As I’ve said in a couple of thread about children, I do not like kids. I have one seven year old son who despite being smart, well behaved and free of genetic defects (other then being my son), has done nothing to change my stance on the matter. So a couple of weeks ago I decided to get a vasectomy.
Everything went pretty much as the doctor described. However, there was more bleeding than I anticipated. It’s not a lot of blood just more than I thought would be. I’ve changed the dressing three times and I there’s no more blood now.
The doctor’s office was freezing; coupled with some anxiety I had going in and I couldn’t stop shaking during the procedure.
The procedure itself was mostly pain free. The shots of anesthetic hurt like hell. The doctor begin before the local had taken full effect and I felt him pulling on my testicle. I now know what they did to William Wallace in the torture scene in Braveheart.
Are you in a monogamous relationship? If so, why not ask your SO to get her tubes tied? Was your child a broken condom baby? If not, why the jump from conventional birth control to going under the knife?
Johnpost, I just got it done yesterday. It’ll be four weeks before I take my samples to the lab.
Clockwork, Yes, I’ve been married to my wife for 10 years. She didn’t get her tubes tied because she wants to have more children. No, our son was planned. I knew I didn’t like children before he was born but everyone always says it’s different when it’s your own kids. Well, it isn’t. Lastly, I don’t like condoms and my wife didn’t like any of the options available to her. We’ve been using the pull-out method since our son was born and I was done playing the lottery.
Have you ever been in a relationship with a woman? Jesus Christ, why don’t you ask her to get her tubes tied? Have you considered basic anatomy? A tubal ligation is way more invasive and it’s a much more major surgery. According to Wiki, there is 40X higher likelihood of complications.
It’s always better in a relationship for the one who doesn’t want the kids to be the one to get fixed. If they were to ever split up, she might want more kids, but he’s not likely to.
OP, you’re entitled to your feelings on fatherhood, but I really, really hope that for the love of all that’s holy, that you never let your kid know he wasn’t particularly wanted. Fake it if you have to. You ain’t gotta love him and you ain’t gotta be grateful he’s in your life, but pretend for his sake if nothing else.
Not to mention that kids don’t stay kids forever. Someday you may find that your son has grown up to be a cool person that you will be happy to have in your life.
I give you kudos for sterilizing yourself to be responsible about this situation. I hope that your wife understands how serious you are about not having any more kids and is really okay with that.
so do you still have a package of frozen peas on your nuts? Corn actually.
what aftercare instructions were you given? I was only told to put ice on it. I was given a prescription for vicodin. I’ve taken five of the 30. I don’t think I’ll be needing more.
for how long were you told not to have an orgasm? The doctor said not to touch myself or others for a week.
how long to you hope to hold out? I’m already twitchy.
He wasn’t an accident. He was planned and I love him more than anything. I don’t have to pretend to like him, he’s a wonderful little boy. I just don’t have the patience for another.
She’s slowly coming around the idea that more children would be a bad idea. This deal just gives her big kick forward.
off my mind when I start shooting blanks.