There is this guy at my work. He is constantly coming over by me and talking to me, well he has to come over by me to restock my supplies, that is his job. But he will come over and we will have conversations and when he is just walking by we will make eye contact almost every time he walks by and he will give me a smile. He will also walk behind me and run his hand across the small of my back or try to get as close as possible as to brush up against me or something like that. We will go to break together as well. He will wait for me if I’m running behind. He has made some comments about how he likes hitting on me and stuff like that. He has wanted to shotgun with me for a while now. Does that mean he wants to try and kiss me or does it mean something completely different when shotgunning? He has a girlfriend but he has said that he is not happy with her. He has also noticed me checking out his stomach before when he lifted up his shirt. I’m into him so I’m wondering if this is something I should pursue or if he is just flirting with me for giggles or if there is hope he would break up with his girlfriend and become available?
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What the hell is shotgunning?
You can’t mean “drinking a beer really, really fast”, can you? Can you?
BigBertha, is that you?
Seriously though, if he has a girlfriend - lay off. Have respect for other people’s relationships. Also, if he’s behaving this way with you while he has a girlfriend, think about how he’ll act w/ other girls if he eventually starts dating you.
Looking through the urban dictionary for definitions of ‘shotgun’ gives several possible meanings. All of which suggest he is ‘into you’.
Maybe she meant Shogunning, which is where they dress up in traditional samurai garb and reenact battles against the Mongol Empire.
Gotta agree with Bob Ducca on this one. Sounds like a variation of “my wife just doesn’t understand me”. A little flirtation is usually harmless, but I never think dating someone you work with is a good idea.
Shotgunning: front passenger seat; chugging beer from hole in bottom of can; inhaling weed smoke directly from another’s mouth; pregnancy wedding; applying for every job in a company hoping one will stick. Also, other sex stuff that all sounds stupid.
That’s all I got.
This guy sounds like a skeevy perv to me. Wanna date you after dumping his girlfriend? Maybe. Prolly not. Wanna just knock boots right now? Sure. Bet he’ll drop you like a hot chimichanga right after.
What is “shotgunning”? This isn’t yahoo nswers, you have to lay this shit out.
I’m assuming you are really young, or really inexperienced. Either he’s a a creepy letch who just wants to fuck you and doesn’t care about much else, or he loves you, or something in between. (Based on and the fact he already has a so-called girlfriend your description I’d guess mainly wants to get into your pants and is getting a cheap thrill out of your obvious infatuation with him.)
I suspect you are very young…just watch out for yourself and don’t take common flirtation so seriously at your age. It’s almost never serious.
Yeah, he’s into you…but he’s still into his girlfriend as well.
Let me ask you this…would you be ok being his #2?
In general, if you’re wondering if someone’s into you, and you can list reasons why he or she might be, he or she is.
He probably is into you. That said, he needs to ditch the girlfriend if he wants to be with you.
Don’t be “that” woman, it’s not cool.
The first thing that popped into my mind isn’t even on your list: skeet shooting (target shooting with clay pigeons and a shotgun).
Where I work, that would qualify as sexual harassment.
Then he, and I speak from some experience here, should end things with her.
That being said, there’s a lot of good reasons not to fish from the company pier.
He has a girlfriend and he’s flirting with you. If you date him, who else is he going to be flirting with?
From what you’ve posted, this guy is not a good choice for romance.
Yes, the sleaze is into you. The question is: is he attempting to be sure he’s got you lined up before dumping his girlfriend, or is he hoping for a bit on the side?
He’s definitely trying to get into you.
Oh, well hell. That changes everything. In that case, he’s definitely trying to stick his naginata in your…um…sushi?
Ew.
The question for you is: is your present relationship strong enough to survive a threesome?
This guy is up to no good.