After I left New Orleans, I went to live in NYC with my friend S, who is a firefighter there. Out of the goodness of his heart, S gave me a place to stay and supported me financially until I got a job and moved into my own apartment in Queens this month. So you can imagine how precious S’s friendship is to me.
Enter B. B is a fellow firefighter and EMT at the same firehouse S works out. Me and B meet and hit it off right away. We begin dating. I’m crazy about B. We spend at least an hour together almost every day, squeezing time together in around both our schedules.
Now B has a grudge against another EMT, who we’ll call Miss So-and-So. Today, for reasons known only to himself, B was trying to text message a friend of his “Miss So-and-So is a psycho bitch.” Only he accidently texted this to Miss So-and-So herself. :smack:
She, understandably upset, calls him back demanding to know what the fuck he means by that. Now does B do the right thing and be a real man and own up to what he did? Fuck no. He tries to weasel out of it by saying “My girlfriend **Mississippienne **must’ve sent that text.” :eek:
So Miss So-and-So calls S in a fury, wanting to know why I would do such a thing. S says, “That doesn’t sound like her at all” and calls me at work to ask me what the deal is. :eek: :eek:
I, of course, have no idea what’s going on. Meanwhile, Miss So-and-So has also called the chief of their fire company, and he is fit to be tied. I get B on the phone and say, “What have you done. You used my name and tried to place the blame on me! You could’ve ruined my relationship with S forever! How could you do this? You need to face the consequences and take your licks.”
B is grovelling to me, telling me he loves me and that nothing else matters but his relationship with me. I’m furious because as smart as B is, he couldn’t spare one brain cell to think that what he did could’ve screwed up my friendship with S. I’ve been dragged into a drama I had nothing to do with in the first place. I tell him, “I will forgive you, but that doesn’t magically make this better. My entire perception of you as a person has been shaken. You need to leave me alone for a couple of days, and you can consider our weekend plans cancelled.”
It looks likely that B will be kicked out of his fire company for insubordination to an officer. I told him he needs to be thinking about begging them for a chance to resign, and writing sincere letters of apology to Miss So-and-So, S, the chief, and myself.
I am so hurt! I feel so betrayed! My name has been dragged through the mud by the last person I would ever expect to do this to me. I never could’ve imagined B would be such a little weasel and try to place blame on me, of all people. The whole situation would’ve been half as bad if he’d been honest and owned up to what he did in the first goddamn place. I said I’d forgive him but I don’t know what’ll happen to us. He’ll need to show me he’s truly sorry and change his ways before I can be with him again.
