7 questions about crying

In My Humble Opinion
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Answer all 7 if you can, Thanx. :slight_smile:

**Are you embarrassed to cry in front of your friends?

When is the last time you cried because of PHYSICAL pain? :frowning:

When is the last time you cried, period? :frowning:

Would you think less or more of a man who cried because of physical pain? :frowning:

When kids cry does it make you feel sorry for them so you give them their way? :frowning:

Do you feel sad when other people cry? :frowning:

Have you ever cried in order to get your ** way within the last 5 years? :frowning:

Why did this come up? Well, because we talked about crying at school and during Math period if you can believe that. How did we go from Algebra to emotions? I don’t know, I really don’t. :dubious:

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Not particularly, though it doesn’t happen very often.

Not since I was a little kid. I’ve had some narsty injuries since then, but never cried from pain. Copious profanities and moaning, yes.

I cried a little bit when I got fired from a job I really liked a few months ago. That was more pissed-off-how-could-those-fuckers-do-that-to-me crying than sad crying, though. Before that I don’t remember, as I don’t really keep track of it.

Honestly I would think it a bit weird, but I wouldn’t think less of the person. Adrenaline does weird things to people.

That depends if it’s “legitimate” crying, e.g. the kid has been hurt or scared, or if it’s just a tantrum. I’ve found that once you get to know the kid it’s quite easy to tell the difference.

If it’s someone I care about, yes, definitely. If it’s some random dude, not so much.

Certainly not.

One time in my eighth grade algebra class we spent the entire period talking about New Kids on the Block.

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Are you embarrassed to cry in front of your friends?

A little bit. I try very, very hard not to.

**When is the last time you cried because of PHYSICAL pain? :frowning: **

Not since I was very small… I’m a bit of a klutz, so I had to get used to pain. :wink:

**When is the last time you cried, period? :frowning: **

Two days ago, after my mother wrote to me to tell me my brother had hit a moose. He and his friend made it out perfectly fine, my brother has a few scratches and bruises, and the car is a write-off. I didn’t cry until about 20 minutes after I’d read the message and it finally sunk in, and then it was tears of relief.

**Would you think less or more of a man who cried because of physical pain? :frowning: **

Well… my father never, ever cries. The one time he did cry, it was because of physical pain: he had the worst case of gallstones the doctors had ever seen. He almost didn’t survive. They say he’s in the texts now. So when he cried, I didn’t lose any respect for him, I just thought that it must have been incredible pain. I think it depends on the man, and the pain. I mean, if a man cries over every paper cut he gets, ah… I might wonder. But I would if a woman did, too.

**When kids cry does it make you feel sorry for them so you give them their way? :frowning: **

I feel awful - but I don’t give them their way. It’s really another “depends” question. If the child is hurt, scared, etc, then I will be the first one there to comfort. Just whining, though, I’d rather not spoil them to death.

**Do you feel sad when other people cry? :frowning: **

Always. Can’t help it. I don’t have to know what they’re crying about, it could be the most petty thing, but if they’re crying, I feel sad.

Have you ever cried in order to get your way within the last 5 years?

No.

**Why did this come up? Well, because we talked about crying at school and during Math period if you can believe that. How did we go from Algebra to emotions? I don’t know, I really don’t. :dubious: **

I can go from algebra to emotions very quickly! I hate maths so much! :mad: :mad:

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Are you embarrassed to cry in front of your friends?
Yes. I wouldn’t do it.

When is the last time you cried because of PHYSICAL pain?
When I was a kid.

When is the last time you cried, period?
When my fiance went home. (Long distance relationship)

**Would you think less or more of a man who cried because of physical pain? **
Neither. I just give him a hug.

When kids cry does it make you feel sorry for them so you give them their way?
Depends on the circumstances

**Do you feel sad when other people cry? **
Only one person.

Have you ever cried in order to get your way within the last 5 years?
Nope

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Are you embarrassed to cry in front of your friends?

No.

**When is the last time you cried because of PHYSICAL pain? **

A few weeks ago, recovering from surgery.

**When is the last time you cried, period? **

Lastweek, when some of y’all were mad at me.

**Would you think less or more of a man who cried because of physical pain? **

No.

