I don’t mean to pick on you, so don’t take this post the wrong way. But frankly, I’m tired of people pathologizing bratty behavior in kids. Yes, a very small percentage of kids lack social skills because of atypical neurological wiring. But the vast majority are perfectly normal…it’s just that they have too high of an opinion of themselves and their ideas. And there’s nothing wrong with taking them down a peg either. Not abusively, of course, but not wth soft, gentle tones either.
The fear that a kid could be ADD, ASD, OCD, or whatever is what makes people afraid of correcting children–both their own and other people’s–nowadays. I know these disorders are very real, but like I said before, they don’t apply to the vast majority of kids.
If they don’t get trained during childhood, then they will get it later in life in the form of a good punch in the throat or someone going off on them in the workplace.
For instance, the other day a coworker made yet another annoying remark about my lunch. I let it pass, thinking that’s just the way she is as a person and no need to blow a gasket. The very next day, though, I had the same lunch and she made the same annoying remark, except very loudly and childishly (fyi, my major “faux pas” was putting ketchup on chicken :dubious:). I was already in a bad mood, so her commentary just made me want to wring her neck. Instead I told her I was eating lunch alone and went back to my office. I’ve been considering doing it on a permanent basis for awhile, but this interaction has made up my mind. Fuck socializing just for the sake of it.
This bratty adult was no doubt a spoiled, overly-opinionated kid. She annoys everyone and has even been told as much to her face by the boss. But of course, she can’t see it. Maybe if she had been told off a few times in childhood, she wouldn’t have such a blindspot now.
My parents went overboard sometimes, but at least no one could have ever accused any of their kids of being brats. Even my rebellious sister was always respectful to teachers and authority figures.
Yelling at a kid every now and then is not going to scar them. Yelling indiscriminately over minor stuff is bad. But disrespect should be pointed out swiftly, damn hurt feelings and humiliation. When you’re rude, you should feel the consequences of your actions and not just be given a pass. I don’t care how old you are.