I’m a 28-year-old, single guy and I get pressure to produce grandkids for my folks. Meanwhile, I haven’t had a serious relationship since college.
I do enjoy being single, though. Not that I’ve been playing the field a whole heck of a lot, but sometimes I think about my career and the things I like to do in my spare time and I think to myself that the last thing I need right now is a gf.
Being alone is not what bugs me. What does bug me is that single folks are made to feel like… well, like… I guess Eve said it best when she started the thread:
In addition, I hate being made to feel as if I need to quickly go out and find an SO just to satisfy the requirements of couple-oriented activities my friends put together. I get calls all the time that go something like this…
“Hey THespos, me and Mrs. X are going out to the movies with Mr. and Mrs. Y and Mr. and Mrs. Z. Wanna go? OK, great. Who are you taking? Oh…OK. Mrs. X has a single friend. Want me to arrange something?”
Since when does taking in a movie become a worthless experience without an SO?
To be honest, the study probably DOES count someone that is single and living together as SINGLE.
These type of studies are almost always very strict and very one-sided. One of my huge pet-peeves are homeless statistics when several of the studies actually COUNTED people that were 18 or older but didn’t live in thier own place. So if you are 19 and live with Mom, you counted. Have to take all of these with a very large grain of salt.
But really, I think that if anybody here who is single and wants to change that, or even have a date, or make friends this seems like a really good place to meet people of your preferred gender. Similar interests, you can get to know them some first, all that Dear Abby stuff. And many of them are more sincere than might be assumed at first glance. Well, not me, but there are some nice people here. Give them a chance.
Michi - I know what you mean. I didn’t use to mnid being alone. I always figured at some point I’d find someone who loved me, who I could love back, It just never happened. But it’s not a biological clock I hear ticking. I have never wanted kids and I don’t know. But I’m tired of being alone. I’m flirting-impaired, and frankly, men just aren’t interested in me, for whatever reason. I’n not homily, I’m not pretty, I’m sort of plain, I guess. I’m short, but not overweight, but not skinny. I’m reasonably well-read and well-spoken. But for whatever reason, guys don’t bite. Or if they do, I don’t recognize it for what it is. (I was chatting with my vet, who always likes to stay and talk to me. We were talking about being single and eating out VS microwaving. He asked me if I’d ever been to a local Chinese place. I told him I used to eat there until I saw a roach on their buffet. It wasn’t until I was driving home that I realized he might’ve been leading somewhere with that.) BTW - Do vets usually stay and chat with patient’s owners for a half hour instead of seeing other patients?
Anyway, I’m tired of being alone, and that’s exacerbated by my bout with depression. Good luck finding someone, if that’s what you want.