**When kids cry does it make you feel sorry for them so you give them their way? **

No.

Do you feel sad when other people cry?

Yes.

Have you ever cried in order to get your way within the last 5 years?

Nope.

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Are you embarrassed to cry in front of your friends? Yes.

When is the last time you cried because of PHYSICAL pain? About a month ago when my crappy college-provided chair broke and I hit my head on an open drawer behind me. But no one was around, so it’s all right.

When is the last time you cried, period? Saturday, May 7. In the morning I cried because I realized I had lost my flute (I did get it back a week later, but it was scary), and that night I watched a sad movie.

Would you think less or more of a man who cried because of physical pain? It wouldn’t change my opinion of him.

When kids cry does it make you feel sorry for them so you give them their way? No, but it can make me so fed up with listening to them cry that I give them their way.

Do you feel sad when other people cry? Yes.

Have you ever cried in order to get your way within the last 5 years? Probably, but I can’t remember, and if I could I wouldn’t admit to it.

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Are you embarrassed to cry in front of your friends?

No, but it only happens rarely, so it’s not really an issue.

**When is the last time you cried because of PHYSICAL pain? **

Last time I remember was when I broke my collar-bone when I was 8. I was never a crier when it came to physical pain, so my parents knew there was really something wrong with me.

**When is the last time you cried, period? **

In March, when I had to leave my fiance’s apartment to come back to Boston (he lives in St. Louis)

**Would you think less or more of a man who cried because of physical pain? **

Depends on what kind of pain, I guess. I would think it odd that ANY grown person, male or female, would really cry if they skinned their knee. Really bad pain, it wouldn’t be odd - like if they got badly burned or a broken bone (are we counting the watery eye effect - when you’re not really crying, but something stings or hits the right nerve to make your eye water? Because I’m not counting that in my answer).

**When kids cry does it make you feel sorry for them so you give them their way? **

Only if they’re hurt or actually sad. If they’re using crying as a tool to get their way, I don’t feel sorry.

**Do you feel sad when other people cry? **

Usually, yes. I don’t like to see my friends sad or hurt.

**Have you ever cried in order to get your way within the last 5 years? **

Not conciously, that I know of. Unconciously, maybe, but I never thought to myself, “hey, maybe if I cry, I’ll get my way!”

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Are you embarrassed to cry in front of your friends?

Not so much embarrassed, but too proud to allow it.

**When is the last time you cried because of PHYSICAL pain? **

Really don’t know, had to be as a kid.

**When is the last time you cried, period? **

A month ago at my brother’s funeral, well actually I think I got the serious crying out of the way at the viewing. I might not have cried much on the day of the funeral.

**Would you think less or more of a man who cried because of physical pain? **

I don’t think it would affect how I thought of him. If he was someone I respected I would still respect him, if I thought he was a total dork I would still think he was a total dork, if thought he was out to get me I would think the tears were part of some devious plot.

Now if I didn’t know him well enough to have already formed an opinion prior to the crying incident, I would probably apply my own standards in judging whether or not the crying could have been avoided. Not very nice to judge someone else’s tears but that’s probably how it would go.

**When kids cry does it make you feel sorry for them so you give them their way? **

If they’re crying specifically because they haven’t gotten their way? No. Don’t feel sorry, don’t give in. However, I do just about melt when I see a kid with a legitimate reason to cry.

Do you feel sad when other people cry?

Someone I know and care about? Yup. Someone I know and dislike? Nope (there are very few people who I actually dislike). Someone who I don’t know? Honestly, I’ve got days when I can feel empathy and days when I’m just too wrapped up in myself. Get me on an empathy day? Yup.

Have you ever cried in order to get your way within the last 5 years?

No! But this leads to what I would consider a worthwhile follow up question:

On several occasions I have been EXTREMELY disappointed to find that I woman who I otherwise respect- I’m not talking in hypotheticals I mean independent educated professional accomplished women I have know- who have cried upon getting pulled over for a traffic violation. I HATE THIS and my opinion of these women IMMEDIATELY drops when I found this out.

Doesn anyone, women and men welcome to share, want to admit to having cried to get out of a ticket?

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Are you embarrassed to cry in front of your friends?

