag, apparently.
Me too. I can't come up with a number without using differential calculus.
#29
11-22-2009, 09:59 AM
 Serenata67 Guest Join Date: May 2009
I had some really slutty years. But I also had a few years where I was in exclusive relationships. It averages out.... kinda. I mean, ask me again once I've been married for a few years. That average will surely come down.
#30
11-22-2009, 06:55 PM
 Hari Seldon Guest Join Date: Mar 2002
Following instructions, I get 45/45, but eactly 1 wasn't an option. My wife would be the same. (How do I know? I know.)
#31
11-22-2009, 06:59 PM
 mswas BANNED Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: Censored Posts: 19,009
Well I've been monogamous for several years now, so that skews my average. Probably 4 or 5 per year prior to that.
#32
11-22-2009, 07:26 PM
 Ulf the Unwashed Guest Join Date: Aug 2009
One partner.

Thirty years (almost).
#33
11-22-2009, 07:28 PM
 GuanoLad Charter Member Join Date: Sep 1999 Location: Where the wild roses grow Posts: 18,227
I don't think these stats are going to tell you anything.

I am not even going to vote, because my numbers don't fit onto your scale.
#34
11-22-2009, 08:44 PM
 silenus Hoc nomen meum verum non est. Charter Member Join Date: May 2003 Location: SoCal Posts: 36,864
.4285, roughly. Streaks of player-dom, followed by years of monogamy or celibacy.

Of course, one can be many.
#35
11-22-2009, 08:56 PM
 Siam Sam Elephant Whisperer Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Bangkok Posts: 21,331
Shoot, I passed 6 before I ever even got to Thailand. Settled down now, but I was a randy single lad back in my early days here.
#36
11-22-2009, 09:05 PM
 LouisB Charter Member Join Date: Apr 2000 Location: Seminole, FL Posts: 8,032
Meaningless poll; I wish I hadn't voted but I did.

So, 1.25 / 55
#37
11-22-2009, 09:32 PM
 Chessic Sense Guest Join Date: Apr 2007
14ish/7ish. Unfortunately, 2 is an option in two of the choices. Should I pick M1-2 or M2-3?
#38
11-23-2009, 08:24 AM
 dhkendall Guest Join Date: Oct 2009
If I had a quarter for every girl that I made love to ... I'd have ten cents.
#39
11-23-2009, 09:03 AM
Quote:
 Originally Posted by Serenata67 I had some really slutty years. But I also had a few years where I was in exclusive relationships. It averages out.... kinda. I mean, ask me again once I've been married for a few years. That average will surely come down.
Same for me - I mean, I've had about 15 in 10 years, but the last 5 of those years, I've been with my husband and nobody else. So when I'm single, I can rack 'em up if I want, but if I'm in a relationship, then that's the only person I'm with.
#40
11-23-2009, 09:03 AM
 CalMeacham Guest Join Date: May 2000
Are negative numbers allowed?

#41
11-23-2009, 09:17 AM
 melodyharmonius Guest Join Date: Apr 2008
Female. 19 partners in 26 years. But when you consider that 17 of them were in the past 6 years (after my divorce) that makes it different - don't you think?
#42
11-23-2009, 09:43 AM
 KneadToKnow Voodoo Adult (Slight Return) Charter Member Join Date: Jul 2000 Location: Charlotte, NC, USA Posts: 20,825
M, 41

I counted intercourse and oral as "sex partners."
#43
11-23-2009, 10:31 AM
 Enderw24 Charter Member Join Date: Sep 2000 Location: KC. MO -094 35.3 39 4.9 Posts: 9,970
Quote:
 Originally Posted by KneadToKnow I counted intercourse and oral as "sex partners."
I think we all consider them sex partners.

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