Though you’ll notice that cases related in the thread all have the man older than the woman.
My dad is two years younger than my mom, and that’s about the furthest I’ve seen in that direction.
I’m a 29 y/old male, but I don’t yet feel qualified to answer this.
I am willing to undertake some field-work as research - purely in the interests of fighting ignorance, of course!
Perhaps a 18 y/old female doper would be willing to participate in this important scientific endevour? :dubious:
I’m sure my wife will understand, but if not please scatter my ashes at sea.
My husband’s first wife was 20 years his senior (they only broke up because of her drug problems at the time). My father’s first wife was 15 years his senior (they broke up because of HIS drug problems at the time…common thread in my family, huh?) That doesn’t bother me either. As someone said above, age is a number, nothing else.
A lot of people look at the age difference between my husband and I and think that I’m being taken advantage of because I’m so young and therefore must be so dumb and naive, whereas my husband must be a worldly guy because he’s 36. I think that’s a lot of the issue here - but the problem is that NOT all young people are dumb and naive. Once you take that into consideration, it doesn’t seem like an issue.
~Tasha
Well, I’m dating a guy who’s 12 years younger than I am, so obviously I don’t see anything wrong with it.
However, I would make sure you’re upfront about where you see things going. If you’re just in it for sex, and she’s hearing wedding bells, it’s probably not very nice to string her along like that, yano? Particularly if shes inexperienced. Do her future boyfriends a favour and don’t turn her into a bitter and twisted harpy by age 21, ok?
Is the 29-year-old wealthy and the 18 year old hot? That could explain a lot.
Or have I been listening to Leykis 101 too much?
It depends entirely on the two people involved.
::coughing::
I always thought the rule of thumb was that you shouldn’t date anyone below half your age plus 7. For a 29-year old, this would be 21.5.
There’s a lot that can go wrong with such a relationship, but there’s nothing immoral or creepy about it.
I swear, people are obsessed about age differences nowadays. My parents were seven years apart in age. My dad met my mom when he was 23 and she was 16. They got married about three years later and had me a couple of years after that, when she was 21. How many other people on this board have similar family histories?
I’d bet that quite a lot of you guys have parents who met and got married at ages that are considered “unusual” 30 years later. It’s not unusual, it’s the norm in most of the world, including modern industrial countries. What’s weird is women waiting until they’re on the edge of infertility to get married and have kids, or men old enough to be grandfathers in other cultures who have just gotten married for the first time.
Who cares what the “oogy” age range is? Are you in the relationship? If there’s no force or coercion involved, it’s up to the people involved to be making that decision.
I don’t see a problem, considering the small amount of information here.
When I was 17 I was dating a 34 year old. Granted, that particular relationship was a bad idea, but not because of the age difference. Since then I’ve dated guys ages 18 through 32 or so. I’m still close friends with some of the 30+ year olds, so obviously young pups can have plenty in common with grown men.
It really does just depend on the individuals and what they’re looking for. I’d be concerned that they don’t seem to be on the same page, though. That just isn’t right.
When I was 23, I had a fling with a 49-year-old woman. Both of us agreed on the type of relationship we were having.
When I was 32, I had a relationship with a 20-year-old young lady. We decided to leave it as a casual and light relationship. Eventually, only one of us fell in love.
Age is irrelevant if it works for the two individuals involved, and yes, I have known of several relationships where the woman was 10 or more years older than the man – in one case a beautiful, romantic marriage of 30 plus years now.
If this is just casual sex and the woman is inexperienced, caution and consideration are called for (this is the case regardless of the genders of the involved parties). Seems to me like a younger individual with limited experience is more likely to get emotionally entangled, and the older person has some responsibility to look out for the younger one’s well-being. Similarly, one hopes the older person will initiate the younger one into whatever sexual practices turn them both on in a considerate, patient fashion.
At 17 I had a 27-year-old BF. He was the most considerate lover and very understanding! He didn’t teach me everything I know but he sure got me off to a good start.