Not embarassed, really. I just hate to get that emotional in front of anyone.

When is the last time you cried because of PHYSICAL pain?

I can’t even remember. Must have been when I was a kid. I have a high tolerance for pain. A few weeks ago my brother and I were moving a cabinet. The countertop must have weighed 75 pounds. He dropped it on my finger. I saw stars, and I said a few words that even I didn’t know I knew, but I didn’t cry.

When is the last time you cried, period?

Yesterday. I was pissed off beyond belief, and I cry when I’m angry.

Would you think less or more of a man who cried because of physical pain?

Neither.

When kids cry does it make you feel sorry for them so you give them their way?

If a kid is crying because he isn’t getting what he wants, no sympathy from me. However, if they’re crying because they’re hurt, or upset, then yes. Good example: I was helping my mother in her head start class. One little boy stole another boy’s birthday sticker, and ripped it in half. The second boy just turned and looked at us with the biggest, saddest eyes, tears just streaming down his face. Broke my heart. Wanted to buy the kid a whole box of stickers.

Do you feel sad when other people cry?

Depends on why they’re crying, I guess, and how well I know them. Pictures of grieving parents or spouses will always hit me, and if my mother cries, it’s guaranteed to hit some really deep nerve in me.

Have you ever cried in order to get your way within the last 5 years?

Nah. I couldn’t even cry my way out of a ticket. Of course, both times I’ve been pulled over, it was a female cop, so I’m sure it wouldn’t have helped me anyway :wink: I hate crying, I’m certainly not going to do it on purpose, and especially not to be manipulate a situation.

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Are you embarrassed to cry in front of your friends?
Nope, stuff happens.

When is the last time you cried because of PHYSICAL pain?
When I was little. I tend to scream or vomit or faint in response to severe pain.

When is the last time you cried, period?
Depends what you mean by “cried”, I teared up watching the last episode of Veronica Mars, but the last time I actually cried would be the last time I fought with irishfella. About 6 weeks ago probably.

Would you think less or more of a man who cried because of physical pain?
Medical student hat on…most people in severe pain don’t cry because of the pain, they cry because of the shock. It’s a physiological side effect to having your body flooded with adrenaline. Some people cry, some pass out, some vomit, some scream, some shake. Different strokes for different folks. No value judgements.

When kids cry does it make you feel sorry for them so you give them their way? No. If you give in they don’t learn any better. If they’re not crying because they’re scared or hurt, they don’t get sympathy from me.

Do you feel sad when other people cry?
Yes, of course. Who doesn’t?

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Have you ever cried in order to get your way within the last 5 years?**
No.

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Are you embarrassed to cry in front of your friends? Yes, also strangers and relatives. When I was a kid, I was so tough nobody ever saw me cry, but since I’ve had kids of my own, I’ve become a total weenie.

When is the last time you cried because of PHYSICAL pain? I don’t recall, probably not since I was little.

When is the last time you cried, period? Depends how you define it. I got tears in my eyes a few minutes ago reading Mangetout’s post in the pit about his wife’s miscarriages. I get tears in my eyes whenever I’m moved or frustrated enough, let’s say several times a day. Sobbing? The funeral of a friend four months ago.

Would you think less or more of a man who cried because of physical pain? I don’t think my opinion of the person would change either way (unless he was being a pussy about stubbing his toe or something.) I’d probably think, “Damn, guy’s in serious pain.”

When kids cry does it make you feel sorry for them so you give them their way? Are you joking? I tell my kids that if they’re crying, I must be doing something right. I’m a mean mother.

Do you feel sad when other people cry? Frequently.

Have you ever cried in order to get your way within the last 5 years? I wouldn’t put it just that way, but during an argument with my husband (ex-husband) a few years ago, I allowed my tears of frustration free rein because he would not speak to me and I wanted him to know that I was affected. He didn’t give a shit.

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Are you embarrassed to cry in front of your friends?
Nope. My friends are a touchy-feely lot. We all cry in front of each other just fine.

**When is the last time you cried because of PHYSICAL pain? :frowning: **
When I sprained my ankle a few months ago. But it was a very different type of crying, and thanks to irishgirl, now I know why.

