This is kind of an embarassing question, but I guess if you can’t ask embarassing questions on the SDMB, you can’t ask them anywhere…
Yesterday I went to the gym, and after working out I was exhausted and decided to sit in the steam room for a few minutes. I sit in there sometimes; I was self-conscious about it at first, but typically there’s either no one in there, or just a couple old guys, and it really doesn’t seem like such a big deal. I never talk to anyone in there, a) because I don’t know anyone at that gym, and b) because it always strikes me as kind of an awkward time to talk to someone, sitting there in just a towel – it’s kind of like talking to someone at the urinals. But yesterday a guy a couple years older than me came in, sat near me, and started talking to me. Just general conversational stuff, and he was friendly, so I talked back for a bit. Turns out he was a Spanish teacher, and as I’m trying to learn Spanish, I tried to speak a bit with him en espanol for practice. Anyways, after a while I started to get the impression that maybe the guy was hitting on me a little bit: a) he complimented my physique, which was strange and unexpected because it does not deserve complimenting, b) he asked me where I live and whether I live with my family, c) he offered to give me some pointers on working out and suggested we get together some time for him to show me, d) he gave me his card so I could get it touch with him, e) he asked me which days I come to the gym, so that we might get together.
That might not sound like much, but it was a lot of pointed information to come out of 5-10 minutes of chit-chat. All of it was said very smoothly and conversationally, but still – does this seem like a normal degree of forwardness to expect from someone you’ve just met? And in a steam room no less?? Does it sound like he was trying to come on to me, or is that just me being paranoid? I don’t have the best gaydar, so I can’t say I got a very strong vibe from him one way or another, but at any rate he didn’t strike me as being obviously, flamingly gay. And even if there wasn’t a sexual undertone, does it seem at all weird? Or am I just being a cold, distant, loner type who gets suspicious when anyone’s friendly to me?
Note that I honestly don’t care if the guy is gay, but I do not want to lead him on, because I have absolutely no interest. Also, it occurred to me that maybe that is more common of gym culture/locker room talk than I’m aware of; I dunno. Any help?