Again, :rolleyes: Nobody has “done way with right and wrong” or eliminated “the concept of individual responsibility for one’s actions, and replaced them with the no-fault get-out clause of blaming everything on illness,” so you can put that particular strawman to rest without setting it aflame. There’s no indication from the OP that the child is exhibiting “brattishness”, other than being perneciously irritated by a tic that would presumably pass unnoticed by most people. That alone indicates a problem, as opposed to being a brat.
It is the case, though, that some children have much greater difficulty than others in paying attention, controlling their impulses, or consistantly applying themselves to a task. Call it a disorder, a personality quirk, or a duck, but the fact is that teaching them ways of focusing attention, putting them in or removing situations which cause distractions, and (sometimes) a judicious application of medication creates a significant increase in quality of life and ability to focus.
Giving them a good bit of the old ultraviolence teaches them…well, it teaches them to hit people when they aren’t getting the results they want. Or it teaches them that, despite their efforts to focus, concentrate, or block out distractions, they are stupid, lazy, and worthless. This is clearly what Case Sensitive would like to do.
There is a difference between willful disobedience–in which a child is defiant or disruptive in order to get attention or establish dominance over an adult–and attentional distress. Given that the kid in the OP choses to leave the room (in most cases) rather than make an issue of the problem suggests the latter over the former. Punishing a child for the latter is worse than useless; it avoids teaching the child a constructive way to deal with the problem or diagnosing and treating a legitimate ailment/disorder/personality quirk/feathered avian, and instead indicates to the child that he or she is just inherently flawed for their inability to stop feeling irritated. Whether it should be considered a pathology or not depends on how much it affects the person’s quality of life and ability to work and study; but clearly, this is an issue for many people who are eventually diagnosed as having a neurological disorder like Asperger’s or ADD.
But hey, if you just want to adovcate beating the kid and berating him as deliberately “being a pain in the arse”, why don’t you take it to The Pit? Here you go, I already started a thread for you.
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