**When is the last time you cried, period? :frowning: **
Tuesday, taking an infant CPR course at my daughter’s hospital. She’s stopped breathing before, and so at a few points during the course I got rather overwhelmed and weepy. It was OK, though, because the other students were all parents of babies in intensive care, so they totally understood.

The last time I was sobbing uncontrollably was February 9, 2005 at 2:45PM when I was told my daughter needed to be removed via C-section at 23 weeks and might not live. That was a deep, deep, sobbing, accompanied by literal begging: “No, God, please no, don’t do this!” I’m getting a little teary remembering it. But she’s coming home from the hospital today, so it’s all good. I expect to cry again as we’re leaving with her!

**Would you think less or more of a man who cried because of physical pain? :frowning: **
No, neither more nor less. And that goes for any type of crying, physical or emotional. My husband cries at movies all the time - much more often than I do. I sort of envy him the emotional release, actually.

When kids cry does it make you feel sorry for them so you give them their way? :frowning:
Absolutely not. In fact tears and whining are the best way to ensure they won’t get their way. I will accept reasoned debate, additional facts or reasoned pleas, and have been known to change my mind as a result of those. Tears, no way.

**Do you feel sad when other people cry? :frowning: **
Not really. I feel compassionate, I want to help them if I can. But tears are simply a symptom of their own inner process, and it’s not my responsibilty to stop that. I’d rather hold a safe space and give them whatever time they need to deal wth their stuff.

Have you ever cried in order to get your way within the last 5 years?
Nope.

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Are you embarrassed to cry in front of your friends?
I haven’t done it in a long time, so I don’t know. Depends on the cause of the crying, I guess.

When is the last time you cried because of PHYSICAL pain?
Geez, a long time ago. I’m in the “copious profanities and moaning” crowd.

When is the last time you cried, period?
Monday.

Would you think less or more of a man who cried because of physical pain?
I don’t think I’d think less of him, but I would find it unusual. It’s not something adults seem to do - they’re more of the profanities crowd too.

When kids cry does it make you feel sorry for them so you give them their way?
I’ve only had experience with my niece, who’s one and a half. When she cries, there’s generally a reason for it - she’s fallen down and bonked her head, she’s hungry, that sort of thing. So in those cases, I do all I can to make it better - she’s little, after all. She’s just now learning that crying can be an effective tool to get her way, but hasn’t seemed to use it too much. We do make concessions that we probably normally wouldn’t when we’re eating out in restaurants, however. That said, I’m pretty confident that her parents will raise her right.

**Do you feel sad when other people cry? **
Yes, I do.

Have you ever cried in order to get your way within the last 5 years?
No.

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Ok, I’ll be the stereotypical male.

**Are you embarrassed to cry in front of your friends?
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They would never let me forget it. Well, maybe if I were incredibly drunk, they’d eventually stop telling the story to strangers. Maybe. But I’d do the same to them. That’s just how we are.

**When is the last time you cried because of PHYSICAL pain?
**
Never, but I haven’t really been in that much physical pain. Never been to the hospital, no surgery, rarely even been sick.

**When is the last time you cried, period?
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A few years ago. And this is the first anyone’s ever heard of it.

Would you think less or more of a man who cried because of physical pain?

Depends. If the pain was severe, then absolutely not. But if a man sprains his ankle and bursts into gasping choking sobs, I’d probably think less of him.

When kids cry does it make you feel sorry for them so you give them their way?

Not really. If they’re actually hurt, of course, I feel sympathy. Tantrums make me want to take all their toys away.

Do you feel sad when other people cry?

A woman crying can be a difficult thing to take, especially if it’s your damn fault.

Have you ever cried in order to get your way within the last 5 years?

Never.

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Are you embarrassed to cry in front of your friends?
I’m embarassed about crying in general. Since I generally fight tears as much as I possibly can, if I’m all-out bawling in front of my friends, I’m past the point of caring (if it’s just a little wetness I get really embarassed though, especially since they then get all worried about me)

When is the last time you cried because of PHYSICAL pain? :frowning:
Never, that I can recall.

**When is the last time you cried, period? :frowning: **
Week and a half ago. I had to ask my parents for money, which I hate doing, and got really upset about it.

