I think it’s all Badmana’s fault.
If even one person reads this thread, and then goes out and molests a child, it’s all Badmana’s fault.
No, but seriously… I sure would like to know exactly the circumstances behind who we’re calling pedophiles, and who I might not agree with.
Once upon a time, when I was 22 or so, I once met a lovely lady in a bar, who offered to take me home with her if I’d teach her how to rassle. I was more than amenable. We were already out to my car before she remarked that I’d have to be out by a certain hour, though, as that was when she expected her parents home.
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I asked how old she was. She said she was fourteen.
I about jumped out of my shoes. I could practically hear the cell door closing behind me already, right there in the parking lot. She didn’t LOOK fourteen, but I understand that most juries don’t buy this as a defense.
I decided not to go home with her. In fact, I made a point of going back into the bar, so no one could say they’d seen me leaving with her. She made it back into the bar, too, and gave me dirty looks for the rest of the time I was there. Exactly how she was able to enter this particular den of sin, I dunno. Like I said, she didn’t look fourteen, and the bouncers weren’t real strict about carding ME.
So… does this make me a pedophile? I will admit I was excited about the idea of having sex with her. She was yummy.
On the other hand, finding out her actual chronological age affected me like a bucket of cold water.
Based on this evidence, I would assume I’m not a pedophile.
However, if her parents had been staying out all night, I would technically be a child molester. There’s a thought that’s kept me awake a night a time or two. And if the cops had somehow become involved, I would now be a registered sex offender, assuming I was out of jail yet.
Here’s some more food for thought:
Read a case a while back where a boy and a girl got to humpin’. They were teenagers, same high school. Uh-oh – she got knocked up. The kids discussed the matter… and decided to come clean with the parents.
The parents got together and held a meeting to decide what to do. The kids said that they loved each other, and didn’t want to break up.
Finally, it was decided. The teens would get married. She would keep the baby. The parents would stand by the kids and support them. He would work part-time until graduation, and then work part-time while in college; she would start college when the baby was old enough for nursery school. Both families would provide some financial support to make it all come together.
Sounds like a strong possibility for a happy ending, right?
Wrong. Local district attorney decided to get involved. Deduced from the baby’s birth date and doctor’s reports that at the time of conception, Daddy was a legal adult whereas Mommy was still a minor (due to the local ages of adulthood and consent).
He issued a warrant for the boy’s arrest, and had the sheriff pick him up at work. Charged the boy with statutory rape, and made a big noise about “child molestation.”
The parents were outraged. The judge who wound up having to try the case wasn’t too happy about it either… but he wound up having to uphold the conviction. Technically, what they had done was against the law.
This made our Daddy-boy a registered sexual offender and a convicted felon, all at the tender age of eighteen… for having sex with his fifteen-year-old girlfriend just a tiny bit too early.
Now, I am not going to stand up and defend child molesters. Far from it. I am a parent, and I personally don’t see why we keep the repeat offenders alive.
But then… my idea of “child molester” is basically … “adult who seduces a minor when there is an age difference of greater than… um… hell, I dunno… six years? Ten years?”
Is a 40-year-old who seduces a 14-year-old a molester? Yes, I think so. Shoot the bastard.
How about a 20-year-old who seduces a 14-year-old? Um… well, yeah, I guess so. What, he can’t find someone his own age?
Then what about an 18-year-old who seduces a 14-year-old? Uh… well… plainly, I don’t approve of that sort of thing, and I think there should be legal consequences of some sort… but… child molester? Hell, the kid’s barely in long pants himself!
Where do we draw the line?