the gall of some people!

The BBQ Pit
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So here i am, monday morning, july 1. in a huge line at the bank because of course, i wasn’t thinking about the fact that it was the first of the month, or that it was 9:00, just that i needed to deposit my paycheck before work.

i get stuck in line behind ONE OF THOSE GUYS.

first he just says something rather innocuous, opening line or whatever. somehow the “conversation” (rather one-sided on his part) turned to age, and he asked me how old i was “16 or 18?”. um no. i tell him pleasantly that i’m 23. he shows huge surprise (now i’ve been told by many people that i look more mature than my age, and i know for a fact that i don’t look like a 10th grader. wishful thinking on his part i guess).

so i open my book. happens to be about animal culture. mistake. gives him more fuel for discussion.

he says, “i like a girl who likes animals. shows she has heart, that she cares.”

ok, so up to this point nothing really bad, nothing to remark really.

then he asks me if i have kids. no.

husband? no.

boyfriend? yes.

his reply? “oh that’s too bad. you know, if you’d met me first…”
well let me tell you, if you were good looking and seemed intelligent (and further not looking to score on underage girls) and didn’t have nasty rotting teeth and reek horrible of BO, then maybe, just maybe, i might be flattered that you were interested. as it stands, i think i’ll just hold my nose internally, pray another teller opens up, and bury my nose in my book.

what gives? do big breasts and blond hair make me a nasty old man magnet? argh!

if any of you want to share your experience, this is the place!!!

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And this you need to ask?

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Look, I just thought you looked nice. And young. And nubile. And flexible and…

Whoops! Gotta change the Depends!

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And you’ve been stewing on this for a month? You’ve been in a coma? You were in line at the bank all this time and just now got home to post about it? What gives?? INquiring minds want to know!! :wink:

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well…i was just trying to repress the memory of it, but it just kept popping up at me saying “scarlett67 will want to hear this! smdb must be informed!!!” :slight_smile:

oh, and i may have exaggerated his age a bit…he was maybe late forties…which isn’t old, it’s just when he thinks you’re a teenager and he’s hitting on you, that’s way out of line…

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JPEG!

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Well, the Straight Mope Dessage Board appreciates your story!
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I’m a “dirty ole man” and damn proud of it. :stuck_out_tongue:

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GROSS
its too bad chivalry is dead.
I willl NEVER understand why ugly men think they can talk to me.
I mean, do they have that much confidence in themselves that
they think a beautiful woman is going to say… yes… press
your smelly mouth against mine , run your sausage fingers through
my hair… oh i love it so much…
GROSS
Men need to check themselves before they wreck themselves.

p.s.Casey Affleck is sooooooooooo HOT

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wow. Thank you HotVespaMama. My head just exploded.

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I still think they oughta change the name… some of the mopes on this dessage board aren’t straight.

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:smiley:

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OMG HOTVESPA DISD U HEAR ABO:UTS THAT NEW HANSON AND NSYNC COMBO CONSTCERT!?! I HAERS IT IS TEH COOL. AFTER ATHAT WE CAN GO SHANG OUT WITH THE FOOTABALL PLAYERS!

It will be soooooooooooooo cool.

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Let me help you understand:

The lines of confident/insecure do not run along with those of handsome/ugly. Not only that, but the is a whole lot of grey in the middle.

Don’t feel bad if your natural reaction to someone repulsive is repulsion, but I would try to stay away from berating people based on their looks. Try to remember that ugly people have feelings, too. I guess I’m just lucky that I fall in the insecure/ugly group, so I don’t have to endure that stuff.

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I cant really comment on the OP, since I’m neither a lecherous old man or a large breasted female, but you see the creepiest people in banks and post offices.

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I thought it was the S&M DataBase…

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Well, I’ve always been of the school of thought that one can’t ever really know the meaning of an initialism unless Mangetout is consulted.

Sometimes I fail to think before I post.

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For once I agree with tomndebb…

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I wonder if this is going to be a male/female split. I’m with Sivalensis. If I’m at the bank, I just want to attend to my business, not be hit on, especially not if I’ve just been asked if I’m a teenager (not that that’s likely to happen any more). The one-word answers and Sivalensis’ opening a book should have told the guy that he was better off forgetting it. Just because he’s male does not require that she be interested in starting a conversation with him, let alone a relationship.

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By the way, I’m sort of intrigued about how we’ve got one set of people condemning Sivalensis basing his attractiveness based on his looks, and another group of people quite eager to get a better idea of hers. Now to me, physical attractiveness is directly related to mental attractiveness, so if you look like Pierce Brosnan and are being a nuisance, your attractiveness is going to drop like a rock. OTOH, I wound up falling madly in love with a man I did not at first find all that good looking. I still am inclined to describe him as handsome because of who he was.
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Sivalensis, I’m sorry this happened to you. I don’t think being blonde and big chested has anything to do with this, but I’ll get back to that one later.

CJ

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i wasn’t so much just that he was ugly or old or whatever that made this such a thread-able encounter. i mean, sure, if someone opens their mouth and there are ten rotting teeth in there, it’s a bit of a turnoff, but that wasn’t the biggest of my objections - the age difference thing bothered me, that at first he didn’t even think i was legal! and the fact that he just didn’t take a hint and when, i think, i was pretty clear that i wasn’t interested in the conversation.
oh, and btw, rotting teeth and enormous bo (for the most part) aren’t as much just basic ugliness, it’s a way of living…you don’t take care of yourself, you don’t wash, you don’t brush your teeth. well, if you don’t take care of yourself, don’t try to take care of me!

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I’m not out to pick on groups of people here, yet it sounds like some folks are clueless on the realities of life.

Pretty people can get away with anything. Attractive, blond, big-breasted young women and hard-muscled young hunks can be clueless or rude, and they will be forgiven, unless the behavior is truly egregious. If you have great abs and a dimpled chin, the world will want to get to know you. Ugly, old, fat people have to compensate for their physical shortcomings with good behavior and a sparkling personality. Rude behavior is made even creepier when it comes from somebody one finds physically repellent. It’s unpleasant but true.

It also depends on how you carry it. Paul Newman is in his 70s, yet he is still way fuckable. Bob Dylan, OTOH, is 10 years younger, yet he is utterly repulsive. Ditto with being heavy. John Goodman is hotter than a pistol, and I would shag him bowlegged, yet Louie Anderson totally skeeves me out.

**The vast majority of people have no clue about their relative attractiveness. **There are any number of adorable, 20-something men and women, for example, who only see their flaws in the mirror; yet they totally ignore the other qualities that make them so darn yummy. Conversely, there are too many people who have no business wearing string bikinis or bicycle shorts. A hard-muscled 28-year-old can wear clothes that look absurd on a flabby 48-year-old who hasn’t hit the gym in years.

In the cruel world of the gay bars, this is ever apparent. Nothing is sadder than some fat, predatory old troll trying to hang with a crowd of 20-year-old twinks. OTOH, a middle-aged, yet muscular and hairy-chested leather daddy can get all the action he wants.

Hygiene counts. If you don’t shower, use deodorant, or brush your teeth, you can’t expect that anyone will want to be anywhere near you, let alone want to shag.