**Would you think less or more of a man who cried because of physical pain? :frowning: **
Probably not.

**When kids cry does it make you feel sorry for them so you give them their way? :frowning: **
It’s been too long since I’ve been around a crying kid to comment on this one. I suspect the answer is yes.

**Do you feel sad when other people cry? :frowning: **
Sympathetic, yes. Sad, no.

Have you ever cried in order to get your way within the last 5 years?
No.

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1.) My friends probably assume I don’t have tear ducts.
2.) About 16 months ago. I slipped a disc in my back, and the back spasms were so bad they knocked me to my knees and…well, made me cry.
3.) See #2.
4.) I didn’t think less of my dad when he was crying from when he had a slipped disc in his neck. Maybe it was because I could empathize.
5.) Like others have said, it depends why they’re crying. If it’s a tantrum, no. If it’s a skinned knee, probably not. If it’s a legitimate reason, definately.
6.) Eh, not really.
7.) Nope.

Wow, I’m quite the unfeeling bastard.

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Crying? :dubious:
There’s no crying in baseball… :smiley:
Seriously though. I don’t cry. Not at sad movies, not at weddings, not at funerals… Not on a boat, not with goat, not on a train, not in the rain. I just don’t.

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Oddly enough I was just wondering about your second question the other day, that is when I stopped crying because of physical pain. Of course I used to as a child but now whatever responses pain engenders in me, the urge to cry is definitely not one of them. Excluding the loss of a loved one I would never cry for myself and would certainly think less of any man who did though I would not think less of a woman who did. (sexist?) People who cry to get their own way elicit no sympathy from me but tears born of emotional pain will always cause my eyes to well up in empathy. If someone tears up in empathy of another it is never embarassing and makes me think more of the person.

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Are you embarrassed to cry in front of your friends?
Having never done it, I wouldn’t know, but I assume I would be.

When is the last time you cried because of PHYSICAL pain?
Probably when I broke my collar bone when i was 10.

When is the last time you cried, period?
…Honestly, I’m not sure. Odds are, I was cry-free from when I broke my collar bone until May of 2003, when I think I might have had a tiny bit when I had to break up with my GF. Wow, that’s ten years of no crying. Also, I haven’t cried since then, either.

Would you think less or more of a man who cried because of physical pain?
Like others said, something like a paper cut, I might think less of them, like they are just trying to get people to sympathize with them a little too much, but something that is clearly a lot of pain, no.

When kids cry does it make you feel sorry for them so you give them their way? never had to be in a situation where I was the one respnsible for a kid. So if a kid cries, I usually just get annoyed that the parenst/babysitter/whoever can’t get them to stop. But odds are, no. Usually, if a child has a legitimate reason to cry, there’s not much one can do to let them have their way, as a legitimate crying is from injury or sadness, not getting a new toy.

Do you feel sad when other people cry?
No, not really. More than anything else I am annoyed and angry. I am not emotional at all, and I am crappy at talking to people who are and hate doing it. So if they are crying and I am around, I get annoyed that I have to talk to them when they are all emotional and not completly rational. I’m bad at it, too, so usually I can’t get them to stop and get even more frustrated.

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Have you ever cried in order to get your way within the last 5 years?**
No.

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Are you embarrassed to cry in front of your friends?

Yes, I hate it. I did it ten years ago, never again. Stupid ex-fiance.

**When is the last time you cried because of PHYSICAL pain? **

Whenever I get a fever, I cry, even though I don’t cry from any other pain. So that would be last winter.

**When is the last time you cried, period? **

Last night. Worn out and tired and depressed. Very unlike me. I think the time I cried before that was last winter when I had my fever.

**Would you think less or more of a man who cried because of physical pain? **

Not at all. Dad cried after he had his heart attack and I thought he was strong and wonderful. Still do.

When kids cry does it make you feel sorry for them so you give them their way?

No. Just gives me the oogies when I have to wipe their noses.

**Do you feel sad when other people cry? **

No, just uncomfortable. Usually I will try to hold them.

Have you ever cried in order to get your way within the last 5 years?

Not since I was five, and it didn’t work then. Mom was stern but fair.