And what do you think of people who cry easily?
I’ve cried easily my whole life and my whole life my mother has told me it’s shameful and disgusting to show your emotions. Obviously this has given me quite the complex. I’ve gotten over it somewhat, I don’t cry easily anymore, but when I do, I can’t help it.
I mean legitimate tears, too, not whiny tears. For example, someone just told me about their neighbor’s 20 YO daughter committing suicide. When she got to the part about the mother finding the body, I could picture it only too well and felt my eyes pricking.
That’s really the problem. I can put myself in others’ shoes way too well. But now I’ve got this thing where I try so hard to hide my crying that I fear I may end up looking callous. When I have arguments with my SO I bite it back so hard that it hurts, and only lately he told me while he doesn’t want me crying every time we argue he doesn’t want me to bury my emotions either, but to express them. So now I kind of have to train myself back the other way. He never asked me to stop, by the way, but sometimes I have trouble communicating because of the tears.
I know there are others who cry easily on the boards. Are you guys ashamed/embarrassed of it? Those of who don’t cry easily, what does it make you feel when others do? My coworkers are two tough-as-nails people who tease people and make fun of them for crying so I bite it back all the time in front of them, even though we are in a job that might make you cry sometimes (nfp to save premature babies).
Hope this is coherent. I’m a little embarrassed even to be posting it, actually.