Eh, actually, Gemma, I think you missed his next statement here:
IMHO height’s a poor reason to turn a guy down. If height is a dealbreaker for a woman you’re looking to date, she’s probably not someone you want to hook up with anyway.
Funny you should say that. Actually, I did go out with 2 of the computer guys named Dave; both figure prominently in threads of a year or so ago.
One Dave-date never went anywhere, because among other things he didn’t know how to make eye contact when conversing, and I obviously made him really uncomfortable on some level, although he kept asking me out, so I obviously didn’t repulse him. After the third really awkward and uncomfortable date, I gave up.
The other Dave and I hit it off really, really well, but one friend of mine decided he was in the closet when after 3 dates he hadn’t made any sort of a move on me, although we obviously enjoyed each other’s company. However, unless the whole thing was a really elaborate hoax, he turned out to be quite non-gay; after he did a complete flip-out (which even he acknowledged; it’s also described in an old thread), he was one of the ones who turned out not to be over his ex. I though what the heck, we have a lot in common, let’s be friends, and he agreed. But after a number of months of really bizarre back-and-forth, are we friends or are we dating? stuff, it was beginning to leave me really confused. And let’s just say that I tend to give up on a guy after he (unprompted) offers to help me move, and then disappears off the face of the Earth (although he lives three blocks from me), never to be heard from again.
And well, I don’t think anyone reading this thread can literally confirm firsthand that I’m not a man, but a few can confirm that if I’m not, I’m one helluva convincing transvestite.
My boyfriend is a computer guy named Dave. Seriously.
Mind if I use your thread to air a few of my own gripes on this front Eva?
To men who don’t like/want kids—I mention my sons at least a half-dozen times in my profile. Stop replying to me, it makes you look stupid.
To men who want slender or toned women–I flat out say that, while physically active, I’m nowhere near slender. Stop replying to me, especially when your profiles are actually good, because as soon as I see that I feel totally inadequate.
To men who live five states away–Really, what the fuck are you thinking?
To almost all the men–simple probability theory negates the possibility that each and every one of you makes $75,000–100,000 a year. You aren’t fooling anyone.
To the one guy who winked at me, had a really great background spelled out in his profile, was pretty damn attractive, and close to my age–The fact that you wrote “LOL” after every second sentence blew it. Seriously, how annoying is that?
To the men who can’t spell, punctuate, or write complete sentences----Step away from the computer. Do it now, do it for the good of all mankind. Thank you.
And finally–To the big fat biker who admits to eating like a pig and never exercising–the fact that you say “no heavyset women” is deliciously ironic. Oh, and I especially liked the condition of “If you’ve ever dated a black man, don’t bother replying”. You are a vile, vile man.
No typos ever, perfect syntax, flawless logic (and yet you are troubled by some things)and you’re constantly trying to rid yourself of computer programmers named Dave. Are you Sure you’re not a HAL9000 …? 
So basically, if you make moves on a woman on the first or second date, you are a sex craved creep, but if you don’t make moves, your a closet homosexual?
I’m glad I don’t date, I am sure most people think I am gay because the front of my pants don’t ballon out everytime I see an attractive woman too, so I guess it is a moot point.
I didn’t say I believed that, and for the record, the friend who did is a guy. (It was also somewhat tongue-in-cheek.) Of course, he’s Mr. All Talk, No Action and basically won’t go for a cup of coffee with a woman until he believes she’s his soul mate, but that explains why he is single and is definitely a rant for another day.
Is it just me, or does that sound kind of hot?
I’ve never filled out one of those profiles–do you choose your descriptions from a list, or do you type in your own?
I’d hate it if my only options were “a few extra pounds” or “large.” Especially if it was universally assumed that “large” meant “huge.” I’m fat, to be sure, but I’m quite active. But I’m not that fat, in any case. I wouldn’t want to put “a few extra pounds,” because that’s false, but I’d be really reluctant to put down something that implied that I needed 2 seats on an airplane, because I’m nowhere near that big. (Do they have an option for “Samoan?”) So what should someone put?
Generally it’s multiple-choice, but every time I’ve clicked on a profile of a guy who listed “a few extra pounds,” it was, to put it kindly, more than a few extra pounds. You pretty much end up with the size equivalent of grade inflation. Myself, I wouldn’t mind losing 10 lbs., but I’m afraid that if I put “a few extra pounds” everyone will assume I mean 100. So I put “average,” which in America means “a few extra pounds” anyway.
Would this be a good time to mention that my most recent correspondent was a guy, who once again either didn’t read or didn’t give a damn about my profile, because he is also in his late 40s, lists nothing whatsoever that I would have in common with him, but the kicker is that he lives in friggin’ HAIFA?
Take it as flattery. Your profile is so damn appealing that men lose all track of reason and email you even when they live nowhere near you.
(Speaking of which, to really comment on your profile and its effect on men, I think we need a link… 
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I know, sweetie - that’s why I said “I hear you”.
You’re perfectly entitled to your own preferences. I just personally don’t get the whole “the man has to be bigger than the woman” thing. O.K., back in caveman times, I can understand that you’d want someone who can fight off saber-toothed tigers and all, but in this day and age…?
I also don’t get the hair phobia. Men have more hair than women; it’s just a fact. And yes, it often grows out our ears, on our chest and abdomen, our butts, and [gasp], even our backs. It’s natural. Of course, I don’t get men’s hair phobia either. I hear guys say, “Ewww, did you see that chick? She had hair on her pits.” Yeah, just like all women do. And not that I ever looked at one of those magazines (cough, cough), but what’s with the little shaved racing stripe of hair down there below the waist? You’re supposed to have hair - why are we so afraid of it? YMMV.
FWIW, I do trim the hair out of my ears.
Well, even if I could access it from here (which I can’t; I think they have the page blocked), I think I still prefer to maintain some semblance of control over who can connect the dots between all my various identities. Heck, I don’t even have my e-mail posted on my profile here, though I’ve been known to e-mail people on request for various reasons. Sorry
(Although if anyone here who’s read a few of my posts found it, they’d figure me out pretty quickly.)
Well, maybe if all you women stop asking for minimum incomes of $50K or $75K, we’ll stop lying!
elmwood ($35,000-$50,000)
Blame it on “society.”
As a guy, I like women to look like … well, women. When women are very hirsute, it feels as if … well, I know she’s not, but it feels as if she’s kind of a guy, especially if she doesn’t shave her pits or legs. Women with moustaches … we’re not talking whisps of hair like some Mediterranean or Latin women have, but full-blown moustaches … well, I can’t help but think of some state trooper named Ed or something.
I don’t think all men require porn star-style pubic hair shaving jobs, but when it’s ungroomed, wild and free, cunnilingus can be quite a challenge.
Sure. You’re right. I lived in Italy just as puberty was kicking in, so the idea of armpit hair on a woman doesn’t bother me. Though I have to admit, the first time I noticed it, I thought the woman I was looking at was a mutant! Hair on legs does bother me. Go figure.
I agree with what Giraffe said, these guys are responding because of your picture. Most of them don’t even read the profiles.
I put a profile on Emode matchmaker several months ago for fun, and I’ve gotten tons of responses from men who don’t have one thing in common with me. In fact, most of them are the opposite of what I’d look for in a guy.
Maybe you should try eHarmony. It’s expensive, but I’ve heard it’s much better than most of the freebie dating sites out there.
East side of Cleveland eh? I’m a few miles east of you.
5’11" and 140 lbs, gained 10 lbs in the past year.
oh, BTW, I’m 45.