On my lunch hour today, I walked across the street to CVS to pick up some supplements and some protein powder. While I’m in the store, I paused by the magazine rack and perused some of the muscle magazines to get some workout ideas (and to drool over the buff models). As I’m reading Men’s Health, I hear a voice say, “So you work out, huh?” I look to my left and there’s a fiftyish man, huge gut, standing next to me likethis. He stares at me, then asks if I know where the computer magazines are(they’re right in front of him next to the sports mags) It’s really obvious what this guy is cruising for, and it ain’t magazines. i give him the brushoff and go in search of the protein bars. As I walk away, I see him look at me. I go to the checkout queue, and as he’s leaving, he stares right at me again.
I can see why straight guys hate gay men if this happens often. It just creeped me out so much for several reasons.
For all this guy knew, I could be a typical straight homophobe weightlifter and he’d be in trouble.
We’re in freakin’ CVS! A guy should be able to shop without having some creepy old guy cruising him.
The guy was a fat, old troll. Even if he’d looked like Caspar Van Dien, I’d have been repelled. When you’re some fat, flabby, basketball-smuggling, separated-from-Homer- Simpson-at-birth-looking old man, do you really think I’m going to gobble your knob? Does he really think his pale, fish-white, Gutzilla body is going to get me all ramrod stiff and ready to rock? Hah!
I think that wring was just being general, there. Frankly, as many times as I’ve been hit on by greasy freaks, I would never put that on the same level as what Freak did to that poor lady.
However, it’s still fucking annoying. I’m glad I’m engaged, because I rarely get hit on anymore. Guys see the ring and just don’t even bother. It’s nice.
Sorry goboy, was NOT trying to imply that you resembled FF 'tall. please forgive.
In my work (I work with convicts, helping them find employment), I hear many men complain “whuttza madder?!! doncha like getting compliments?!!? sheesh!” , and I always try and point out to them that if the tables are turned ** they ** would feel uncomfortable, just like you did. then, of course, they burp and say something about “yea, well, I like it when a wimenz talks nice to me”.
My work is challenging, shall we say.
But, please, I meant no personal attack to you in any way.
Oh no… Freak’s thread isn’t going to clutter up this thread, is it? Because that one got way outta hand. And believe me, the guys women hate who are like that go way beyond what Freak did. At any rate, yes, man, I feel for you. That must have kicked your appetite in the balls…
He was coming on to me at CVS. Wrong place, wrong time. He violated my personal space getting way too close to me, and
I don’t like pople staring at me in a predatory way.
As I wrote in my post, even if had been attractive, Iwould have been creeped out, but being old, fat, and ugly definitely didn’t help him.
I am no body Nazi. I lift weights because I like to be healthy and I want to look good. FYI, the guy I’m seeing has a small gut, but on him it looks good.
Oh, puh-leeze, Mary! I mentioned my looks because they were what attracted him. I like to look good because that’s what gets me men. On the other hand, that’s not all i am, and if a guy treats me like a lust object, he gets kicked to the curb(figuratively)
You work out, make yourself attractive, then take offense when someone notices? Just because he wasn’t your type doesn’t mean he deserves such hostility and derision.
So you had someone hit on you. He didn’t follow you, he looked at you. Grow up and realize that when you put yourself on display others than just those whom you would sanction will look at the goods.
I’m sure it’s better if he said, YOu know, you have GREAT legs, you should wear shorts and high heels…or something like that.
Some guy did that to my friend at work. She was really creeped out…
I think the thing that was over-the-top was that the creepy guy moved in close “likethis” to goboy. I HATE THAT. I like my personal space, thankyouverymuch. I hate it when strangers get too close to me. Creepy.
CnoteChris, you should probably write to Men’s Health and tell them they have a straight reader: it’ll probably screw up their demographics.
Goboy, I agree that you had a right to feel uncomfortable, but I really get a sense that if it had been Casper Van Dien you’d’ve reacted differently. Besides, it sounds relatively low key: he could’ve gone a much lower route, with like quiet moans and lipsmacking noises, to revisit a memory I thought I’d forgotten.
In any case, it seems to me his greatest offense was the invasion of your personal space; the rest seemed like a relatively polite version of something that could have been a lot ickier.
I have to say, goboy, that you overreacted. This guy commented on what you were reading, asked you a innocuous question, and looked at you as you walked away. Even assuming you are correct in your belief that he was flirting with you, I can’t see his behavior as offensive.
I’m straight but I could see myself using the same approach if I saw an attractive woman I found interesting. I’d make an attempt to strike up a conversation and she if she returned my interest. But I’d like to think if she did not, she’d still be flattered by the attention. I certainly wouldn’t want to think she was walking away thinking “God, I’m insulted that someone as ugly as him even thought he had a chance with me.”
